In the past, the carriage and horse were very slow, and there was only enough to love one person in a lifetime. Married, even if it is a coincidence, you can hold hands for a lifetime.
Today's men and women have given a new definition of marriage, pursuing different things. Some men and women only want to get something from each other, but they don't want to give. Some men and women are unilaterally wishful thinking, but the other party is full of calculations for themselves.
In the marriage of husband and wife with different hearts, the selfishness of two people will become heavier and heavier, and they both want to take refuge in the haven of marriage, but they do not want to be a port.
In marriage, there is no possibility of being alone, or one is prosperous and the other is lost.
However, many people do not understand this truth, always think that they are not wrong, the wrong person is a partner, and do things that hurt the partner, chill the partner's heart, wait until the partner wants to leave, and first beat a rake to blame the partner for being ruthless and unjust.
Zhang Sheng (pseudonym) has been separated from his wife for many years, and his life is plain and happy, but his wife is very dissatisfied with this, thinking that he can't make money, eloping with other men when his daughter is more than three years old, divorcing and marrying a man who is richer than Zhang Sheng after the incident, Zhang Sheng can't erase his face and leave.
Three years later, Zhang Sheng "returned to his hometown", brought back his wife and children, and the family of four lived a life full of fireworks. The couple contracted a lot of land, hired helpers, and earned an annual income of more than 200,000 yuan, and the days became more and more prosperous.
After the ex-wife learned that her eyes were red, she often took the opportunity to see her daughter to his house, which caused Zhang Sheng's current wife to be very dissatisfied, knowing that his wife was angry, Zhang Sheng consulted with his ex-wife, saying that she wanted to see her daughter call directly, they drove their daughter to her home, the ex-wife went away sadly, and she never came to see her daughter again.
People with many affairs asked Zhang Sheng, saying that his ex-wife wanted to eat back grass, was he not moved?
Zhang Sheng said that husband and wife are one, and I can still distinguish who is really living with me. He was very grateful to his current wife, marrying him who had nothing, didn't mind him taking a child, and he couldn't live up to a woman who was willing to share his happiness and suffering.
Whether the husband and wife can live to old age, love is not so important, but to see whether each other can achieve "two-way running", do not give up.
In a good marriage, men and women go in both directions, rather than counting each other.
In a good marriage, men and women don't count each other out on money.
Married life is inseparable from the support of the material foundation, chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea all need money, but because of the difference in the division of labor between husband and wife, many people will quarrel because of monetary interests, and then there will be contradictions, there will be mutual calculations in money, afraid that they will pay more money than each other, and have a different kind of careful thinking.
In a good marriage, the husband and wife will not be too clearly divided, but will go in both directions.
The feelings of President Kim and Ms. Leopard in "Please Answer 1988" are the epitome of many ordinary couples, who can share hardships and happiness.
At the beginning of the family, the family lived on a tight budget, nestled in the basement, and although there were quarrels, they still did not abandon it. President Kim worked so hard to support his family, and his wife did not blame him.
Later, when he got rich, President Kim still saved money and was reluctant to spend money, but he spoiled his wife who liked to buy a bunch of skin care products, and did not dislike his wife for spending money indiscriminately, but cared about his wife everywhere.
His love and thoughtfulness also exchanged for the response of his wife, who knew that he was reluctant to spend money, took the initiative to take him to buy, and was considerate to him. Husband and wife love, become the object of envy of those around them.
Husbands and wives do not calculate each other in money, in order to maximize the benefits of money, otherwise they are mutually restrained and bound to each other.
In a good marriage, giving is a two-way street.
Happy couples in marriage, there may not be a gorgeous romance between each other, but in the payment of more mutual understanding, the first consideration is the needs of the other party.
O Henry's masterpiece, Maggie's Gift, tells the story of a poor couple.
Jim and Della learned after starting a family that Chai Mi Gui had spent all his income just to support his daily expenses, and was often financially stretched. In order to give each other gifts, Jim sold an ancestral gold watch and bought his wife a hairbrush she had longed for for a long time, because she had beautiful hair.
Della cherished her hair so much that she sold her hair to buy a bracelet for her husband.
When two people see the gift from the other person, they do not complain to each other, but look at each other and laugh.
At the same time, the most precious thing they give up is the two-way rush of love and giving, and their sincerity can be learned in the process.
Bi Shumin said:
"A good man and a good woman, in the days of common tribulation, is a strange animal with four legs and four hands. Although they have two hearts, they have only one thought—they are in the same boat through thick and thin. ”
In a good marriage, husband and wife achieve each other, can share the wind and rain, and can understand and pay each other, willing to give each other what they want, and make the marriage indestructible.
In a good marriage, men and women support each other and fulfill each other.
Many people feel tired in marriage, not because there is something wrong with their bodies, but because some kind of need is not being met in their partner.
Uncles and aunts have grandchildren, and old husbands and wives often quarrel over an incident when they first got married. The aunt said that she was panicked about marrying her uncle, and worked hard for the family, but she could not get her uncle's approval. When she was poor, she asked her uncle for money to buy meat to visit her sick father, but when her uncle didn't give it, she cried. Even if she later became rich, her uncle gave her all the money for safekeeping, and the harm this incident brought to her would be remembered for the rest of her life.
This phenomenon is very common among ordinary couples, when encountering difficulties or problems, expecting the partner to become their own dependence, but found that he has become a person who drags their legs, tearing each other down and hurting each other.
In a good marriage, husband and wife are in the same heart, can not be separated, and can be in the same boat when the other party suffers.
In Jim and Della's marriage, the two people are perfecting each other, you understand my difficulties, I understand your needs.
Even if the days are poor, they are running in both directions, trying to plant the seeds of happiness for each other in the gaps of suffering, and then watering them diligently until the flowers and leaves are flourishing and crawling through each other's hearts.
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