China has a history of 5,000 years, but also created the Chinese culture has a long history, broad and profound, of which colloquialisms as a vein in traditional culture, is the folk people through their own life experience to summarize,
Some are descriptions of folk life, and some are reflections on life, because it is easy to understand and catchy, so it is widely circulated in the folk, such as the older generation often said that "people are poor and do not ask their mothers to be busy, and the rich do not live in the southeast room", why is there such a saying? Does it make sense? Let's take a look.
People who are poor do not ask their mothers to be busy
Although the daughter is spilled with water after she gets married, the parents and brothers of the married and the mother's family are after all close relatives whose blood is thicker than water, so why can't a person ask for help from the mother's family when he is in distress and poverty? There are two main reasons:
First, the dissatisfaction of sister-in-law and younger sisters. Earlier, the average family would not have only one child, so the daughter married out, but there would be brothers in the family, and the brothers would live with their parents after marriage.
So after a woman gets married, because of the poverty of the family to go to the mother's house to seek help, the parents are distressed that the daughter is definitely willing to help, the brother will be willing to help once in the affection of the brothers and sisters, but the sister-in-law and the younger sister are different.
Originally the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a problem for each family and each family, if parents help their daughters again and again, it will inevitably lead to the dissatisfaction of sons and daughters-in-law, which will deepen family conflicts, so when they are poor, they must not find their mother's family to help, otherwise they are likely to make their parents embarrassed, and they will also touch a nose of ash.
Second, he was ridiculed by his mother's family. Poor couples are still mourning, and in the face of reality, sometimes even blood relatives may gradually become estranged.
Su Qin's early years of entrepreneurship failed, back home even his parents treated him, his sister-in-law did not even talk to him, and later after Su Qin took charge of the Six Kingdoms, this imagination disappeared.
Treating sons is still like this, it is better to treat daughters, as the saying goes, "the daughter who marries out spills water", many people think that daughters are not a family when they get married, how can they help each other.
In addition, the woman's husband has done nothing and needs to rely on the help of the mother's family, will not be ridiculed by the mother's family, and many parents will be angry with the son-in-law because of the poverty of the daughter's family.
For example, Fan Jin, when he was living in poverty, he asked his wife to ask his father-in-law for money, and as a result, his father-in-law directly slapped him and told his daughter that such a person had long said that he could not marry.
Therefore, it is prudent to ask for help from the mother's family, once or twice, but if there are more, everyone will be bored. At that time, not only will they not be helped, but they will be humiliated.
Rich and noble do not live in the southeast room
The reason why there is money not to live in the southeast room, there are also two reasons here: First, in ancient times, people thought that "sitting north to south" is the best feng shui treasure, so up to the palace building, down to the ordinary people's residential buildings,
Are the use of "sitting north to south" architectural mode, so there is a difference between the main room, the box room, the main room is the largest and brightest house in the north, is the place where the head of the family lives, and there will be ear rooms on both sides of the square, which is generally a place to rest or for children to live.
The box room is a room in the three directions of the southeast, west, and east, and is generally a place for guests or the next person in the family to live. It can be seen that the status of the southeast house is lower than that of the main house, so the owner of the rich family will not live in the southeast house.
Then there is the pattern of ancient house construction that we mentioned above is to sit north and face south, because geographically, China is in the northern hemisphere, the sun rises from the east and sets from the west, so sit north to south of the house,
In the winter, more light can be illuminated, and the house will be warmer, and in the summer, the light that enters the house will become less, and the house will be very cool.
In addition, most parts of the mainland will blow northwest winds in winter, and the house sits north to south, which can block the wind blowing from the north to the greatest extent.
So living in the main room is the best choice, but the southeast room is different, the east wing room in winter when the lighting is poor, the winter is cold, although the summer is cool,
However, there will also be a problem of humidity, such a living environment is very bad for the health of the human body, so rich people will not live in the East Wing, and the South Wing is the same reason.
Xiaobian has something to say: As the saying goes: "Poor in the downtown no one asks, rich in the mountains have distant relatives", when you are poor and depressed, not only the friends around you are not willing to associate with you again, even the closest relatives will have some suspicions, so is the mother's family, so is the in-laws' family.
Everyone has their own life to live, and every family has the difficulties of each family, so there is no need to mind such a situation a lot of time, and there is no need to hold a grudge, the important thing is to quickly cheer yourself up and create happiness with your own hands.
Just as the so-called tree will fall, relying on everyone will go, everything is better than relying on yourself! What do you think?