Four years ago, unmarried, she "broke with traditional concepts" and decided to become a single mother, going to Thailand to conceive triplets with test tube technology, causing an uproar.
Four years later, she returned to the public eye and mentioned in an interview that she hired 3 aunts to raise her children, which cost 100,000 yuan a month.
What happened to mixed-race babies who were born without fatherly love?
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Recently, some media reported a news of #female models raising 100,000 mixed triplets per month, which caused the attention and heated discussion of many netizens.
The protagonist of the news is called Li Xueke, a model, and she makes such a choice, which has a lot to do with her original family.
When she was 3 years old, her parents divorced, so she grew up living with her mother, and in her impression, there were almost no memories of her father.
When she was 5 years old, she began to learn ethnic dance, and when she grew up, she went to Qingdao to study art school, and her mother could not send her because she was sick, so she had to go to school alone by train and carry luggage.
Because she did not pass the culture class during the art exam and could not go to college, she signed a modeling agency and earned one or two hundred yuan for a performance.
In 2008, in order to work while taking care of her mother, she returned to her hometown from Shanghai to start a summer modeling school.
The early days of the business were very difficult, and her mother sold her only house to support her, and the more than three hundred thousand yuan was all their start-up capital.
In 2013, Li Xueke opened his own company and slowly achieved a career leap. She was completely financially independent, and after experiencing several periods of unsatisfactory relationships, she had the idea of having a child.
After careful consideration, she decided to complete her wish to conceive and have a child by the age of 30.
In the fall of 2018, after visiting Thailand for three months, she selected a medical institution for IVF through an intermediary. Three embryos were implanted at once and all successfully implanted.
In 2019, she successfully gave birth to 3 mixed Chinese-English babies (2 sons and 1 daughter).
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Although the whole process was relatively smooth, she also suffered a lot.
During her pregnancy, in order to save the fetus, she had more than 140 injections of progesterone. She did not dare to tell her mother about this decision, and did not disclose it until after the birth of the child.
She also experienced postpartum depression. At one point I felt like a feeding machine, mechanically repeating the same thing every day. Faced with three children crying in turn, she was helpless.
The scars left by the caesarean section, the damage caused by childbirth and the after-effects all made her feel anxious.
But she never regretted her decision for a moment, believing that since she had given birth to a child, she was 100 percent responsible for them.
Gradually, she was able to take care of her three children with ease. Be both a mom and a dad.
Every month, the children's expenses are about 100,000 yuan, and the cost of 3 aunts is 20,000 yuan.
As the children grow up, she plans to send them to a private kindergarten in Hangzhou, where the annual education fee is about 1 million yuan.
She said: "If I can't make money in the future, it should not be a problem to rely on existing assets to support them both to adulthood, so I have the courage to have three children." ”
Some people think that she is selfish, and without the role of father, the child's growth will be missing.
But she believes that as long as you give your children enough love and material security to make them feel safe enough, you can give your children a complete home.
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Coincidentally, Ye Haiyang, as the CEO of a cosmetics company, is also an unmarried mother of a "single baby".
She spent $500,000 to buy three tubes of sperm from the American Sperm Bank, and in early 2018, she gave birth to a mixed-race daughter, Doris.
No matter where he goes, Ye Haiyang is willing to take his children to see the world. 4-year-old Doris has traveled to many countries, and the cities he has visited in the country are numerous. Ye Haiyang saved the ticket stub of each flight as a memory.
She will tell her child that you are not a necessity of any accident or marriage, that you are the only one born of love that is expected with all your heart.
She once wrote: "Daughter, mother will live like a dream in this life, raising a glass to sunsets, poems and far away." You have to always believe that love can overcome everything, and hope that you can be romantic for life! ”
On February 10 this year, Ye Haiyang announced the good news of the birth of the second child through social platforms.
And the day before she gave birth, she was still working on live broadcasting.
Like Li Xueke just mentioned, Ye Haiyang also needs one person to decorate two corners.
She even gave up the extreme sports she once loved and put safety first. She believes that she is not living alone now, as the pillar of the family, she has to take on the future of her children.
The premise of raising a child by a single parent is not only financial independence, but also to have the ability to resist pressure and a strong heart.
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In recent years, "single birth" has become a hot and sensitive topic.
For this phenomenon, the specific pros and cons are not for the time being, but we can find a commonality in it.
The reason why these single mothers have entered the public eye is that they have a strong economic foundation and a sufficient sense of responsibility.
After childbirth, they are able to assume the material, psychological, and spiritual needs that a "family" should give to the child.
Of course, we are not advocating for this phenomenon. It is only to say that the emergence of this phenomenon must have its breeding soil and underlying logic.
Gu Ailing, the "frog princess" who recently brushed the screen of major media platforms, also grew up in a single-parent family. It is reported that her parents divorced when she was very young.
Her mother Gu Yan worked while carrying a baby, and Gu Ailing was healthy, bright and confident, not only won an offer from Stanford University, but also won a gold medal in the Beijing Olympics, becoming a sports "legend".
It can be seen that in a family, children need more of a loving environment, rather than the empty titles of "father" and "mother".
Some time ago, a video of a husband taking good care of his wife confinement went viral on the Internet.
After his wife gave birth, he worried that her was cold, tied all metal objects (faucets, door handles, etc.) to bandages, and worked hard to learn to take care of the baby.
When Cai Shaofen gave birth to her third child in her 40s, her husband Zhang Jin pushed off her job and accompanied her intimately.
It is said that they will not be unable to afford a babysitter, but three pregnancies, Cai Shaofen's nails are cut by Zhang Jin.
After the baby is born, Zhang Jin is responsible for feeding at night.
In such a warm family environment, how can children not grow up healthily?
The so-called single mother is nothing more than one person playing more roles and taking on more pressure.
If the child grows up in a single-parent household, it is no different when you give him enough understanding and love.
If the child lives in a superficially "sound" family, but is placed in an environment of indifference, lovelessness, and quarrel, it is the child's greatest misfortune.
Don't let the child seem to be surrounded by happiness, but in fact" are "unaccompanied".
They are supposed to be born of love, not a symbol of perfect marriage and an accessory to life.
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