Man always comes to the mortal dust carefree and finally leaves the world with concern. The more we grow, the more we understand the preciousness of life, but life, old age, illness and death are natural laws, and we cannot change them.
Life is like a journey, everyone will have a lot of different experiences, we keep moving forward, looking forward to the next stop can be more beautiful. In fact, happiness is very simple, walk hand in hand with people who love each other, create a happy family, nurture the crystallization of love, have a career and hobbies that you love, eat four or three meals for four seasons, enjoy the simple happiness of ordinary life, and make life more complete and happy.
People often say "when the husband and wife are old", when we gradually become older, into the old age, the body begins to decline, the children have their own lives, the wife has become each other's only dependence.
Life is unpredictable, no one can predict tomorrow, if the wife leaves first, leaving a person how to face the second half of life?
In fact, everyone should make plans for their own life early, especially women, leaving alone in their old age, and do not easily rely on these three people.
01 Own children
In the hearts of most Chinese, in their old age, they should nurture and enjoy the joy of their children's knees. Just like in the past, there was the idea of "raising children and preventing the elderly", parents hope that their children can rely on the old and rely on the old.
However, today, unlike in the past, our lives have changed dramatically, our children have their own families, busy work and trivial things have made them overwhelmed, they have become very passive, often more than enough and not enough.
Moreover, young people living in the present are no longer bound by traditional ideas, their feelings are mutual, and parents want their children to do filial piety in their old age, provided that they have reached out when they need help. We need to know that love is never taken for granted, and so is love, and so is affection.
Or, when you rush to your children with joy, you find yourself invisibly becoming their "nanny", especially women, doing thankless things day and night, not only laboring their lungs, but also losing their freedom.
Therefore, in the old age, do not rely too much on your children, otherwise you will have a lot of unnecessary incidents, bring trouble to your children, and you will not be happy.
02 Own neighbors
The old ancestor left a sentence: "Good neighbors, Sai Jinbao." In life, you should have experienced the warmth brought by your neighbors around you, far from quenching your thirst, when encountering emergencies, neighbors can always help each other in time, everyone helps each other, cares for each other, and invisibly produces feelings, even better than family affection.
However, we cannot rely too much on neighbors, especially women. Because the neighbor's friends are outsiders after all, as the saying goes, "widows are not many in front of the door", people's hearts are separated from their stomachs, if they meet people who are not ladylike, they will fall into the wolf's den if they are not careful.
And it is inevitable that there will be people in life who like to manipulate right and wrong, and being too close to their neighbors will be criticized, and when the time comes to jump into the Yellow River, they will not be able to wash away, ruining their own reputation.
Therefore, in the old age of women, do not rely too much on neighbors and friends, cause trouble, hurt others and hurt themselves.
03 Lonely self
Life in the world, should not rely too much on others, no matter when do not forget, you are the most reliable, as long as you are strong enough, you can protect yourself, even if you are alone, you can still live a wonderful life.
However, there are no indestructible people in the world, everyone has weaknesses, and sometimes being too stubborn is not a good thing. It is naturally a good thing to be able to learn to be alone, but to know that man is never an independent individual. As the English poet John Donne wrote in his poem: No one is an island, it can be self-contained. "
Too much attachment will become obsession, too deep attachment will hurt the body, we must learn to reconcile with ourselves, come out at the right time, adjust our mentality, appropriately show weakness, slowly integrate into the environment, learn to enjoy the lively atmosphere, feel the joy brought by others.
In old age, people no longer have to pretend to be strong, enjoy the beauty of the moment, insist on exercising, have a healthy physique, a peaceful attitude, and live out the highest realm of life.
epilogue:
Nothing is achieved overnight, we have to adjust our mentality according to the actual situation, life and old age and illness and death are not terrible, what is terrible is that there is a problem with our own body and mentality.
People should maintain an appropriate distance between each other, especially in their old age, do not stick to tradition, do not overstep their bounds, move with their hearts, face life calmly, and enjoy the last journey of life.