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What is true love?
I once heard a passage: "Man's nature is selfish, and to love a person is to overcome his selfish genes and become selfless, to love without preconditions and regardless of pros and cons." ”
Two independent people, because love enters marriage, from a person's independent state to start two people living together, both to maintain their independence, but also to create each other's resonance point, this kind of true soul mate can be described as hard-won.
In an intimate relationship, whether it is a lover in a hot love period or a couple who has entered a dull life, if they have shared these things with each other, most of them can be called true love.
01: Share the process of growing up with each other
Everyone's life is changing all the time, people will grow up in the flow of years, and gradually improve their life values because of what they see and hear.
If people are immutable, it is a terrible thing.
In society, a conformist person is difficult to keep up with the pace of the times, and will eventually be caught up by the latecomers; in love, a person who stands still is easy to lose his value, so many people who have loved each other will be like strangers.
The love story of Liu Shufen and Xu Bochang in the movie "No Questions Asked" is a typical example.
The two fell in love when they were young, and men and women worked together to deal with the trivialities of life, and every move added a sweet taste to ordinary life.
At this time, the two are undoubtedly a couple in love.
Later, Liu Shufen saved money and left all her savings to Xu Bochang to go to college, and the beautiful fantasy of future life in her heart supported her to pay willingly.
However, the trajectory of life, no one can predict, Xu Bo is often like a golden phoenix flying out of the nest, he has seen the vastness of the outside world, the change of cognition, so that he is not willing to stay in a small village.
Moreover, two people who once loved each other now have no common language.
The knowledge that Xu Bochang learned and the dreams in his heart could not be understood by Liu Shufen throughout her life.
There is no right or wrong in love, and once the ideological dimension of two people has an irreparable gap, it is difficult to produce soul resonance, so although they have loved each other, they will eventually disperse.
After all, on the surface they are together, but in reality, the distance between the hearts is getting farther and farther, as if they are in two worlds. How can two people like this have any sense of happiness?
02: Shared inner feelings with each other
A person plays multiple roles in society, and it is difficult for people to reveal their inner thoughts to a stranger.
Just as the so-called "harmful heart can not be, the heart of prevention must not be without", people who have experienced groping in society will give themselves a little leeway in the process of interpersonal communication, which is also a protection mechanism for people for themselves.
However, if a person is too reserved for his partner in love, it will inevitably make each other more estranged and difficult to establish deep feelings.
You know, the partner that everyone expects cannot be a cold robot, a partner with flesh and blood and feelings, in order to bring us emotional value.
If two people love each other enough, they will inevitably give without reservation, so that the other party knows what kind of person they are and what kind of emotions they have.
Only by being honest with each other can this love be implemented in real life, rather than being vague and scattered at any time.
03: Shared money that each other had
The romantic beauty of love is inseparable from the support of realistic money, and if money is shared between men and women, it means that the two have entered a common life.
From a legal point of view, when a man and a woman are married, they have common property and become a whole with each other.
From the perspective of feelings, two people willingly spend money for each other, and do not skimp on it, proving that they have regarded each other as future partners, so they do not count personal gains and losses.
In the eyes of many people, money is a cheesy word, and if it is linked to love, it will tarnish the purity of love.
As everyone knows, love and life are inseparable, as the famous writer Sanmao said:
"Love will not last long if it does not fall into the real life of dressing, eating, sleeping, and counting money."
To give a very simple example: in an intimate relationship, if a person asks for AA and always calculates how much money is spent on you, will you feel the happiness brought by love?
A person is willing to share money with the opposite sex, which shows the seriousness of his heart for this love, and people who regard love as a game cannot let their feelings affect their own interests.
In true love, people's happiness has something in common, and most people who are willing to share the above things have found their true love and soul mate, so please cherish it.
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