Husbands are divided into three grades, how many grades do you marry? (Must Read for Couples)

It's really not the same with who you're married to.

Some people are like stepping into a cage after marriage, and their heartache is known only to themselves; some people are married like stepping into the harbor, and happiness is self-evident.

If marriage is compared to the sky, in addition to the half of the sky supported by the wife, the husband's half of the sky is also very important.

Some husbands hold up the sky, the sky is clear, and the wife is smiling happily.

Some husbands hold up the sky, dark clouds, the wife is sad.

Divide your husband into three classes, how many grades do you marry?

01

Third-class husband: Annoy you

Colleague Da Wei once invited everyone to dinner at home, and his wife was a full-time housewife who was very good at cooking.

When a table full of color and flavor dishes is served, everyone is sincerely amazed, and the dishes are so well cooked!

She was surprised: "Really? Ordinary home cooking, Da Wei has never boasted. ”

Everyone was trying to add a sentence "He is in the blessing and does not know the blessing", only to hear Da Wei's voice resounding through the living room: "How the child's pants are dirty!" ”

Only to see that Da Wei's son's pants were stained with a piece of paint, Da Wei Wu complained to himself that his wife stayed at home all day and couldn't even do this little thing.

His wife was very stoic, quite to the husband's face, silently took out clean pants for the child to change.

But we looked at this decent family again, the living room was comfortable and clean, the children's toys were neatly stacked in the storage box, the meals were nutritious and delicious...

How much patience and love does it take for a woman to pay for this!

However, an innocuous pair of dirty pants is enough to write off all the advantages in exchange for a huge bad review.

Such a third-class husband will automatically ignore the woman's efforts and hard work, and infinitely enlarge the woman's deficiencies.

They may be timid and afraid on the outside, but they will be domineering and strong in front of women.

They will not pity women, but will only use women's dependence on them to belittle, suppress, and gain absolute power in the relationship.

Their mantra is:

That is, I will be so good to you!

Why are you so useless that you can't even figure out this little thing?

A fool like you has been sold to pay for the number of people.

Living with a third-class husband, women will quickly wither, become less and less confident, more and more suspicious of themselves, and more and more pleasing to each other.

02

Second-class husband: Ignore you

A wife asked the question: "The couple does not have more than 10 sentences a day, how can such a day be lived?" ”

The wife said that her husband was out of work every day, never called when he was fine, and went to the bathroom for an hour from the time he came home and came out for dinner.

And when a wife wants to talk to her husband, she is always prevaricated by the excuse of "you understand me more".

Such a husband, generally a bit of a male superiority and female inferiority, feel that they earn some wages, go home every day, do not drink, do not domestic violence, do not have affairs, is the greatest contribution to the family.

As for good communication with his wife and giving his wife a proper sense of ceremony, there is no one.

They face all day long, as if they are not comrades-in-arms, not partners, but more like free nannies in the employment relationship.

With a second-class husband together, you will soon be able to cultivate into a form you don't know:

Before marriage, the bottle cap cannot be screwed, and after marriage, you can hold up the 30-pound baby with one hand, and you can also go to the sixth floor without panting;

Speak freely before marriage, and after marriage, in the increasingly silent marriage, depressed.

In a survey of married people, 25 percent of couples talk for less than 10 minutes a day, and 4 percent of men are too busy at work to completely neglect their partner care.

Originally, marriage was to find a person who knew and loved each other to walk through the second half of life together, happiness was shared, pain was shared.

But if the other half doesn't pay attention to you, what's the difference between that and a stranger?

Husbands and wives are supposed to be each other's listeners and talkers, but if either party refuses to communicate and only accepts and does not respond to the lover's efforts, then the relationship has lost its meaning.

03

First-class husband: The wife has the final say

A friend often says a sentence that is, "The wife has the final say."

Many people think he is afraid of his wife, but he is proud.

He said: "Wives are used for pain, not for bullying."

She hadn't eaten a single grain of rice from my family before she married me, and after marrying me, she risked her life to have children and take care of the family.

Every day when I come home from work, I see that the house is clean and clean, and there are delicious meals on the table, and I feel that I am really happy.

Even if I am good to her, it is not as good as she has paid for me.

I know that all she has to give is for the family to be better, so there is something, she has the final say. ”

On the surface, the first-class husband seems to be quite unconscioned. In fact, they are because they have a clear conscience.

They have enough energy to accommodate their wives' small emotions.

They understand that women are emotional animals, as long as they make their wives happy, educating their children and honoring the elderly will be more effective.

The mantra of a first-class husband is often like this:

"Wife, do you think this is okay?" "Wife, you've worked hard!" "Wife, I know it's right to listen to you!"

In their world, no matter what their women are, there is no one to replace.

With a first-class husband, women just need to be themselves.

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Marriage is long, there are thousands of men in the world, but not all women can meet first-class husbands.

But no matter what, two people live a life, and it is always two hearts that are running in.

If you just blindly take, ignore each other's efforts, and treat the other half with evasion and indifference, then even if the husband and wife love each other again, they will eventually be exhausted.

When we know how to manage the marriage with our hearts, care more about each other's feelings, listen to each other's voices, and cherish each other's efforts, the relationship between husband and wife will naturally become closer and closer.

It's easy to fall in love, it's not easy to get married.

I wish everyone a first-class husband!