Marriage is not a necessity, but you want to continue to walk with him, you will want to get married. In "Dear Child", there are too many depressions and anxieties, but this is reality.
People say that marriage is the graveyard of love, and every love is endlessly evocative, but when they enter marriage, most people are unable to look back, do not know when, tolerance has become a necessary quality in marriage.
Recently, "Dear Child" is being broadcast, and Fang Yinuo in the play has become a true portrayal of how many women have married. She looked in the mirror and wiped off the thick foundation on her face, how many people broke the defense.
As the camera moves down, the bulging pregnant belly is crawling with stretch marks, and she smiles sadly and relievedly, sad that she is no longer a green girl, happy about the arrival of the child.
It is natural for girls to love beauty, but a girl becomes a mother, there are some costs, such as you have to face the mirror to see your ugly self, you must change your identity and say goodbye to your former self.
You can only bear these pressures in silence, and the collapse of adults is never a hysterical roar, but a pillow soaked in the nest in the middle of the night.
In the play, Fang Yinuo's husband Xiao Lu seems to be a responsible husband, he agreed to the requirements of many wives during Fang Yinuo's pregnancy, but it is such a reliable husband, when his wife gives birth, he is drinking and sleeping.
In the past, the child was a ghost door closed, and now although the medicine is developed, after experiencing layers of pregnancy tests, the safety is greatly improved, but with the substantial changes in hormones, the psychology of pregnant women is very sensitive and very fragile, and what pregnant women need most at this time is the company from their husbands. However, in "Dear Child", The absence of Xiao Lu when Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child made people feel cold.
It was never the last straw that crushed the camel, and Fang Yinuo and Xiao Lu's marriage finally came to an end.
From the absence of childbirth to the time of confinement when he became a hand-throwing treasurer, the most unforgivable thing is that he actually crossed the bottom line of marriage and cheated.
Again and again to make people feel cold, Qin Hao's acting skills are beyond doubt, he portrays a selfish, evasive, irresponsible husband to the bone. After watching the actor's performance, we are all depressed, and we are all distressed about Fang Yinuo's encounter.
Because these ordinary but real fragments are experienced by many married women.
No one can understand the pain of opening the finger on the delivery bed, postpartum urinary incontinence is embarrassing but real, the first bite of breast milk given to the child, it is the pain mixed with excitement, the pain of breastfeeding is the pain that the mother has to endure. Then, I couldn't sleep all night, fed in the middle of the night, and hugged until dawn was almost a true reflection of my mother in the moon.
Fang Yinuo in the play not only has to face physical discomfort, but also constantly negotiates family relations. The mother-in-law's experiential parenting concept and irresponsible habits add to the tone of the repressive life.
Marriage is not only the union of two people, but also the collision of two families.
In the play, the mother-in-law played by Li Qinqin can be described as deeply rooted in the hearts of the people, after Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, she did not care about the body of her daughter-in-law, and only wanted to take her granddaughter's placenta bag to her younger son.
In the ward, she did not go to see her daughter-in-law for the first time, but only cared about her granddaughter, the weak Yinuo wanted to drink but could not reach it, and the mother-in-law did not care, but the mother-in-law who entered the door saw it at a glance, which is the difference between the mother-in-law and the mother.
The mother-in-law only saw the joy of Tim Ding in her eyes, while the mother saw the pain of her daughter's childbirth.
In traditional Chinese families, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has once become the top priority, and many couples marry, and their daughters-in-law are integrated into the husband's big family. The ideas of two generations collide, and the house is always filled with smoke.
Although the mother-in-law in the play became a guest, her irresponsibility and vices deeply hurt her granddaughter. As a mother, the most intolerable thing is that the child is injured, so it also leaves a scratch in Fang Yinuo's heart.
The biggest highlight of this drama is that it uses real life as the background to lead to marriage, childbirth and other issues.
"Infidelity in marriage", "contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law", "difference in parenting concepts", all kinds of problems in the play, are all encountered in real life.
From the new birth to the rift, the show magnifies the details infinitely, so big that we can see ourselves in marriage, and it seems as if we are all living in the show after a few episodes. The endless crying of children, the quarrels and cold wars between husband and wife, and the tit-for-tat confrontation between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, are overwhelming, as if the sun cannot shine in.
In the face of the real texture, we can't help but wonder, what is the marriage we are desperately trying to do? How many husbands are qualified in thousands of families, how many husbands can understand the exhaustion of their wives' pregnancies, and how many husbands help with the care of children during the month?
The woman who was married and had children didn't just go from youth to maturity.
Every woman wants to live as a little princess, but in the end they all become a woman, in fact, the essence of marriage is the blandness of life, we must break the beautiful love of Mary Sue, when we enter the role of wife and mother, we will taste the bittersweet and bittersweet in the long married life.
In our country, there is inevitably some interference from traditional ideas, many men believe that taking care of children is the duty of women, women have children and even take children is natural, never take the handle.
According to statistics, 60% to 80% of women will have different degrees of depression during pregnancy and after childbirth, and nearly 20% will develop clinical depression.
These new mothers have to accept the transformation of identity and bear the hardships of parenting.
Now women's willingness to marry is getting lower and lower, many people are unable to withstand economic pressure, and many people are unable to accommodate the trivialities in marriage.
Modern society has higher and higher requirements for women, both gentle and virtuous, going to the kitchen under the halls, and making money to support the family, taking care of the family, and not having a temper, and for men, as long as they do not cheat, they are good men.
Chinese mothers are not born strong, but are forced to be strong, and the word "forbearance" runs through the lives of most Chinese mothers.
Although, marriage that breaks the filter makes many people prohibitive, many young people are "afraid of marriage and childbearing". However, happy marriages under the filter also abound. Although there are also chicken feathers, quarrels, economic pressures, and fatigue with children, there is also warmth, sweetness, bland beauty, and the cute appearance of children's teeth and teeth to call their parents and mothers.
Those husband and wife who are united in their hearts, take care of the family together, work hard together, and move towards the same goal are really moving.
Inside and outside the play, we should think about the problems that couples should pay attention to when getting along, and face the shortcomings that will always exist in life. Think about how to find balance in marriage, prepare well before childbearing, and strengthen your heart when facing problems.
As the civil affairs bureau's new slogan goes, "Marriage is not necessarily happy, single is not necessarily unhappy, one person at birth and cannot be two people when leaving, love is a luxury, no." ”
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