Author: Warm-blooded animal (ID: staywarmblood)
A few days ago, I saw a topic on the hot search:
#当代女性的恋爱观有多清醒.
Below there is a blogger cut a video collection of interviews with female celebrities about love, after watching I found that the sober view of love has a very important core.
It is not to see love as a yardstick to measure the happiness of life.
In other words, you can expect love to bring a lot of good experiences, but don't pin all your hopes on it for the better.
In fact, they do the same in real feelings.
Understanding their emotional experience, you will find that after experiencing a not very smooth relationship, they put the focus of their lives on themselves, and their careers began to flourish, and the whole person was more sparkling.
That is to say, when love occurs, they will go all out to love, but when they perceive that something is wrong, they will turn their heads and leave very neatly.
When there is no love, they are still moving forward.
Therefore, to say that a person's concept of love is sober, mainly because she has corrected the positioning of the topic of love in life, and does not expect to find her own way out in love.
But in fact, before correcting the positioning of love, people will inevitably take several detours.
When people are young, it is always easy to believe in some love fallacies and put themselves into various rules and regulations.
For example, in the student era, when I heard someone say that "the student era without falling in love is incomplete", I blindly chose a person to fall in love, just to quickly draw a check mark after the list of must-dos.
There is a wonderful scene in the movie "Love Myth", where a group of men and women sit together and talk about their views on love.
Lao Bai's ex-wife Bei Bei said at the dinner table that "a woman is incomplete without children in this life", and Gloria immediately retorted back, saying that she would also make up such deceptive words:
"It's incomplete for a woman to never dump 100 men in her life"
After saying that, Miss Li added: "It is incomplete that a woman has not earned a million in this life." ”
You will find that there is no end to these sentences.
When people are young, the reason why they rely on these sentences to define the integrity of life stages is because of inner uneasiness and anxiety, so that we are eager to prove that we are not "left behind" through some certainty, such as certain people and definite relationships.
And those who are sober are sober because they do not put themselves in a certain echelon according to a certain standard, and there is no concept of being left behind.
So they stop and go, and there are scenery all the way.
I like the female character Miss Li portrayed in "Love Myth", she is confident and dignified, financially independent, independent in her work, and she knows exactly what she wants in her relationship.
After she divorced, she took her daughter to live with her mother, and after understanding the difficulties of her life, the ambiguous object Lao Bai offered to borrow her own house to live in.
Such a rapid progress was clearly beyond her expectations, and late at night, the moment she smoked a cigarette out of the window and then snuffed out the cigarette butt, she had the answer in her mind.
The next day, she went to Lao Bai to express her thoughts, saying that she was afraid of taking the old road again, and then left in a hurry.
Such a woman can live well without a man, but at the same time, she is also looking forward to love, and when the relationship progresses too fast, she calmly hits the brakes.
This reminds me of a sentence I saw recently:
When you don't need love, you can have healthy love.
This sentence is placed on the role of Miss Li, which is a good confirmation.
She doesn't need to prove herself through love and marriage, and she doesn't expect love to help her solve life's problems.
She always has her own spiritual foothold, full of hard work when working, and watching dramas in her leisure time.
Before she met love, her life was also colorful.
Such a state, when encountering love, will have a more positive resonance.
In my opinion, the phrase "good relationships make people better" actually has a premise.
This kind of getting better is not from scratch, but the icing on the cake from good to better.
Because a good intimate relationship doesn't exist to help each other solve problems and fill gaps.
It's that two people can support each other when they get better together.
I often see that kind of sweet daily sharing of couples below, there are messages asking "when will such fairy love come to me".
The answer I want to share is that when you can be nice without love, you naturally deserve a good love.
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*Article Source: Warm-Blooded Animal (ID: staywarmblood).
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