Men don't understand, the key to conquering women is: talk more about these topics

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In the matter of feelings, modern men can easily walk into a misunderstanding, that is: the mistaken belief that all women are looking at money, no matter how you are, they only care about whether you have money, whether you have a house and a car, whether you have a stable job, and so on.

If there is, there is a possibility of continuing the conversation; if not, it may block you at the first time, and it will not consume energy at all.

But in reality, not all women are so realistic.

Most women, rather than caring about the material conditions of men, are more concerned about whether two people are compatible, after all, they have already achieved financial independence, and no longer think that women are better mixed than married. In this case, they have higher requirements for love.

In response to this situation, instead of complaining about the reality of women, men should show all their sincerity when they meet people they like. Sometimes it's not your handsomeness that conquers women, not your superior financial conditions, but the sincerity you show in getting along.

When you learn to talk about the following three topics, then the distance between you can naturally be closer, which is much more useful than blindly spending money.

One: Talk about common topics that are of mutual interest

There is an idiom called like-mindedness, whether it is love or friends, only with some common interests and hobbies, it is possible to get along, especially the interaction between men and women.

To take an easy-to-understand example, a person who aspires to understand cars is bound to study them carefully; if he wants to make a delicious dish, he will certainly learn cooking skills with his heart. Just as many people aspire to have a happy and satisfying love, then they must spend time and energy to understand and manage.

If you don't give, how can you get something in return?

However, this obvious truth is not something that everyone can understand.

Love is a profound science, if men want to establish an intimate relationship with women, but are not willing to do any understanding in advance, this way of doing things only intuitively will often make them more than worth the loss.

Let me ask: If the feelings between men and women are maintained only by a momentary passion, and only after the two sides have calmed down, they realize that they do not have a common language, and communication is like playing the piano to a cow, how can love be maintained for a long time?

In an intimate relationship, if we are mentally prepared to spend the rest of our lives with a person, we must take the initiative to understand each other's work and preferences, even if we know nothing, it is better than knowing nothing.

Two: Talk about the advantages and shining points of both sides, and deepen their good feelings for each other

Gold is not barefoot, no one is perfect.

In this world, everyone has advantages and disadvantages of one kind or another. If you like a person, try to show the good side in front of him as much as possible, and also be good at discovering and discovering the strengths and strengths of the other party.

When you are attracted to a certain characteristic of the other person, your feelings for him will naturally change.

On the other hand, when the other party finds your strengths, it will naturally look at you with surprise, so expressing yourself in a timely manner is a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. It's not a routine, it's a trick.

Many times, clumsy men are often more likely to miss the right person and love. Because he doesn't know how to express himself, he doesn't know how to close the distance between him and the other party.

But you don't know how to express, how can the other party know your intentions, always let people guess and guess, everyone will be tired.

Three: Talk about the two sides' views of love, outlook on life and values, only when the three views are consistent can there be a possibility of long-term exchanges

True love is not only a temporary attraction, but also a long-term fit, which requires both parties to maintain the consistency of the three views in the process of getting along, the so-called three views, which is what we usually call: outlook on life, values and outlook on life.

Only when the great pursuit and direction of life are the same, can we move towards the same goal, otherwise it will only gradually drift away.

Just like Liu Shufen and Xu Bochang in the movie "No Questions Asked", their love is sighing. The two were a glue-like couple when they were young, and as Xu Bo's regular college broadened his horizons, Liu Shufang gradually could not understand each other's hearts.

The level of knowledge between the two is very different, and there are irreconcilable contradictions in life values, so that after barely getting married, each other's feelings are like walking on thin ice.

The secret of long-term preservation of love is to grow together, become more and more tacit under the witness of time, and establish a stronger relationship with each other.

If the three views are no longer the same, and the cognition is no longer the same, then the distance between them will only become farther and farther away. Talking more about each other's three views can promote the understanding of each other, and can also confirm earlier whether the other party is a suitable person for themselves.

The pursuit of people like, may not need too many routines, timely performance of sincerity, it is easier to enter the other party's heart. When you learn to talk to each other about the above three topics, you can naturally close the distance between each other.

But the premise is that you are sincere, because this is the basis for the development of a relationship.

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