We feel that it is a very fortunate thing that we can find the only person who is compatible with us in this life, we love each other, and each other loves us.
However, the world is unpredictable, we think that a love that can go to the end of the world, but also in the unknown changes, gradually out of the original taste.
We had firmly believed that the person we had chosen would accompany us to the end, and that our feelings for each other would stand the test of the sea.
Time will invisibly dilute many things, and it will make something that was originally very deep as a cicada wing, such as feelings.
We don't know when love changes, we always think that as long as we love someone wholeheartedly, the other person will love us wholeheartedly.
Unfortunately, for love, the reciprocity of giving and receiving is never established.
In relationships, note that a man's love for you "tastes" and starts with generosity.
When you have a conflict, the "generous" one no longer argues
Liu Shufen in the movie "No Questions Asked" loves Xu Bochang very much, but Xu Bochang does not love Liu Shufen, to be precise, he does not love at all.
At first, it was Liu Shufen who provided Xu Bochang to go to college, but when Xu Bochang graduated from college, he felt that he and Liu Shufen did not have a common language and did not want to marry her again.
However, Liu Shufen was forced to die, which made Xu Bochang finally marry her, but this was also the beginning of Liu Shufen's nightmare.
Xu Bochang never spoke to Liu Shufen, even if Liu Shufen deliberately looked for fault, Xu Bochang was deaf, as if he had not heard, he would never clash with her.
Is it because Heber was often a gentleman?
Of course not, he just didn't love Liu Shufen and didn't want to talk to her, so he didn't want to waste his time and energy on the quarrel.
In a relationship, if you still love each other, then in the face of contradictions, there will be quarrels, because this can expose each other's problems, and then find a solution.
The author Su Xiaocheng said in "Love a Person to Have a Fight to Quarrel": "Quarrels are often things that occur between lovers, some fights are very hurtful, and some fights can enhance feelings. ”
Those who remain silent are cold violence in disguise, and cold violence is a sign of not loving a person. ，
When you talk to other members of the opposite sex, the "generous" one is no longer jealous
What is the state of a man when he loves a woman?
He would be stingy, jealous, and possessive.
As Zhang Xiaoxian once said: "When I met you, I became the most angry person and wanted to get your wholehearted love." If I have you, I will become the richest person, your love is the most precious, even if the whole world gives it to me, I will not change it. ”
So what does a man look like when he doesn't love a woman?
Obviously, that is not stingy, not jealous, not full of possessiveness.
Love is a very narrow thing, and one more person feels crowded.
Therefore, when the heart is full of love for the other party, it is absolutely impossible to calm your inner emotions as if nothing has happened.
Must be unhappy, must be jealous, must be all the opposite sex as imaginary enemies, not unhurried.
Therefore, excessive generosity and tolerance are a sign that a man does not love women.
When you do something that makes the other person angry, the "generous" one is no longer angry
I remember when I was in high school, I was always criticized by my teachers because of my carelessness.
At that time, I didn't understand the teacher's good intentions, but I only felt that why did the teacher always criticize himself, was it not pleasing to his eyes?
Until one day, the teacher said in a serious tone that the reason why I was always criticized was because my problem was careless, because I still had salvation.
If one day, I have no medicine to save, then the teacher will naturally not criticize me more, because I am already "terminally ill", and there is not much difference between criticism or non-criticism.
The same principle is applied to relationships, and we can see that if a man loves us as always, then he will get angry when we do something that makes him feel unhappy.
Because he didn't want to affect the original good feelings because of these things.
If a man's love for us has deteriorated, then whatever we do will not cause his mood to fluctuate.
Because we are already an unimportant existence for them, for a person who does not want it, why waste their emotional value?
Yang Dai said: "I no longer take the initiative to find you, not because you are not important, but you make me feel that I am disturbing you." ”
So, if one day, men's feelings for us have shown a careless state, then we should not force it anymore, and it is better to go with the flow or stop the loss in time than to blindly insist.