How old are the parents to justifiably ask their sons and daughters-in-law to retire?
In fact, the love of parents and sons is far-reaching. Reasonable and truly love their sons' parents, even if they are older, they will be considerate of their children and not add trouble to their children.
And only those parents who are unreasonable and do not understand the hardships of their children will morally kidnap their children for the elderly at a strong age. Such parents generally find it difficult to get the respect and filial piety of their children.
01, the in-laws have just passed 50 years old, asking for 2,000 pension money
Deng Juan did not expect that her in-laws of the same age as her parents, when her parents were still working hard to earn money for their own pension, they had begun to morally kidnap their sons and daughters-in-law for the elderly, demanding 2,000 yuan of pension money every month.
Deng Juan is an only child and has a slightly better family. Coupled with the fact that her parents have a formal job, deng juan does not need to worry about the pension in the future, so Deng Juan's life before marriage is worry-free, and she has never worried about money.
However, after she married her husband, she found that the suffering she had not suffered for more than twenty years had been waiting for her in her married life. The husband's family is not well-off, and the in-laws do not have a job, and they used to go to the county to do some odd jobs to support themselves.
But since they turned 50 years old, they began to think that they were old and not in good health, and arbitrarily asked their sons and daughters-in-law to retire. For her in-laws' pension requirements, Deng Juan felt ridiculous and sad.
When I was young, I didn't understand things and thought that love was the whole of life. Therefore, even if her parents strongly opposed it, Deng Juan still insisted on marrying her husband with a house upside down.
At that time, she thought very simply, that is, although her husband's family situation was not good, she still relied on her parents to paste the house upside down, but her husband had the ability and was a potential stock, and Deng Juan believed that her husband would realize his dream sooner or later, rather than being pregnant as before.
02, the mother-in-law throws the pot to the daughter-in-law, asking the daughter-in-law to provide for the elderly
But the reality is much crueler than the dream, even if Deng Juan took the 100,000 dowry privately given by her parents after marriage, she was still defeated by the chai rice oil and salt in the marriage.
Because her husband's income is not high, before marriage, his monthly salary is basically handed over to his mother-in-law. When getting married, the mother-in-law can't come up with a penny, and the husband is even more so, so for a long time after marriage, all the expenses of the family are borne by Deng Juan alone.
At the beginning, my husband still insisted on a 5,000 yuan job. But the longer my husband worked, the more his eyes were lower, and then he simply quit his job and stayed at home unemployed.
Although her husband only gave Deng Juan 2,000 yuan a month for living expenses, it was better than nothing, and it was better than not giving a penny. But since he lost his job, all the burden of the family has fallen on Deng Juan alone.
Deng Juan's salary is 7,000 yuan, and she has to pay off the mortgage and support her family, and she is also pregnant, and the obstetric examination and the birth of the child also need a lot of money. Her parents felt sorry for her, so they took the initiative to subsidize their daughter's family for 3,000 yuan per month.
Deng Juan has also repeatedly advised her husband to find a job to support her family first, and then she will have a good opportunity to slowly jump ship later. But the husband is unwilling, thinking that those who work low are not high, and do not match his identity and ability.
In this way, my husband was unemployed for a year as soon as he was unemployed, and during this year, he spent all day at home playing games and playing mobile phones, indifferent to everything at home. Even if Deng Juan gave birth to a child, he was not necessarily anxious.
Therefore, I originally held a belly full of anger for my husband. But now the in-laws and mother-in-law have once again asked them for 2,000 pension money per month, although the money is not much, but the husband is now unemployed at home, is this not a disguised burden and responsibility of Deng Juan?
03, daughter-in-law: Your son still relies on my parents to support 3,000 a month
Deng Juan is naturally unwilling, not that she is not willing to support her in-laws, but the current in-laws, who are not too old, her parents are still working hard to save money for their own pension, what qualifications does the in-laws have to ask their sons and daughters-in-law to retire? You know, when his son got married, his in-laws didn't come out.
Deng Juan refused, believing that at her in-laws' age, she could do some odd jobs to support herself. When the in-laws are older, they will naturally assume the responsibility of support. But not now, now they are small, the husband is unemployed and stays at home, relying on her to support the family, it is too hard.
But the in-laws disagreed, they thought that they had raised their sons, and now that their sons were married and started a family, they should fulfill their obligations to support their parents. It doesn't matter whether the son has a job, but since the daughter-in-law is married to her son, she should be blessed to enjoy the same difficulties and help her son's adoptive parents.
Deng Juan sneered, and her in-laws' faces were really thick, and she even said that she could ask her daughter-in-law to help their sons to provide for their parents. She unceremoniously scolded her mother-in-law: Your son still relies on my parents for 3,000 yuan a month to support himself, what qualifications do you have to ask me to give you a pension?
The husband is very fiercely opposed, he said, whether he has a job is secondary, the key is that his parents have worked hard to raise him, it is not easy, it is reasonable, Deng Juan should help his adoptive parents.
Deng Juan did not say the rest of the words, and directly rejected her husband's moral kidnapping: whose parents raise whom, I have no obligation, and my parents have no obligation.
Deng Juan also wanted to understand that if her husband still insisted on asking her to give her in-laws 2,000 pension money per month, then she did not mind letting her husband get out of the house.
In fact, women are not afraid of men's families being poor, but they are afraid of men's poor hearts. Because men with poor hearts are the most terrible. Such a man does not know how to understand women's hardships, nor does he know how to understand women's good intentions.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Deng Juan should give her in-laws 2,000 pension money per month?
Half-summer commentary: Dissect the emotions of marriage, teach you to read the human nature of the human heart!