What is a person's emotional stability?
When you are alone, you can keep your heart, and when you are in a group, you can control your mouth.
A person can not look good, may not be outstanding, but must be able to control their emotions.
You will find that those who can control their emotions are not simple.
As Buffett said, "Emotional stability is more important than high INTELLIGENCE." ”
People with high IQs can indeed have abilities that others do not have, find opportunities that others cannot perceive, and are more likely to achieve the ultimate in a certain field.
However, people who are emotionally stable can make a very complex thing exquisite and perfect.
In relationships, emotional stability is more important.
In the process of getting along with the opposite sex, the emotional stability of girls is more important than a beautiful face.
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Emotional stability is the "cultivation" of girls
Recently, I had dinner at a restaurant, during which a girl at the table next door was mad.
It seems that the girl is also in her early 20s, dating with her boyfriend.
Then, after the meal was served, the girl "did not eat coriander", but there was coriander in the meal and a big fight with her boyfriend.
The girl did not hide her anger and boredom at all, threw a tantrum at her boyfriend, and said loudly: "I didn't tell you not to eat coriander many times, didn't you tell the waiter?" ”
It was loud and all the people around were staring at the little couple.
Some people's eyes are incomprehensible and confused, some people's eyes are looking at hilarity, and some people's eyes are dissatisfied and helpless.
And the boy's face was flushed, and he said for half a day: "I told, maybe they forgot, it doesn't matter I help you pick out the coriander." ”
But girls don't want to.
The girl then roared, "You just don't love me, you said many times that you don't eat coriander, can't you even remember this little thing?" ”
After saying that, the girl got up with the bag and left, leaving the boy alone and messy.
I thought that this boy would not get up to chase, but I did not expect that the boy did not hesitate in the slightest, and after checking out, he chased the girl out.
Why is it that emotionally stable girls tend to be more attractive?
From a certain point of view, emotionally stable girls are more cultivated and know how to respect others.
When men and women interact, girls know how to give boys face and how to respect boys.
They will not let the boy get off the stage in public, and they will not trample on the dignity of a boy at will.
On the contrary, their restraint, rationality, and understanding always make boys feel respected by girls.
Such love is fair and equal.
There were two girls.
A girl is reasonable, empathetic, has high emotional intelligence and emotional stability;
The other girl was hysterical, emotional, and lost her temper when she didn't agree.
Which girl will the boy choose to fall in love and get married?
The answer is self-evident.
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Emotional stability is a girl's "bottom line"
What kind of girl can really be emotionally stable?
They themselves are a person with high energy value, high emotional value, and an independent and normal personality and three views.
For them, love is the icing on the cake in life, they never do useless work, and they will not use "gender differences" to find their disadvantages.
At the beginning of a relationship, the girl did not put herself on the "weak side", but kept herself on an equal footing with the boy.
Not humble, not happy or worried, maintaining the most basic rationality and generousness.
And this kind of emotional stability is actually based on the girl's sufficient "bottom line".
It is precisely because this girl has full grasp and confidence, so she will not use her bad temper to force the boy to obey.
Girls who use their hysterical emotions to achieve a certain goal often have less smooth feelings.
When children ask their parents for toys, they are prone to "crying and getting emotional."
Why would a child do this?
At the end of the day, they want to make their parents "soft- by crying," and they understand that "children who cry have sugar."
Seeing the child crying, the parents buy toys for the child and agree to the various requests made by the child.
Therefore, the next time the child wants anything, he will take the lead in blackmailing his parents in the way of "crying and playing".
Isn't a girl of the opposite sex, an emotionally out-of-control girl, like a child asking for toys?
They are hysterical, emotional, crying, spoiled, all kinds of emotionally unstable means, all in order to achieve a certain goal.
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Emotional stability is another kind of empathetic tenderness
I keep telling people:
"No matter who you are in love with, please keep your emotions stable; when you want to lose your temper, ask yourself if it should be worth it." 」
It's not easy for each of us, boys and girls.
For example:
The boy was tired after a hard day and came home from work and lay down on the couch to rest for a few minutes.
At this time, the girl did not look at the boy well, so she poured her own negative emotions on the boy.
The boy was stunned, very aggrieved, and did not dare to return the mouth.
The reason why girls lose their temper is that they are uncomfortable, their hearts are blocked, and they want to vent.
You see, is it worth it? Is it necessary?
One day, the boy will be exhausted by her unreasonable teasing and finally choose to leave.
It's not easy for everyone, it's a "social animal" during the day, and when you get home at night, you have to have a big fight with your partner, which is really unnecessary.
Emotionally stable girls, why are they attractive?
Because of their emotional stability, they can make the boy feel her tenderness, her tolerance and understanding.
And in the bones of boys, they need to be praised, recognized, and dependent.
Whether it is love or friendship, don't you need someone who can tolerate each other, rely on each other, and respect each other?
Controlling one's emotions is one's goodness.
Before you want to lose your temper with someone, think about why the other person should accept your groundless accusations.
You can talk about it, but pay attention to the measure and manner;
It's okay to share, but give each other enough respect.
Don't leave your bad feelings to those close to you, and leave politeness and respect to strangers.
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Are you an "emotionally stable" person?
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