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In fact, many elderly people have such a concept, but not getting married and not having children does not mean that they will be lonely, and getting married and having children does not mean that they will not be lonely for life.
In life, I can often hear some Dink couples around me, their living conditions are very simple, they have no children, with a lot of money from baby diapers, milk powder, early education classes, and interest classes bought by others to eat favorite foods, travel, study, and live a full and quiet life.
So are women with children happier, or are women without children happier?
One study showed that women without children had a higher happiness index
In the traditional perception of the public, the child is the whole of the parents, but also the source of the parents' happiness, and even in the past, the child was considered to be the dependence of "old age".
Even though people don't have as much of a desire to procreate now, most people still want to have a child of their own. So does it mean that women with children will be happier?
A salt bake in the early years abroad subverted the traditional concept, and the study concluded that after comparing the living conditions of unmarried, married, divorced, separated and widowed women, it was found that those who were unmarried and childless women had a relatively high degree of happiness.
To put it bluntly, the data shows that women without children tend to have a higher quality of life and feel happier than women with children.
Why does having children lead to a gap in women's happiness?
1) Tired
Nowadays, more and more women are beginning to want to have children, in large part because after having children, there are more and more trivialities in life, and most of these trivialities need to be borne by themselves.
Research data shows that after having a baby, most of the family's housework and responsibility for taking care of the baby fall on the shoulders of women, and women also have to take care of work.
This situation can make women feel that they are often very busy, especially compared to women who are unmarried or childless.
In addition, after women have children, the change of their appearance will also reduce women's happiness value. Like a friend next to the bud mother, the child's appearance when she was one year old and the appearance before she was not married are simply worlds apart, and it is completely "beautiful to become a big mother".
2) The "mother-in-law contradiction" that cannot be escaped
In ancient and modern Chinese and foreign families, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always existed in a large number of family relationships, and from a psychological point of view, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the result of a competition for family resources from the subconscious.
It is difficult for a clean official to judge family affairs, and it is really difficult to distinguish between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradictions, but compared with the mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law needs to bear greater pressure in the contradiction.
Like the need to take into account the feelings of the husband, but also to set a good example for the children, but also to maintain family harmony, these are all a lot of pressure.
3) The husband lacks empathy for his wife
Women add a lot of trivial things to their lives after having a baby, and for men, life is basically unchanged, so in the hearts of many men, taking a baby is a very easy thing, and naturally cannot appreciate the hardships of their wives.
The husband has no empathy for his wife, and the more likely it is that marital conflicts will break out, the lower the degree of happiness.
To achieve higher happiness, women with children need to do this
Although the conclusion shows that women who are childless will be happier than those with children, not all women who marry and have children have jumped into the "grave" of love, and many women are much happier than before after getting married and having children.
Pursuing the reason, they also use some ways to enhance their happiness:
Valuing time with each other: After having children, couples spend most of their time around their children, but don't forget how long they spend with each other. Proper dating travel can also relive the time when you were in love and enhance each other's feelings.
Conditions allow the burden to be shared: If the couple allows, it is advisable to find a nanny to share the parenting and housework, so that women can have more time with their families and will not be too tired and anxious.
Bud Care Mom wants to say:
Happiness is not for others to see, but to experience and feel for themselves, so whether it is a woman with children or a woman without children, you must actively live in order to find the small luck in life.