Text/Flying Fish
Life stumbles all the way, in fact, it is not easy, especially in the second half of life, but also to know how to love themselves, know how to treat themselves.
When a person is over fifty, the best way to live is actually these five words: live for yourself.
Some people seem to have lived for others all their lives, and when they are young, they think that they have entrusted a good person worth a lifetime, but after marriage, they find that they do not love themselves so much, but because they have children, they have always endured.
In fact, many people live to the middle and old age to understand, in fact, this life is not only to live for others, for others to consider, but also to know how to live for themselves, do not forget their own interests and hobbies in life, but also have their own life, do not put all their energy around others.
I have to say that many women, in fact, are used to living for others all day, thinking that this is their mission and task, thinking that they always have to have their own space until their children become a family, but when the children become a family, they have grandchildren, so they start to work again, and they have not lived for themselves in this life, in fact, it is still very sad to think.
I remembered that there was a couple before, who were already in their fifties, so women wanted to divorce men, saying that men had changed, they no longer valued her, men only cared about themselves, and never considered her, and even danced square dance with others, ignoring her.
The woman is in her fifties, and her two children are married, so she feels that her task has been completed, and she can go out and find a job to realize her value.
But the man especially did not understand her, and did not want her to go out to work, so he told her to stay at home and do housework, just take the children.
And men feel that they have reached this age, they do not need to work, they resign and do not discuss with her, do anything, are only concerned about themselves, so the woman's heart is wronged, only want to make a divorce, feel that life can not go on.
In this life, women are actually living for this family, not living their own lives at all, not having their own interests and hobbies, not having their own space and time, and spending their whole lives serving their husbands and children like this.
But women just want to make trouble, want to get their husbands' attention, and they don't really want to divorce, because the children don't agree with their divorce.
Therefore, what this woman actually has to do is to change herself, and since she can't change the other party, then change herself. Learning to live for yourself, and having a little more open mind, knowing how to have your own life and live your own life, is actually very good.
The other party can go out to sing and dance, in fact, they can also go out to work, they can have their own interests and hobbies, they can buy what they want to eat, they can dress up a little more beautifully for themselves, this is to live for themselves.
In fact, after people are over fifty years old, children do not have to worry about themselves, there is spare money in hand, it is time to consider the life they want, rather than always want to get the attention of others, others do not love you, you can love yourself.
Instead of wasting time on how to please others, it is better to use it to please yourself and devote yourself to your own hobbies and interests, which will bring people a sense of joy.
Just like a fifty-something sister who was on the Internet before, she also suffered an unhappy marriage, but she could prepare for herself for a year, take a driver's license, save money, buy equipment, and then drive out to play by herself, and she didn't want to rely on men at all, because she felt that men were unreliable, so she relied on herself.
I didn't expect her to travel around China all the way, not only broadened her horizons and saw such beautiful scenery, but also met a lot of friends, the key is that she is still on fire, so many people look for her endorsement, in fact, these are all their own.
People over fifty, know how to live for themselves, live out themselves, enrich their spirit, in order to make the second half of their lives wonderful.
Some middle-aged and elderly people are very transparent, for children, although they are independent, they can't worry too much, they will keep their distance, they won't interfere too much, and the extra time will be used on their own bodies, or travel, or go out to dance square dance, or chat and play chess with friends, and the heart is happier.
The most classic sentence of Gloria in "Love Myth" is that it is incomplete for a woman not to live for herself in this life.
This sentence actually says the current situation of many people.
How many people have lived for others all their lives and do not know how to live for themselves. Maybe when we are young, we are for children, but after people reach fifty, children are older and should live for themselves.
You have to look down on men and love, and think openly in order to live a dashing life.
In fact, In "Love Myth", Geria, she and her husband have been separated for a long time, her husband is younger than her, she also knows that his life is very chaotic, always love to find things for her, so she has seen through, and when there is no such person, she lives her own.
And when she heard that her husband was "kidnapped", but she was unwilling to pay him a ransom of 20,000, because she did not love him now and was no longer willing to clean up the mess for him.
In fact, this woman is also very sober, and she thinks very clearly about what she wants and what she doesn't want.
When you know how to live for yourself, you actually see through everything, let go of the shackles, and live out your own wonderful.
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