In marriage, we all like glue-like feelings, but in the world of feelings, not all the hearts follow my wishes. Some feelings have been like glue for decades, while some feelings are only seven years of itching, and they have already parted ways.
Feelings will be like glue when the relationship is managed well, and if the operation is not good, it will only fail.
Many couples have survived all the difficult days together, but they have been separated when life is comfortable. The promises that were once sworn have also become a lie.
There is a saying: "Men are like onions, when you shed tears and pull it away layer by layer, you find that it is actually heartless." ”
Those who have a heart are tired, and those who have no heart do not matter. Only a woman who truly loves you will shed tears for you through the night.
In fact, women don't have to do this, if men really change their minds about you, there will be the following performance.
01. He's starting to be reluctant to spend time and thought on you
Mu Xin wrote in "Once Upon a Time Slow": "Once upon a time, cars, horses, and mail were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime. In the past, love was very slow, and meeting a person was a lifetime, and it was believed that a person was white-headed to old. ”
In the past, poverty was not perfect, but love could keep its promises; now, in days of ease and abundance, it is difficult to maintain the relationship from beginning to end.
Men, in particular, often have difficulty resisting the temptations from many aspects of life at the beginning of their careers, and shake their initial beliefs.
In the TV series "We All Have to Be Good", the female protagonist and the male protagonist have experienced decades of hard days, but after middle age, they divorced when they had a car and a house.
In fact, she and he were very good, free love, but her parents did not agree to the two people in love, because he was just a poor boy at that time.
However, the power of love was great, and she married him despite her parents' objections. However, the marriage was not as perfect as she had imagined.
After marriage, his career became bigger and bigger, and his money became more and more. So she became a housewife. Take care of the children at home and take care of the housework. He was just busy working outside.
After that, because he was busy at work, he often did not return home at night, and he did not care about the growth of his children... She began to be suspicious of him, always suspecting that he was having an affair. Eventually, she suffered from severe depression. The feelings of the two people have reached the point of divorce.
The man who loves you, no matter how many years he has been married, will care about you in his mouth, think of you in his heart, and take care of you in life; men who do not love you will become cold and perfunctory, as difficult to cover up like cold stones.
Actor Liang Jiahui once said: "A pair of lovers, the first year of two people to drag is love, the next ten years is feelings, if thirty years later you still hold her hand on the street, that is love." 」 ”
True feelings can stand the tempering of time. Those who accumulate in the test of time will hold the hand of the son and grow old with the son.
02. He starts to worry about small things with you
Friend Xiaoxi has been married for 10 years, and her husband Da liang drives a truck and earns a lot. Therefore, Xiao Xi became a full-time housewife, watching the children at home and taking care of the housework.
However, such a quiet and good day was shattered five years after the big light drove the truck. The reason is that Da Liang is having an affair outside, and the woman is a female singer in a bar.
At first, Xiao Xi was also in the clouds, but she felt that Da Liang was different from before, and she was often dissatisfied with her, saying that she was not good at cooking, could not clean up the house, and did not understand the world...
Moreover, he also began to worry about everything with Xiao Xi. For example, Xiao Xi bought a new dress, he would say that Xiao Xi spent money indiscriminately, Xiao Xi did a beauty maintenance, he was so angry that he broke the glass...
Xiao Xi felt more and more inexplicable, until one day, Da Liang forgot to bring his mobile phone to work. Xiao Xi discovers all the secrets in Da Liang's mobile phone.
The two people quarreled, and Da Liang admitted that he had an affair, saying that the woman was a female singer in the bar, and the two people were very compatible, it had been 2 years.
Xiao Xi cried for a long time, and finally, the two went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to go through the divorce procedures. Xiao Xi said that since he no longer loved, there was no need to stay together, so let's make the whole family.
For the man who used to be quiet and good, and suddenly began to compare everything with you, most of them began to have ideas about you and did not like you.
Marriage is like a whetstone in the day, and when polishing the edges and corners of each other's bodies, the original intention is also easy to be destroyed.
In love, not only will it hurt each other's feelings, but it will seriously part ways and run away from each other.
Love is given willingly, willingly as a concession. Instead of guarding you everywhere in your heart and making you suspicious.
03. He starts communicating with you without language
Nietzsche said: "Those who can talk together can grow old together." ”
There is no perfect partner in the world, and all that can be said together is because of love.
Love a person deeply, be willing to confess your heart to him, be willing to communicate with him about the trivialities of the day, and be willing to use language to connect each other's feelings.
However, when a person doesn't love you, the feelings are also cold. He began to ignore you, and even the silence was speechless.
In "No East Asks West", liu Shufen and Xu Bochang's relationship is like this.
Xu Bochang's family was very poor at that time, and he did not have money to study, so it was Liu Shufen who participated in the work to make Xu Bochang study after graduating from college. Xu Bo often promised Liu Shufen to marry after graduation. However, after Xu Bochang graduated, he changed his original intention and began to hate Liu Shufen. Hsuber often ruined the marriage.
However, Liu Shufen could not extinguish her love for Xu Bochang in her heart, and after there was no way, she began to force Xu Bochang to marry with death. Xu Bochang had no choice but to marry Liu Shufen.
However, there is an insurmountable gap between love and unlove. Liu Shufen walked into marriage with a beautiful vision, but passed away with regret in the marriage.
After marriage, Xu Bochang was silent and basically did not communicate with Liu Shufen. This made Liu Shufen extremely embarrassed and painful. He was also indifferent to Liu Shufen, and even if something happened to Liu Shufen at work, he didn't ask.
Liu Shufen was angry and began to blame Xu Bochang to the neighbors, but Xu Bochang did not react to this.
Xu Bo's silence towards Liu Shufen made Liu Shufen worse off than dead.
In a loveless marriage, even if the world is noisy and lively, love is as silent as death. Liu Shufen was forced to be helpless, and finally committed suicide by throwing herself into a well.
In fact, the most terrible thing in a relationship is not quarrel, not deception, but silence. It's that you're indifferent to all my fuss.
In marriage, once there is silence between husband and wife, then love is at a loss.
In a person's life, in the world of feelings, you must have a stable state of mind. Don't go against the original intention, don't shake your heart, don't betray your lover, and the years will be quiet.
epilogue:
Love is originally the embodiment of truth, goodness and beauty, and it is a kind of happiness to be able to bond with each other. Therefore, the tolerance and understanding between husband and wife will achieve a better future for you.
If you hate each other in your days, avoid each other everywhere... One day you will find that your unwillingness to spend time and thought at that time will bring you no time; your original calculations will bring you the pounds of calculations against you; your silence at that time will make you really have no pillow chat people in the future.
I like a saying: "What you do in March and April, there will be results in July and August." ”
Loving each other brings happiness, and resenting each other brings bitterness.
Japanese educator Daisaku Ikeda said: "Marriage is the end of youth and the starting point for a happy life." In order for him to bear good fruit, don't be anxious. Be cautious and have sincerity. ”
Yes, any cup on the wine table, a cross-cutting between friends, is not as good as the lights in the home. The person who loves you the most is your wife, and you must treat her well.
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