01
The topic of marriage promotion, every New Year's Day, is the most mentioned, after all, for parents, seeing their children start a family, they have a marriage in their hearts.
But marriage is not a child's play, it is related to the happiness of a lifetime, and it cannot be casually matched. In case the child is not happy in the future, the adult will definitely feel bad in his heart.
In short, for the matter of marriage promotion, I think it should be the result of a two-way choice. Parents can urge, but also in a way that the child is happy to accept, do not let them have some extreme thoughts, otherwise, the consequences will be really unimaginable at that time.
Around me, there are also many cases of marriage urging, some of them have indeed been able to find a partner who can hold hands for a lifetime under the arrangement of their parents, while some people are still confused and do not know what they want.
In fact, for everyone, we should have a general life plan of our own, when to get married, when to buy a house, to have a rough deadline, and to strive towards this goal, after all, with a goal, when we do things, we also have motivation.
Combined with the cases of those around me, I summarized several ways to deal with marriage urging.
02
Speak your mind and don't argue with your parents
Many children, as soon as they face their parents' urging to marry, they feel very irritable, they will feel that their parents are nagging, these things are these things all day, and they will have a resistance in their hearts.
In fact, in the face of your parents' marriage offensive, you can completely change your attitude, there is no need to work with them all the time, the more you work against each other, then the relationship with your parents will be worse.
On the contrary, you have to tell your parents the truest thoughts in your heart, try to let them understand what you are thinking now, and strive to make them stand on the united front with you, even if you can't stand on the same front, you must win their sympathy, and it is best to let them no longer urge marriage.
In fact, we are all adults, and we all have our own ideas about many things.
Sometimes, the reason why I have been single or not married is only because I have not met the right person, and once I meet the right person, in fact, marriage is also a matter of minutes.
Fate is a very wonderful thing, you must believe that marriage is such a thing, the heavens have their own arrangements.
Let your parents give you some time, and good things are not afraid of being late
If your parents always urge you to get married when you come home for the New Year, then in this case, you can ask your parents for a period of grace and tell them: During this time, you will think about your life's events.
Marriage is such a thing, naturally a good thing. Many times the more anxious you are, the easier it is to backfire.
Therefore, letting your parents give you time is not only to reassure your parents, but also to let you have enough time to empty yourself, precipitate yourself, and think about getting married.
If you are not an unmarried person, you should really consider lifelong events when you are 27 or 28 years old, because if the boy is over 30 years old, unless you are particularly good, it will be more and more downhill in the marriage market.
There is actually nothing between parents and children that cannot be communicated, as long as you explain it clearly to him, I believe that parents will understand.
Have a clear understanding of yourself and evaluate yourself objectively
Suppose you only have short black and fat points, and you have to wait for a rich and handsome man to conquer yourself, then it is most likely a waste of time, and you will only reap disappointment in the end.
After knowing ourselves, we also need to constantly improve ourselves so that we can match the ideal confidant.
Marriage is such a thing as paying attention to the right door. Therefore, in the matter of marriage, I hope we can be objective.
Marriage is a long journey, if two people do not have common interests, the three views are different, in the process of travel, contradictions will naturally arise.
If two people do not properly handle these contradictions, marriage as a safe haven will eventually become the center of the storm, and in the long run, it will be physically and mentally exhausting.
Marriage is a very happy thing, and if it becomes a shackle, or becomes a burden, it will put the cart before the horse.
03
In fact, for older young people, the most important thing to do is to improve themselves, let themselves have a stable job, have an independent income, and at the same time keep themselves excellent.
There is a saying that if you bloom butterflies, when you become more and more excellent, you will find that the people you come into contact with are different.
In short, many times in the face of some changes in the outside world, we have no way to change others, what we can do is to change ourselves and give each other a quality lover.
When you become more and more excellent and sparkling, around you are also people of the same level as you.
Marriage should have been the result of a strong union, two people soul fit, independent of each other, have their own career, after marriage towards a goal to move forward, such a life, there is hope, there is a head.
Therefore, in the face of some marriage urging, older young people should not be too anxious, the more anxious the more they can not find the right one, when you can relax the mood, patiently wait, then, sooner or later there will be a day of spring and warm flowers.
At that time, you will feel that marriage is a very happy thing.
Today's Topic:
What should you do in the face of parental urging marriage?
Welcome to leave a comment.