Domestic violence is no longer an unfamiliar word to us. According to the All-China Women's Federation, 30% of the 270 million families in the country have experienced domestic violence in marriage, and even worse, not only domestic violence against their wives. Also punch and kick the child.
Domestic violence brings victims not only physical harm, but also spiritual harm.
Physical wounds can heal, but spiritual damage is often irreversible because it destroys our expectations and original intentions for marriage.
At the same time, I will be disappointed, disappointed in how the person I chose unswervingly in the first place can become the person who hurts me the most.
The happiness of marriage is a choice greater than a business, and if we can find out in time, we can avoid a lot of unnecessary harm.
In gender relations, men with these three characteristics must not marry, which is a summary of hundreds of domestic violence cases that I have studied.
If a person lacks emotional control, then he is very prone to going to extremes
Domestic violence, in the final analysis, is an emotional out-of-control behavior, because the subject's words and deeds are not controlled, so they usually choose a simple and rough way to vent their emotions.
Therefore, domestic violence has become the first choice for some people to vent.
Fang Yuan in the TV series "Little Joy" has a good temper, even if Tong Wenjie yells at himself, he also maintains a good temper and never blushes.
Such people will be calm and serious no matter what problem they deal with, they will not be controlled by emotions, and how can they turn into demons for the people closest to them?
So, when we get along with men, we can pay attention to observation. If the other party is always irritable, and a small thing can make him angry, then such a person needs our attention.
Because his emotions are easily out of control, and people don't know that they will make reckless actions when their emotions are out of control.
We can't bet on our own safety, so when we meet such a man, we must remember to stay away.
If a person's original family has a history of domestic violence, then its influence cannot be underestimated
The study found that children who do not have happy families may indeed show lower emotional management skills and poor marriage adaptability in future marriages.
Because the family of origin does not give their children enough love and does not tell them what a healthy marriage relationship is like, they will also have more negative feelings and lower satisfaction with the marriage.
Susan Foward said in "Original Family": "If it is not returned, it will be transferred." If you don't address the fears and anger your parents bring to you, they will eventually pass on to your spouse and children in the days to come. ”
If the parents of the original family are also soft-spoken when dealing with problems, no matter how angry they are, they will not speak harshly to each other, or punch and kick, then the child will also hear about it in such an environment;
If the father of the original family always uses violence against the mother, then in the child's young heart, he will feel that violence is the only way to solve the problem.
Therefore, when women choose what kind of man to be with, they must first understand each other's original family, usually, the appearance of the original family will be reflected in the child's body.
If a person has a dark personality, is suspicious and sensitive, perhaps he is the next perpetrator of domestic violence
In the TV series "Don't Talk to Strangers", Anjiahe is ostensibly a polite, life-saving angel dressed in white, but it is such a person who looks very polite, but it is impossible to associate with a person with domestic violence tendencies.
His wife, Mei Shonan, was kidnapped and spent 36 hours with the kidnappers, but fortunately his wife returned unharmed.
But Anjiahe had a thorn in his heart, he always felt that his wife was being bullied, he sat up and asked his wife over and over again whether she had been bullied, and her wife was overwhelmed and got up to go back to her room to rest.
Only to see An Jia and a slap in the face, this is his first domestic violence against Mei Shonan.
As Mei Shonan was knocked to the ground, Anjia and the breath he held in his heart finally spat out.
Afterwards, he apologized to his wife, saying that he would be angry because he cared too much about Mei Xiangnan, of course, in addition to verbal expressions, he also made delicious food to make Mei Shonan happy.
Although Mei Shonan was humiliated, it was fortunate that Anjiahe was sincere in admitting her mistakes, so she also chose to forgive the other party, but this was the beginning of her nightmare.
An Jiahe does not allow Mei Shonan to speak to anyone of the opposite sex other than himself, Mei Shonan feels that he is unreasonable, and An Jiahe also feels that his wife is watery Yanghua. So, he did it again, and this time, Mei Xiangnan was beaten into the hospital.
It is not difficult for us to find that most of the men who abuse domestic violence have a sensitive and suspicious personality, feel that their wives are unfaithful to themselves, and when they have a little wind and grass, they punch and kick their wives, and they don't care about their wives' feelings at all.
Domestic violence, only zero times and countless times, will never end once it starts.
Therefore, if we are subjected to domestic violence, we must not tolerate this behavior, but take up legal weapons to protect our rights and interests.