A good love should love each other, tolerate each other, and grow together.
I have asked some female friends around me why they chose their partners, and their unanimous answer was: "Because he is very good to me." ”
There are many definitions of this "very good", some are always materially satisfying you, some are caring for you, and some are always saying some sweet words that you love to hear...
Every woman gives
target
The answer to "very good" is not the same.
As a result, some feelings end from one to the end, and some feelings die halfway. In fact, in the relationship, the real role in strengthening is still the intention.
Many women, after starting a relationship, will be planted in one head, give their hearts and minds, and the world is long, only to find that the men around them have never given themselves what they should have.
As a result, some women began to take the initiative to ask for it, but if they didn't want to give you something, you reached out for it, and the meaning was different!
If a relationship comes to begging the other person, love becomes a cheap thing. To put it another way, this person doesn't really love you.
Therefore, women must have the ability to distinguish between love and non-love in their feelings, and do not let themselves be senselessly lost and hurt in a one-man show love.
When we face feelings, we must not only look at the appearance, but also need to understand, truly see through whether this man can give you the following
Three things
stuff.
01 can't give you the heart
Since they have come together because of love, they must have paid each other with sincerity and loved each other. However, some people are not together because they really love each other, but just in that lonely moment, they met you and let his heart be relied on, so they will choose you.
When you are really together, you begin to understand him, his hand is always in his hand, the mobile phone password will never tell you, and often have a close distance with friends of the opposite sex, when you question, he is always perfunctory. You won't cut off contact with the women around you because you're angry.
He won't call you when you're sick and ask for warmth, only you're angry
When he said, "You don't care about me at all," he simply said, "Drink more hot water."
Because he never gave you the heart. So, he doesn't love you. Instead of struggling in a relationship that is only your own, it is better to let go in time to find the person who can really give you a real heart.
02 Can't give you trust
If there is no basic trust in a relationship, then the relationship will never last long. In love, to love a person is to give the other party enough trust, trust will promote the promotion of love.
And if there is always endless suspicion of her, it will only push the two farther and farther away.
In the TV series "Don't Talk to Strangers", Anjia and Mei Shonan did come together because of love and fell in love and got married. In the eyes of outsiders, it is a very loving little couple.
To everyone's surprise, Anjiahe is a very suspicious man, always because of his own imagination again and again, and suspect that his wife has contact with the opposite sex, and then fight.
Although Every time Anjiahe knelt on the ground and asked Forsonry's forgiveness, in his wife's heart, she was gradually disappointed in him.
Trust is the greatest enemy of love.
Many loves are because of the lack of trust, and have to go their separate ways, love a person, you have to give the other party the minimum trust.
03 does not give you a sense of security
Women are always inherently insecure, so when they meet someone, they think that they have something to rely on and someone to protect her.
For a woman, the so-called sense of security is that you will give her enough love and involve her in the planning of her future life.
Some men are very good at talking and often promise you one
Yes
A promise, but never fulfilled. For example, he says he loves you the most and wants to propose to you, and you wait with great anticipation for the day when he holds a delicate red rose in one hand and a ring in the other.
You wait, wait, that day never came, and when you couldn't help asking him, he used all kinds of reasons to shirk it, either saying that he was too busy, or saying that he was not ready, and then considering it.
Or maybe you have some tricky things in your life, and the first thing you think of is him, but he starts to run away, avoids you, for fear that these things will cause him trouble.
In his body, you don't feel the so-called sense of security at all, and some are just the other party's avoidance, excuses.
Love is ultimately to be integrated into life, we will encounter a lot of unexpected things happening, if this person around you, can not be in the wind and rain, with you, then it is better, just give up decisively.
Emotional Message:
When you fall in love with someone, the hormones cannot be controlled by yourself, you will step by step towards that person, you are blinded by the self-righteous love at that time, seeing and hearing only good and sweet.
You think he will be as you think, colliding with you with his heart, trusting you enough, and giving you a sense of security in the days to come. But there are always some people who have something else to do with you.
So, as a woman, when love comes, remember to polish your eyes, be sensible, and don't be carried away by love. Learn more about each other's character and personality, and let yourself be sober and wise in love.