Is it that men are unreliable, or is it even more unreliable to raise dolls without a couple?
I don't know when it began, although some women still want to be mothers, but they no longer need love and marriage, "child-free parenting" and "father to keep children" and other concepts gradually emerged, Internet celebrity Li Xueke is a typical representative of them.
Li Xueke, 33 years old, has been raised by her mother alone since her parents divorced since childhood, and her father's role has been in a state of absence during her growth.
Because of her excellent appearance, Li Xueke earned the first pot of gold by being a model when she grew up, and then opened a modeling school, micro-business, and a company, which can be said to be a veritable "creation generation".
However, although Li Xueke has a successful career, but emotionally it has failed one after another, according to her own account, in her 20s, she has talked about several boyfriends, but everyone has some machismo, and even her most basic social social interaction will ask questions and ask questions, making her overwhelmed, and finally these relationships have ended in failure.
Perhaps because of the special growth environment, the lack of father's love from childhood, and the encounter with "scumbags" when he grew up, Li Xueke made up his mind: "At the age of 30, I can't find the right person to marry, so I want to find a way to have children alone." ”
After several turns, at the age of 30, Li Xueke chose to go to Thailand to "buy sperm" and gave birth to Chinese-British mixed triplets.
After giving birth to the baby, Li Xueke did her best to give them a better life: asked 3 aunts to take the children, it cost 100,000 yuan to raise a baby every month, the children's education costs in kindergarten are millions of dollars a year, and they also purchased a 2 million yuan property for each of the children early.
Now that the 3 children are more than 3 years old, both lively and healthy, Li Xueke will often share family dynamics on social media, claiming that she "does not need a man", and now she really takes on the responsibility of raising children alone.
Coupleless baby breeding is sought after, why?
From Ye Haiyang's "buying fine" fight for the second child, to Li Xueke giving birth to three children "one step in place", many women are envious of such a life: there is no contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, strong economic conditions, and cute children to accompany them.
However, the problem of unconventional child-rearing is also very obvious: is it selfish to deprive children of the right to have paternal love? Without a father, will there be problems in the child's growth? In the face of unfriendly public opinion from the outside world, how to protect children?
In this regard, some netizens retorted that "widowed parenting" occurs frequently and the marital status is unstable, so instead of letting children live in such a family environment, "mateless raising children" may be a better choice.
Indeed, in the traditional concept of the mainland, "male lord outside the female lead", the father is the "top pillar" of the family, shouldering the heavy responsibility of supporting the family, but in modern society, people have begun to reflect on the importance of the role of the father in the process of children's growth, and "widowed parenting" has become the object of everyone's condemnation.
In particular, some bao dads basically do not participate in the care and education of their children, which not only makes bao moms bear too much pressure, but also affects the healthy growth of children, and it is precisely because of this that invisibly "mateless baby raising" has become a more ideal choice for some women: "buying sperm and having children" is more reliable than finding a man to marry.
Want to be a "single mom"? Think clearly about these 3 questions in advance
"Mateless baby-raising" looks simple and beautiful, but it is not easy to achieve, and if you are ready to become a "single mother" in this way, it is best to think about it in advance.
First, of course, it is an economic issue.
Whether it is going overseas to "buy sperm and have children", or raising children to grow up, it represents a high cost, Ye Haiyang, Li Xueke can "raise a baby without a couple", the life is happy and harmonious, in the final analysis, they have extraordinary economic strength, after all, spending millions of yuan every year to raise children, the vast majority of families can not afford it.
Second, how to educate your child well alone.
Modern society has long confirmed that the role of father is indeed of great significance to the growth of children, and from a certain point of view, "unseen baby-raising" is actually equivalent to "single-parent family", in order to educate children well, to make up for the lack of paternal love on children's impact, it is not too easy.
Finally, there is the unavoidable question of public opinion.
Since the emergence of the concept of "mateless baby-rearing", it has been controversial, and people's acceptance is very low, although it is gradually improving, but it is still not recognized by most people.
Therefore, if you are ready to "raise a doll without a couple", you must be prepared to face unfriendly public opinion, especially in the process of children's growth, it is likely to be affected by the outside world because of the special family environment, how to minimize the impact of public opinion on the growth of children, but also to consider in advance.
epilogue:
Compared with the traditional concept of "marriage and children", "mateless baby raising" is only a relatively unique life choice.
However, if you are really ready to embark on the road of "dollless raising", you still have to think twice, which may be much more difficult than you think.
Today's topic: What do you think of "doll-free raising"?