The husband receives the in-laws and siblings to enjoy the blessings, and the wife also invites the parents: Don't take my parents' room to honor your parents

Scholar Zhou Guoping once said: A good marriage is a human world, and a bad marriage is hell.

So, what kind of marriage is a good marriage? Is it to eat and drink, to feed and clothe, or to support each other, to discuss and tolerate and understand each other?

Husband and wife, the most taboo thing is that you carry me behind my back to do filial piety, but in the end you still want to calculate my parents' money and house. Such a couple, without a heart, naturally will not be twisted into a rope.

01, the husband manages the money, and asks for the name of the real estate deed

In other people's homes, it is the man who is in charge of the woman, and the woman is in charge of the finances. But in Huang Ting's home, it is her husband who is in charge of the family's economic power. Huang Ting did not resist, but every time her husband took her low salary to talk about things.

Huang Ting and her husband got married, the in-laws' conditions were not good, the mother-in-law did not have money to buy them a house, and even the 30,000 dowry was borrowed from the east and the west. Parents hurt their daughters, can't bear Huang Ting rent a house to get married, had to pay for them to buy a set of marriage houses, the real estate certificate only wrote Huang Ting's name, but the mortgage is helped by parents to repay.

For the sake of the real estate certificate and the name, the husband did not make less trouble before and after marriage, thinking that since they were both husband and wife, they should add the names of two people. But the parents insisted on not giving in, saying that it was okay to add the son-in-law's name, the down payment and loan of the house, one person half.

Hearing that he was going to take out a down payment of 200,000 yuan and pay off another 200,000 mortgages, his husband immediately stopped talking about adding names. Only after that, he took money more seriously.

02. The husband privately receives his in-laws to enjoy the blessings

When Huang Ting first found out that she was pregnant, her husband was overjoyed and offered to take his parents to the house to take care of Huang Ting, and said that the weather in his hometown was cold, and his parents did not install air conditioning and heating at home, which was particularly difficult in winter. When Huang Ting gave birth to a child and sat in confinement, his parents also conveniently stayed and took care of it.

Huang Ting disagreed, her husband still has a younger brother and sister in the family, who is not yet married and has been living with her in-laws. If the in-laws come to their house, it is equivalent to the little uncle and sister-in-law will also come with them. Then isn't she going to retire the whole family? And the home is three bedrooms and two living rooms, where can such a large family squeeze down?

But Huang Ting's refusal did not make her husband retreat. Instead, he cut first and then played, taking his in-laws to the house first, and when he saw that everyone had arrived at home, Huang Ting was not good enough to refuse, and could only accept. After that, the husband let his younger siblings move in, and the three bedrooms and two halls, which were only more than 100 square meters, were full of 6 people.

For her husband's private decision, Huang Ting was particularly angry. But she was angry and angry, and she was not good enough to drive people away, so she had to take her parents as well. As a result, as soon as he saw his parents-in-law also come to join in the fun, his husband's face suddenly darkened.

The husband also quarreled with Huang Ting in front of everyone, saying that his parents came to the house, not just to enjoy the blessings of the elderly, but to make cattle and horses for his daughter-in-law and grandson, and to serve the moon and bring his grandchildren.

Huang Ting can ignore her husband's set, and her in-laws are cows and horses, which is really better than singing. When they first got married, the in-laws came to stay at home for a few days, and those few days were simply Huang Ting's nightmares. Every day at six o'clock, the mother-in-law came to knock on their door on time and asked Huang Ting to get up and make breakfast for the whole family.

03, the wife also invited parents: don't take my parents' room to honor your parents

Moreover, the mother-in-law also made rules for her new daughter-in-law, insisting that she learn to cook, saying that she could better take care of her husband and in-laws. But Huang Ting arrives home at eight o'clock every day, where is the time and energy to cook and serve the in-laws?

But the mother-in-law did not care, in those few days, even if they were hungry, they waited every day for Huang Ting to get off work to cook. The taste is slightly inconsistent, and the mother-in-law is still picky. If Huang Ting asked her husband to do some housework, the mother-in-law would immediately grab it, saying that the big man should not do housework, and the people who do housework are daughters-in-law. So he kicked the ball back to Huang Ting, and still stood by to watch Huang Ting finish and be satisfied.

Huang Ting was fed up with those days, and now when her mother-in-law came, she began to repeat the same mistakes, even more severely than before. Even if Huang Ting takes care of her own confinement, it is much better than her mother-in-law's long-term mental torture of her.

Huang Ting invited her parents to sit in town, but she was scolded by her husband, I just picked up my parents and siblings on the front foot, and you picked up my parents-in-law on the back foot, what do you mean, do you want to drive my parents away? It is natural for a son to support his parents, but the son-in-law is not obliged to support his parents-in-law.

Huang Ting saw that her husband was fiercely opposed, and she unceremoniously replied: you have to honor your parents, and it is no problem to pick them up to enjoy the blessings of the elderly, but the house was bought by my parents, and you don't take my parents' house to honor your parents. Don't you forget, you are still eating my soft rice, do you still want soft rice to eat hard?

The husband was said to be red and white, and finally he had a cold war with Huang Ting, and said that if Huang Ting wanted to drive away his parents, they would divorce immediately. Parents saw their daughter and son-in-law arguing for themselves, and they were also a little uneasy, and they all shouted to go back to their homes.

But Huang Ting did not let them go, this is her dowry house, it was her parents who paid for it, and the in-laws could not get anything, why should her parents go out, rather than the in-laws leaving? Huang Ting unceremoniously drove people away, without the slightest regard for her husband's cold face.

Sometimes Huang Ting feels very sad when she thinks about it, and feels that she has encountered people who are unladylike, not only taking her own life, but also tired of her parents. Perhaps in the eyes of her husband, his parents are his biological parents, and no matter how much her parents have paid for their small family, he will not receive emotional gratitude.

Today's Topic:

Is the wife's dowry room, in-laws and uncles eligible to move in?