Do you feel that way? After a while, you have to go alone for a while. Like a whale leaping out of the sea to breathe, like a recess on stage, you need a little time to escape from the hustle and bustle of personnel and stay with your own scarce peace.
I love being alone, and I've never found a better partner than being alone. In most cases, when we go out and among people, we are more lonely than in our own houses.
- Thoreau, Walden
Alone, the moment of return of blood for adults.
On the Internet, there is such a question that accurately hits the emotions of adults: Why do many people drive home and sit in the car for a long time when they go downstairs?
The most common response was: "Need to be alone." ”
It's hard to say how much of the day in an adult's life is entirely your own. Our time is like a giant puzzle, each piece of the puzzle is clearly assigned a task:
Employees who work in the office; social situations, members who are social; members who are responsible under the roof of the home...
When time is finely functionalized, solitude is like pressing the pause button on a mechanical clock, giving yourself an outlet for "ventilation." Even if it is just to stay on the sofa for a while and empty, it is beneficial to physical and mental health, it does not necessarily produce direct value, but it can silently repair the mood, which is a necessary cloth in life.
Being alone, re-establishing the order of the mind.
When you withdraw from the hustle and bustle of your territory, you will not be lonely and vulnerable because of loneliness, but you can feel a sense of spiritual freedom and harvest peace of mind.
You see, on the night when the moon was full of garden, Mr. Zhu Ziqing was "quite restless" because of the daily routine, so he paced out of his home. In the article, he wrote:
I was the only one on the road, pacing with my hands behind my back. This piece of heaven and earth seems to be mine; I am also like I have gone beyond my ordinary self to another world. I love to be lively and calm, I love to live in groups and I love to be alone. Like tonight, a person under this vast moon, can think of anything, can not think of anything, and feels like a free person. What must be done during the day, what must be said, can be ignored now.
Like this, staying quietly with the lotus moonlight for a while made his tired body and mind baptized by beauty, and he was once again full and full from the state of uneasiness and dryness.
Alone, is a different way of output.
The best byproduct of solitude is "quietness." And jing is the premise for us to cut off impetuousness and dive into the heart to do things steadily, and even become the best value-added period in your life.
When the writer Mu Xin was young, he used the excuse of recuperation, hired someone to carry two boxes of books, and hid in a house in the Mogan Mountains to read and write.
The mountain people laughed at Mu Xin: "If you don't want to be a young master, you have to come to the deserted barren mountains to suffer." ”
Winter snow closes the mountains, silence and slaughter, one person and one house, very lonely, but also very simple.
But Mu Xin did not think so, he lived a simple and simple life in the mountains, borrowing the light of the sky during the day and the candlelight at night, immersed in the world of Flaubert, Nietzsche, and Shakespeare, which was very lively.
After that winter passed, when Mu Xin went down the mountain, the porter's basket contained a few more books written by Mu Xin.
The loneliness and coldness in the eyes of the mountain people are exchanged for the literary world that Mu Xin can't ask for.
Sir said: "The best state of life is the cold and clear wind and fire." What he loved was this loneliness and idleness, and until the last years of his life, he still fondly mentioned this time.
Being alone is a topic that everyone must choose.
Although companionship can alleviate some pain, it may also be a shortcut to cure the symptoms but not the root cause, and some problems in life must be faced and overcome by themselves.
The satisfaction of crossing the mountains alone, holding your breath, and reaching the top of the mountain is indescribable; the joy of carrying the problems of life alone and walking from the willow shade to the flower is unforgettable, and the growth brought by it is more solid and reliable.
Mr. Zhou Guoping said:
Talking with others about the past and the present, quoting scriptures, that is small talk and discussion; only when you immerse yourself in the masterpieces of the masters of the past and the present, you will have a real spiritual understanding. Sightseeing with others is just tourism; only when you face the vast mountains and the sea alone, you will really feel the communication with nature.
Therefore, all those who pay attention to the life of the soul will have the same feeling about Rousseau's words: I never get bored when I am alone, and small talk is something I can't stand in my life.
After being alone, the heavens and the earth are wide.
People often think that being alone is isolating the world and closing oneself off, which is precisely to look down on solitude. True solitude is a state of freedom, a state of mind, in a breath, a breath, a relaxation, a dialogue with life, a dialogue with the world.
"Sit quietly without anything" is a five-word that Mr. Wang Zengqi likes very much, he said that jing is not blindly lonely, not asking about the world, but as Song Ru wrote: "All things are self-sufficient in contemplation, and the four hours are happy with people." Solitude is also the truth, retreating to a person's clear world, calming down, observing all things, understanding the operation and law of things, understanding the life and wisdom of nature.
No matter how busy life is, whether you live alone or with others, please try to take some time to return to yourself, stay quiet with yourself, ask yourself some questions honestly, and answer honestly.
The silence, the coffee cup, the table, how wonderful it was to sit alone, like the lonely seabird standing on a stake with its wings outstretched. Let me sit here forever, with these pure things, this coffee cup, this dinner knife, this fork, the things that keep their respective natures, the things that keep my nature.
— Virginia Woolf, "The Waves"
May you be less afraid of being alone than others,
May you be touched by yourself when you talk about it in the future.
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