1. Standing at the crossroads of life, 47-year-old Ha Lixiu is facing the double abyss of health and quality of life!
When we talk about Ha Li-so, at the age of 47, she still has a dazzling and beautiful appearance, but what is amazing is that the physical condition of this "most beautiful transgender" who once led the trend of the Korean entertainment industry is deteriorating day by day.
The heavy burden of long-term use of various hormonal drugs is gradually becoming apparent - Ha Lixiu suffers from severe osteoporosis, and the loss of calcium in the bones is more severe than that of an 80-year-old woman.
Every time she danced on stage in her high heels, there was a sharp pain in the joints of her body, which was almost unbearable.
Once, during an ordinary performance, Ha Ri-so suddenly felt a sharp pain in her lower limbs, and her painful expression was clearly visible on her face. Seeing this, the staff immediately helped her off the stage and rushed her to the hospital for treatment.
After the doctor's diagnosis, it turned out that the side effects of long-term hormone therapy had seriously damaged her bone health.
In order to maintain her figure, Ha Lixiu is also too harsh in her diet, almost no meat food, and only chooses vegetarian vegetables such as cauliflower. Due to the insufficient nutrient intake to meet the body's needs, her physical condition deteriorated and she suffered severe losses.
(From childhood to the age of 18, Ha Ri-so was repeatedly ridiculed and bullied by her family and peers for her feminine behavior.) Her mother would punch and kick her angrily after she found out she was secretly wearing her dress; Her father, on the other hand, abused and abused Ha Ri-so because she couldn't understand it.
At school, her classmates gave Ha Li-su the nickname "sissy", and some even forcibly pushed her into the women's bathroom, causing a burst of screams and laughter. However, despite all the hardships she has endured, Ha Ri-so's unwavering belief in becoming a woman has never wavered.
Today's Ha Lixiu, the quality of life is not as good as before, but she is getting farther and farther away from the state of "health" on the surface.
Second, the arduous process of gender change and the brilliant take-off of the career
At the age of 18, Ha Ri-so fell in love with a man like her first love. Although the other party also has a good impression of her, she has always been reluctant to have any intimate behavior with Ha Lixiu in public.
This makes Ha Ri-so determined to achieve her true self by changing her gender.
In this way, the young Ha Ri-so, only 20 years old, embarked on a journey to a foreign country alone, and began that years-long and difficult transgender journey in Japan.
While she struggled to educate herself in order to obtain a high degree, she patiently waited for the major surgery that gave her a new identity.
The recovery process after the surgery was undoubtedly extremely painful, and the pain of tearing her skin tormented Ha Ri-so endlessly, and in order to alleviate this pain, she had to take a lot of painkillers in her daily life.
To make matters worse, she was confined to a liquid diet for a period of time after the surgery, which made her diet extremely poor.
However, it was with amazing perseverance that Ha Ri so was able to grit her teeth and persevere, and finally successfully completed this long and arduous sex reassignment surgery.
(At the age of 23, Ha Ri-so underwent a gorgeous metamorphosis from a handsome young man to a delicate woman.) In one fell swoop, she became the most beautiful "transgender" in Korean history, which swept the whole of South Korea and countless men fell in love with her.
Major variety shows have also sent invitations to this unique "transgender star", and Ha Rixiu proudly said that "she can earn as much as 100 million won (about 540,000 yuan) just by participating in two events".
From an ordinary little boy who experienced ruthless bullying and discrimination in society, and finally realized his dream of gender remodeling, and became an "artificial beauty" in the limelight, Ha Ri-so wrote an amazing miracle with her life.
However, just as her career is booming and her quality of life has been greatly improved, her deep desire for love is gradually expanding. Next, her goal is to find a partner who will be with her for the rest of her life.
3. The sweetness of 31-year-old and 6-year-old boyfriend Zheng Yingzhen entering the marriage hall
In 2006, 31-year-old Ha Ri-so met a romantic and charming 6-year-old man at an event - the famous singer Jung Young-jin. Jung Young-jin, who fell in love with him at first sight, launched a passionate pursuit of Ha Ri-so, and although Ha Li-so politely declined many times, he never gave up.
After more than a year of unremitting efforts, Jung Young-jin's deep affection finally touched Ha Ri-so's heart.
Facing questions from the media, Ha Ri-so smiled shyly like an innocent girl, and her face was full of happiness.
However, Ha Ri-so's romance with Jung Young-jin was not approved by Jung Young-jin's family at first. When they first visited, Ha Ri-so was inevitably treated coldly by her in-laws, despite being already a hot female star and a well-known public figure.
Thankfully, Jung Young-jin's always firm and persistent belief finally prompted the in-laws to reluctantly accept this unforgettable emotion.
As early as 2007, the streets and alleys of South Korea and major media rushed to report the grand wedding news of this "Century Romance". Their wedding was grandly held in an atmosphere of national attention, and its romance even surpassed the wedding of the century when the "leader" and "big baby" were entertained.
(At the wedding scene, Jung Young-jin affectionately promised Ha Ri-so: "I won't care that you can't have children, let alone your past, I will spend my life caring for you and loving you.")
Ha Ri-so was deeply moved by this deep vow, and tears welled up in her eyes.
In this way, Ha Lixiu finally ushered in her own love at the age of 31 and stepped into a new chapter in her life. She was once rejected and discriminated against by society, but now she has her own love and marriage, how hard this happiness is! .
However, 10 years of married life ended in nothing.
As a transgender Ha Ri so, it is an indisputable fact that she is unable to have children. Deep down, she also longs to be able to conceive offspring and become a true mother.
Once upon a time, she even racked her brains to try to achieve her dream of having a baby by medical means by transplanting a uterus.
However, the doctor ruthlessly denied it - even if the uterus was successfully transplanted, Ha Ri-so's body structure could not form the fallopian tubes connected to it, so it was impossible to achieve pregnancy and conception.
This was undoubtedly a heavy blow that completely shattered Ha Ri-so's hopes.
Despite this, Jung Young-jin and Ha Ri-so always show their affection in public and never quarrel. However, in private, contradictions are quietly accumulating.
(Ex-husband Jung Young-jin remarried an amateur woman who was two years younger than him soon after, and the good news of her pregnancy quickly spread.) When sharing his parenting experience, he insinuated to Ha Lixiu: "Who made you fail to give birth to a son and a half daughter for me in 10 years?" This is undoubtedly the most profound ridicule and hurt to his former wife.
In this way, one day in 2017, Jung Young-jin suddenly filed for divorce from Ha Ri-so on the grounds that "I need a child, and you can't have children". This crushed Ha Ri-so like a thunderbolt from the blue, as if her husband's old vows were still echoing in her ears.
Fourth, the marriage is broken, the passionate emotions are difficult to control, and the domestic violence is wrong
As the so-called fate plays tricks on people, and under the passion, Ha Lixiu can't suppress the anger in her heart and decides to wave her palm at her husband. Unexpectedly, this move instead caused a counterattack from the other party, and Ha Lixiu, who called the police to complain about violence, was detained in accordance with the law on charges of domestic violence.
As a result, this marriage that seemed to be flawless and lasted for ten years before was instantly shattered into shards of broken glass.
Fifth, in the middle age stage, the emotional road is frustrated, and the physical condition is getting worse
The divorce incident undoubtedly dealt Ha Ri-so an unprecedented blow, but beautiful love still awaits ahead, and she has not given up on finding a new relationship.
Shortly after the divorce, an entrepreneur who was four years older than her fell in love with her at first sight and launched a passionate pursuit offensive. The entrepreneur doesn't care about Ha Lixiu's gender identity, he doesn't care if Ha Lixiu can have children, but only cares about Ha Lixiu herself.
Faced with questions from the media, Ha Lixiu behaved unusually calmly. After the failure of her previous marriage, she finally realized that marriage is not the whole of life, and spending the rest of her life with her beloved is the most precious.
"Whether it's marriage or love, as long as we truly love each other, it's enough." Ha Lixiu said with a smile, her face filled with a sense of ease and calmness that she had never felt before.
However, just as Ha Ri so is immersed in sweetness, the physical defects that are unique to transgender people are gradually revealed. The side effects of long-term intake of hormone drugs have caused serious damage to her bone health, and the problem of bone loss is becoming more and more serious.
In order to maintain her figure, Ha Ri-so was too harsh in her diet and was malnourished for a long time, which further aggravated her weakness. Once, during a stage performance, her legs suddenly ached violently, and her painful expression was clearly displayed on her face, and she almost fell on the spot.
(A routine physical examination revealed that Ha Lixiu's bone density was much lower than that of an 80-year-old woman.) Hormone therapy and nutritional imbalances have deteriorated the 47-year-old artificial beauty's physical condition, which is in sharp contrast to her glamorous appearance.
The deterioration of her physical condition prompts Ha Ri-so to begin to reflect on her life path. In order to realize the "female" dream in her heart, she has paid too much.
6. Looking back, how will she make the final choice?
The 47-year-old Ha Ri so is still beautiful and sometimes even sings a few songs for the audience in small performance venues. Whenever she sees the jubilant fans in the audience, she always has a slightly tired but happy smile on her face.
Once upon a time, the top idol who led the Korean fashion trend and became famous has now become dull, but the deep troubles in his heart have not diminished a little. As an elderly person who has experienced gender reassignment, Ha Ri-so's physical condition has deteriorated day by day, and she suffers from severe osteoporosis, which makes her feel unbearable pain in her joints when she dances, as if it is about to shatter.
What is even more sad is that in order to maintain the graceful posture of women, Ha Lixiu has always strictly controlled her diet and taken a lot of hormone drugs, which makes her body increasingly depleted, and it is difficult for her nutrition to keep up with consumption, and sometimes she even looks weaker than her actual age of 80-year-old lady.
Looking back, in order to realize that persistent pursuit of "self", Ha Ri-so paid a huge price - her originally promising acting career suffered a heavy blow, her 10-year marriage finally failed, her hope of childbirth became unattainable, and her physical condition deteriorated.
If the god of fate really gave her a chance to start over, would she still resolutely embark on that long and painful road to transgenderism? For Ha Lixiu, this question is undoubtedly worth pondering.
Perhaps, instead of becoming an "artificial beauty" in the eyes of others, it is better to cherish your own authenticity and live an ordinary, healthy and happy life. In the journey of love, gender is important, but in contrast, the harmony between the mind and the body is the more important factor.
The story of Ha Ri so is a wake-up call that the blind pursuit of superficial glamour often comes at a heavy price. Only by making prudent choices and living our true selves wholeheartedly can we win the happy life that truly belongs to us.