Hello everyone, I'm a can.
How many people don't want to get married but want children?
If there is no mother-in-law relationship, no hand-off treasurer, no complex network of relatives, the personal world is only you and the children, and money, is this life your ideal in the world?
Someone did.
A girl named Li Xueke in Heze, Shandong, decided to give up her marriage at the age of thirty and went to Thailand, looking for the genes of an English man and planning to give birth to a mixed-race child.
The first test tube, the two embryos transferred, both failed.
In the second test tube, the doctor recommended one more transfer, and the result was that all three embryos survived.
Li Xueke did not want to give up, and he injected more than 140 fetal protection needles before and after.
(Li Xueke's test tube memorandum)
When my mother heard the news, she was shocked first, and then strongly opposed:
"It's so difficult for me to take you one, if you don't get married and directly want children, you will be even more difficult, you will suffer social criticism, children will write "My Father" in the future, how to write?"
She was obstinate.
In the later stages of pregnancy, she was often stared at by 3 children with tightness and shortness of breath, and even normal breathing was a luxury.
She often felt that her waist was about to be broken, and she couldn't sleep at night, which was much more difficult than just being pregnant.
Finally surviving until 2019, she gave birth to three children alone in Thailand: 2 sons and a daughter.
I didn't know how to take the child, so I directly invited three aunts.
The aunt is responsible for laundry, cooking, feeding milk powder and other chores.
She is mainly responsible for some high-quality accompaniment, doing interactive games, bathing them, coaxing them to sleep, and so on.
Also because of the arrival of three children, the family's living expenses rose rapidly, up to 100,000 yuan a month.
The child is about to turn 3 years old, she visited a well-known kindergarten in Hangzhou, a child's annual tuition fee is about 350,000 yuan.
She counted the accounts carefully, even if one day she couldn't work.
The wealth accumulated before is enough to raise three children to adulthood.
Someone ridiculed her for not having a husband, saying:
What happened to single moms? What happened to having three babies?
Earn your own money and spend it yourself, put on lipstick, put on makeup, I'm still that pretty little sister.
"I only have children, no husband. And that doesn't mean I'm divorced or married, it's that I don't want to be a housewife yet. ”
Some people even asked her: Why do you want to be a person who is incompatible with society?
"For me, I just chose the way I like to live.
I just want to give all my love to my child. ”
"Hopefully, one day in the future, the kids will ask me where their dad is.
I will still tell my children frankly that I have no regrets about my original choice. ”
Many netizens also began to question: then how to answer Dad's question?
Li Xueke felt that the most important thing in the family was love and responsibility.
Instead of having to be both parents.
"My love is abundant and I have the confidence to make up for the missing part."
In the face of the origin of the father, calmly face everything, and believe in the child's ability to bear, is actually the best solution.
She even feels that today's society is becoming more inclusive and diverse.
"Will it come to that day when they don't think it's a problem at all, just think they have a cool mom?" I'm still looking forward to it. ”
I don't have to wait until that day, I think she's a cool mom now.
Because she has the ability to pay for her choices and dares to be honest with her inner voice, even though it may be too advanced.
In fact, she has not dreamed of marriage.
It's just that her past experiences have really scared her.
Not long after birth, his father betrayed the family and divorced his mother at the age of 3.
When she was 4 years old, her mother sent her to learn dance, and she often hid under the table and cried.
Occasionally, I would cry and beg my father and mother to reunite, but every time I waited for my mother's categorical sentence: No.
(Group photo of Li Xueke and her mother)
From the moment she was sensible, Dad was just a picture on the wall.
This was her initial impression of the marriage.
But it is precisely in such a family that she has learned to be independent and has become more aware of the heavy responsibility of taking care of her mother.
From being a professional model, to opening a model training class in my hometown, to trying to do skin care products on behalf of me later, and even building my own private domain traffic platform.
All of a sudden, wealth freedom was achieved.
It is not that I have never been in love since I became an adult.
But every time I encounter machismo, or lack of responsibility, I can't find my sweetheart.
Since men are not a necessity, low-quality marriages are not as good as high-quality singles.
So she set herself the goal of having a child of her own, like her mother, before she could find the right person to marry.
That's the story at the beginning of the article.
After listening to her story, I understood her choice.
Mo Yan said: It is not too much to fall in love when you are young, and it is not wrong to give up when you are mature.
It is important to be one in knowledge and action, and to have the ability to live your life in the posture you like.
As Li Xueke said:
Where there is any retreat for girls, parents are not retreats, and marriage is not a retreat.
Only your own ability is the greatest confidence, and only economic independence can make the soul stand tall. ”
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I hope that one day, you will have the courage and ability to choose the life you want.
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