Thirty is a watershed for women. Before the age of thirty, you can keep trying and making mistakes, and the future is still infinitely possible; but after the age of thirty, if you are still confused, then most of the second half of your life will be unhappy.
Women who are still unhappy after thirty years old are mostly related to the reason for this, to see if you have been recruited.
1, obsessed with love, there is no mature concept of love
When you are in your twenties, you can pursue love to the fullest and enjoy the sweetness of love. But at the age of thirty, if you are still clinging to love, hoping that the other party can talk sweetly to you all day and create surprises, then you will only find trouble for yourself and fall into endless disappointment.
After a woman is thirty years old, she must have a more mature view of love and look at love more rationally. If a man doesn't love you anymore, then leave decisively, always believe that it is a blessing to leave a man who does not love you.
After the age of thirty, instead of hoping that love will bring you joy and surprises, you should spend time and energy to please yourself and make yourself more outstanding. Believe that "if you bloom, the butterflies will come.".
2. There is no ability to be financially independent
When I was young, I thought that I could drink water with affection and be full, and I always felt that talking about money was too vulgar and would hurt my feelings. However, after the age of thirty, women must understand the importance of making money.
Never believe a man's vows, never leave the rest of your life to a man. To take the initiative into one's own hands, we must have the ability to be economically independent, and we must not be a person with the palm of our hands upwards. Only when they achieve financial independence can women be more confident and more likely to be respected and loved by men.
A woman over thirty years old can have no love, but not without money, because money is more reliable than men most of the time, and money can bring a real sense of security to women.
3. No ability to manage marriage
For thirty-year-old women, happiness is also brought about by marriage, and unhappiness is also caused by marriage. So why do the same two lovers enter the marriage, but the circumstances after marriage are different? The reason for this is that everyone's ability to run a marriage is different.
Marriage is like clothes, when the conditions were not good in the past, the clothes were broken and sewn and mended to continue to wear, but now, once the freshness has passed, I will think of changing to a new model. In fact, no matter who you marry, you will encounter problems, and the factor that ultimately affects the happiness of marriage is the ability to manage marriage.
Husband and wife two people with one heart, together with practical actions to run the marriage better, tolerate each other, mutual understanding, marriage will naturally think of a good direction to develop; and if when there is a problem in the marriage, the husband and wife are not willing to manage, let the contradictions more and more, the misunderstanding is getting bigger and bigger, such a marriage will inevitably become more and more bad.
When many people have problems in their marriage, they will have the idea that "it may be better to change someone". In fact, it is not that the replacement can avoid the problem, and the problem may be solved after the replacement, but there will still be various other problems.
4. Self-pity for their appearance
Before the age of thirty, the appearance is determined by genes, and the beauty and ugliness of appearance can also be attributed to the parents. But after thirty, if you still feel like you're not good looking, that's your reason.
The so-called phase is born from the heart, and after the age of thirty, with the enrichment of people's experience and experience, a person's appearance will also change.
Women who are thirty years old should pay attention to their own image from the outside, and more importantly, improve their pattern from the inside. Only one person has seen more, has a wide understanding, has a larger pattern, and exudes an elegant and calm temperament from the inside out, and the whole person is more beautiful.
5, too much useless social networking
As the saying goes, "Multiple friends have many paths", but after reaching thirty, we must understand a reality, that is, if you are not excellent, it is useless to make more friends.
The principle of making friends is to emphasize quality rather than quantity, in fact, there are not so many people who can talk, and there are not so many bureaus that must participate. Two or three friends in life is enough, the rest are passers-by, don't spend your limited time on useless socializing.
Life is like a journey, everyone's end is different, friends are like traveling companions on the way, there will always be a time to part ways, and the rest of the road, must be their own. Therefore, living your own life and walking your own path is the most important thing.
6, will not manage their emotions
Before the age of thirty, you are outspoken, and some people will say that you are really temperamental, which makes people feel cute. However, after the age of thirty, if you still have no mouth and cannot control your mouth, you must be prepared to suffer losses.
After a woman reaches the age of thirty, if she wants to live a happy and smooth life, she must control her mouth. At the same time, learn to listen and be alone, don't tell your pain everywhere, no one will care, let alone empathy, only digest it yourself.
Conclusion: Thirty-year-old you, are you still satisfied with your current life? The above six points, did you successfully avoid it?