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Marriage is about love, but how many people live it becomes reasoning.
Many couples, when encountering contradictions, have to solve them through quarrels, and they have to use their own reasons to overwhelm each other, but in the end they win the reason and lose their feelings.
Knowing a couple, a woman is full of complaints about men, and she once said the harshest thing, saying that if her husband died one day, she would not shed a single tear.
To be able to say such a thing, women are not only indifferent to men, but also full of hatred.
It turned out that since marriage, women have been suppressed by men everywhere, and the strength of men has made her lose her right to speak, and everyone knows her situation in marriage, she said, she never felt the happiness of marriage, but like walking into a cage.
I think that if a woman is not surrounded by love in marriage, but it is good to be free and independent, I am afraid that she will not get love and will lose her freedom and dignity.
In marriage, what women are most afraid of is to meet this kind of person, and they are even more afraid of encountering the following three things.
01 Violence
The word violence itself is the most deadly destruction of love and marriage, and even though it sometimes appears in the name of love, its true meaning is possession and control.
The TV series "Don't Talk to Strangers" once triggered a hot discussion frenzy of domestic violence, in the play, Anjiahe every time after violence against Mei Xiangnan, Mei Xiangnan despaired of marriage once, in fact, her pain is not only in the flesh, but also in the heart.
The bruises and scars on his body were evidence that no lie could conceal, and although Anjiahe would try to hide himself in front of people, Mei Shonan would read the doubts in the eyes of onlookers.
It was a shame for her to be so abused by her husband and to be looked at by others, but she could not break free, and could only suffer in the marriage with humiliation. In the end, Mei Shonan was broken by Anjiahe, and she had a sense of escape.
Although she later regained her life, the shadow of her previous marriage may be indelible for a lifetime.
02 Betrayal
Marriage needs to be sincere, and if there is no sincerity then the existence of marriage is meaningless.
A friend once told of her past, she fell in love with a man in the early years, and later married to his city at all costs, and just when she was ready to run her happiness wholeheartedly, she found that men were not very loyal to her.
Later, she finally knew the truth of the matter, and what made her even more angry was that several friends around her had already known about the betrayal of men, and at that time, she was still stupidly showing love and happiness.
She said that when she knew everything, she found out that she was really stupid, and it was also because he had unabashedly betrayed himself in front of outsiders, and she had a little hatred for men, because men not only hurt her heart, but also hurt her self-esteem.
03 Disgusted
In marriage, there is nothing more insulting than the word disgust.
In the movie "No Questions Asked", liu Shufen, a village woman, did her best to provide for her man to go to college, thinking that she would exchange this enthusiasm for men's gratitude and love, but the men who returned from school looked down on her.
Men do not want to marry her, helpless to escape her persecution, so in marriage, men avoid everywhere, every time they look at her with disgusted eyes.
Liu Shufen sensed all this, and finally couldn't bear to erupt, she asked the man, if she broke his drinking cup, would the man not be willing to use her cup to drink water? At this time, the man grabbed his cup and threw it at the woman with a disdainful look.
Neighbors and colleagues know that the man is a very good person, he is kind and kind, but he is cold to his wife. The woman is trying to win back the man's heart in her way, but she uses the wrong way, she beats him, goes to the place where he teaches to make trouble for him, but everyone is sympathizing with the man, saying that women are unreasonable.
A woman is disliked by her own man, and is also disliked by all the people around him, this shame will naturally ferment into an irreversible injury, and eventually the woman chooses suicide in despair.
In fact, disgust is a great denial and contempt for people, and the use of this attitude in the treatment of partners is comparable to killing people.
Many women have an unhappy life because they are unladylike, and only a very small number of women will realize that happiness should be completely in their own hands, and if they have to tie themselves to men, they must be prepared not to be affected by him.
There is an interview on the Internet, an old lady in her seventies is dressed up exquisitely and behaves decently, but she never got married again after she was divorced when she was young. The host asked her, don't you feel lonely after so many years of living alone? Why not find a wife to accompany each other?
The old lady gave a classic answer, she asked the host, which partner is it? Is it the "companion" of the single person, or the "trip" next to the strand? It is rare for people to meet a person who can talk and understand each other, such a person is worthy of being a partner, otherwise you can only find someone who will give you a trip in the road of life.
Peeling back the truth about marriage would have been disappointing, let alone encountering a bad partner?
A line in Les Misérables goes like this: "I would rather open my future on my own strength than seek the favor of the powerful." "Yes, if we are not so lucky to meet a partner who can treat ourselves well, then the only way is to learn to get out of the swamp of life on our own."
Just like in "Don't Talk to Strangers", Mei Shonan suddenly had a plan in her mind when she fell into the abyss, and finally successfully escaped the clutches of Anjiahe under her careful planning.
Many women have complained about a lifetime in a bad marriage, and in the end, life can only be lamented and lonely, but there are also many women, who realize that marriage is not the guarantee of their lives, so after seeing everything, they bravely wave goodbye to the past and continue their next happiness.
Happily, Mei Shonan, who suffered great humiliation in the TV series, finally stood up again, she did not refuse to knock on the door again because of the misfortune of her first marriage, but bravely accepted and faced everything that had been, and more bravely chose to believe in love and marriage again.
Tagore once said, "The world kisses me with pain, and I will repay it with a song." "You always have to believe in the good, and the good can really come closer to you step by step."
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