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I watched a video: "About me being only thirty years old, still single, no one likes me, and I have never liked anyone else." ”
Many people are now past the so-called marriageable age, but they are still single.
As the video blogger puts it: "Being single doesn't mean being left behind, it's an active choice for most people." ”
1. Why am I not in love
I remember reading a news story a long time ago, a teenager who chose to live lightly because he was addicted to crossover novels. I thought I could go to that world.
As a result, she left her family with endless regrets. And all this is only because she can't tell the difference between reality and life.
In fact, when we were young, we would also read a lot of love novels, whether it was a campus love, Prince Charming met Cinderella, they were all filled in our youthful and ignorant age.
But we know it. We will not become the protagonists in it, the bridges in those idol dramas, and we will not really happen to us one day.
Therefore, when there are only our classmates in the circle of life, we cannot fantasize about love through their untrimmed appearance.
And when we grow up, for various reasons, we look down on the so-called love, so many people are not willing to fall in love, they like and enjoy the single life.
Because, this is the simplest way of life they have received. If you don't start, you don't end. In life, you can avoid a lot of unnecessary disputes.
In the eyes of single mothers and fetuses, being single does not mean being left behind, but rather that they have made an independent choice and chosen an ordinary way of life.
2. Marriage, there must be love
An aunt I know once said: "Marriage must be to make you happy, not to make you bad." ”
Auntie spent decades teaching a man to grow and love. However, he will not change for himself in the slightest, and he will still do his own thing.
So, she chose to give up. She doesn't have a time machine to go back to the past, but, at the very least, she can choose her future and how it should move forward.
Actually, if you're just choosing a marriage, it's a very simple thing. Especially for this era when marriage and love are becoming more and more open.
Even, a person who has only had a few faces, after understanding the other party's family background and work personality, there are not a few people who have ripped off the evidence.
However, such a marriage has no basis for love. They chose marriage just to live together.
But such a marriage is easy to make its already unstable subject collapse because of the friction of various lives.
Because they don't love each other, their marriage, children, and lives are all just making choices for the sake of choice, and they are more likely not to consider each other's feelings.
But such a marriage, the probability will only make your sense of happiness fall off a cliff, the sense of weight is instantly enhanced, is this really the life you want?
3. I am single and happy too
There are a lot of advice online for singles who are not yet married, and the advice for thirty-year-olds who are not yet married is:
"If you're thirty and haven't met the guy who makes you want to get married, then you're just going to wait."
Because, for most people in their thirties, they already have enough experience and are very clear about what they want.
At this moment, we should not be aggrieved to achieve the satisfaction of others, not to mention that others will not be satisfied.
In other words, you can choose to fall in love with anyone, but you can't lose yourself by falling in love with anyone.
Single or in love. It's all your choice, and you're responsible for your choices, not forever looking at someone else's good.
Because, the pain and bad things in other people's lives, they won't tell you. Humans are always used to showing their better side to others.
So, don't marry for the persuasion of others. Look firmly at the future and think about what the love or life you really want is like.
4. There's nothing wrong with not being in love
Parents always say: "You are so old, you will not marry again, what can you do when you are old?" “
Strangers always say: "When you are older and single, you are low in the eyes, your own conditions are not good, and you have to ask for so much." “
But the actual situation, only you know. You just want a solid life, a stable job, a happy marriage.
These things are all true. It is not wrong not to be in love, forcing yourself to do fruitless things and live a life that you do not want is a big mistake.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.