There is no second child, the heart is in a hurry, having a second treasure to be a companion for the child, it is also very good. However, there are also mothers who have given birth to a second child who cry late at night: Don't give birth to a second child like me. Whether to have a second child, but also depends on their own family situation, not suitable for the birth of a family to have a second child, even if it is regret is too late, after all, the child can not be returned.
Liu Jie is the mother of an 11-year-old girl, after the second child was released, the mother-in-law has been urging her to have a second child, and the whole family hopes that she will have a boy. Liu Jie's health is not very good, she has been conditioning in the Chinese Medicine Hospital, and then she is finally pregnant. The mother-in-law and husband called out to the child in her belly every day, the eldest grandson, the eldest son, as if they knew that this child must be a boy.
Later, because Liu Jie was an elderly woman, there were many complications in the third trimester, and her blood pressure and blood sugar were quite high, so she chose caesarean section. The child was born, was it a girl, or a premature baby, inside the incubator.
When the mother-in-law heard that her daughter-in-law had given birth to a girl, she actually cried outside the delivery room, saying that her life was too bitter and that the family would die. The husband heard the doctor say that it was a girl, twisted her face and walked out of the hospital.
Not long after being discharged from the hospital, Liu Jie divorced, because her husband basically did not stay home during the month, and her mother-in-law did not serve her confinement. She returned to her mother's house alone with her two daughters and did not go back. At the time of the divorce, the husband's two daughters did not fight for custody, and both children followed their mothers.
It is said that women have children is the most testing of husbands, but the cost of having children to test a person is also too high. Liu Jie's greatest regret is not to divorce her husband, but to divorce after giving birth to her second child, and she can't give her two daughters a life like other children, so that they can suffer with themselves.
The encounter of having a second child in order to give birth to a boy, the son not being born, and the marriage broken, is simply desperate. Therefore, when we have the first child, maybe we are not yet mature, and when we have a second child, we must stay awake. If your family has these states, it is not suitable for having a second child.
In order to have a son or to have a daughter, it was decided to have a second child
I think that the parents who give birth to a first child may still be relatively young, and the parents who have a second child should be older and more mature in their minds. Everyone will have the desire to have both children, parents of daughters want to have a son, parents with sons want to have a daughter, this kind of gender expectation for the second child can be, but not too high expectations.
The mother is pregnant and has a baby, the ratio of having a boy to a girl should be about the same, if you plan to have a second child, be prepared for the worst, I just want this child, whether he is a boy or a girl. Pinning your hopes on the second child, when you are disappointed, it is also unfair to the child.
Therefore, the purpose of wanting a second child is not simple, especially parents who are eager to have a son or a daughter, do not have a second child if they cannot bear the consequences.
Elderly women, who are not in good health, will also have a second child
It is also strange to say that among the people who have two or three children, there are not many young people, and there are many elderly women over the age of 40. They estimate that because the previous policy did not allow them to have a second child, they have now suddenly erupted a "second child tide".
In response to the call of the state, it is also good to have another child, but the risk of older maternal child-rearing itself is large, and we should first be responsible for the mother's body before considering having a child. If your body is not good, the child you are pregnant with may not be healthy enough.
Then there is the fact that the child is born safely, and the mother also has the task of raising the child, if you can't even take care of your own body, it is irresponsible to bring the child into the world. Therefore, people who are too old and have bad health are not suitable for having a second child.
Families with poor economic conditions insist on having a second child
Having children has nothing to do with having more money or less money, and the right to have children is not only for rich people, but it is a fact that it costs a lot to raise children. Whether our own economic conditions are good or not, we know best, if it is difficult to raise a child, we should not have a second child to increase our burden.
Obviously, I don't have time to have a child, but I have to have a second child
Is it not that many elderly people are urging you to have a second child, saying: "Birth, you don't have time to bring, we help you bring." "Many young people are moved, have children, and grow up with their grandparents. The companionship and education of mom and dad is irreplaceable by anyone, and I think if you plan to have two children, you must be mentally prepared to bring two children yourself. It is very irresponsible to give the child to the grandparents to take, if you know that there is no time to take the child, it is better not to give birth.
Choose a lifestyle that suits you, one child, two children are not important, and educating your children well is the real success.