When two people are together, they are happy with each other, treat each other as confidants, are willing to open their hearts to each other, feel that the other party is the soul mate in their own lives, want to stay with each other, no matter what kind of ups and downs they encounter together, they will feel that having each other together is an incomparably happy thing, such two people, accompanying each other until old age.
However, not everyone has such a blessing, two people who originally loved each other, because some encountered some things, there were some twists and turns in their feelings, and finally they could not stay together to the end, which inevitably made people feel sorry.
In fact, many people who love each other, when they start to hold hands, can treat each other sincerely, can put each other in their hearts, and with the passage of time, the feelings between them have faded, and their feelings for each other have slowly worn out.
At this time, they had the idea of breaking up with each other, but they had some concerns, they didn't know how to do it for a while, and they felt worried in their hearts, and they didn't know whether to break up or make up. At this time, it is normal to be worried, however, the feelings are gone, whether they should be made up or not, is also a problem that must be faced.
One. Why did you compromise, would you choose to make it up, and what are your concerns?
When two people are together, there is no feeling for each other, or the other party loves you, you have no feelings for each other, you want to get together with each other, or because the other party has done something wrong, completely chill your heart, you have no feelings for each other, and you want to directly mention the group.
However, when you want to say "break up", you hesitate because you have concerns in your heart.
At this time, there is a force that prevents you from mentioning a breakup, and you will subconsciously choose to make it up. You compromise because you have concerns in your heart:
Worrying about yourself breaking up is a kind of negative heart, the other party will be sad, you don't want to hurt each other; worry about leaving each other, the child does not have a complete family, you do not want to hurt the child; worry that you have left the other party, you can not live independently, for their future and feel infinite anxiety.
Because of the above reasons, there are more concerns, even if the feelings are gone, you will choose to make it up. However, can you really make your life a little better by repeatedly making it? Can you really get the results you want?
Two. If you make it up, what will be the result?
Sometimes, you have no feelings for each other, it is time that consumes the feelings between you, you have no feelings for each other, you don't have a feeling of heartbeat when you see each other, so suddenly you don't love.
Or, the other party is addicted to vices and does wrong things, which is an unbearable sting in your heart, and you no longer love each other.
At this time, you will make up with the other party because of some concerns, and you have not mentioned the other party to break up, or mention the breakup, the other party coaxed you, and you chose to make it up.
However, if the feelings are gone, and they are still making up again and again, will they make themselves happy as a result? Obviously, two people have no feelings for each other, and when they are together, there is no feeling of pleasure, which is a thing that makes them feel difficult. When two people have no feelings, two people often present three states:
Two people will maintain a superficial harmony, two people will argue constantly, and they will be preoccupied with small things, or two people will be suspicious and neither will be willing to take care of each other.
Three. What are the benefits of no longer making it up?
Two people have no feelings for each other, and they choose to make up with each other, whether it is to maintain superficial harmony, or to tear up their faces, and they are unwilling to maintain harmony on the face anymore, which is a kind of consumption for both people.
They are not happy with each other, there is no happiness to speak of together, why should they be done?
When two people no longer make up for each other, but let go of their old feelings and each find their own happiness, the result will be different.
Their lives will become more colorful, and in the end they will often find their own happiness and live happily.