"No matter how good the relationship between husband and wife, don't do these things for your husband"

22.04.06 10:00PM Miss you.

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Many people think that as long as two people love each other enough, they can work together for a lifetime, but the reality is far more complicated than imagined.

Marriage is never an easy task.

Mr. Lin Yutang once said this:

"Marriage is like a carved ship, see how you admire her and how you control it."

When two people get married and live a life, it is inevitable that there will be stumbling. If you want a long-term married life, you must know how to move forward and stop.

Especially for women, no matter how much they love a man, these three things must not be done.

01.

Don't be humble and flattering

I believe that many people have heard such a sentence:

"Loving someone makes you very low, low to the dust, and out of the dust you blossom."

In the world of feelings, the more deeply a woman loves, the easier it is to lose herself.

For a man, exhausted the tears of the rest of his life;

For the sake of a family, give up their own happiness;

Burn a lifetime of enthusiasm for a marriage...

Because I love each other too much, I am willing to give anything and ignore anything.

In the end, I found that the person who does not love you, no matter how much you please, can not ask for a little touch from him.

Loving someone can be affectionate, can be carved to the bone, and must not be too flattering.

When you really go down to the dust, what awaits you must not be the joy of the rose blooming, but the sadness of the chicken feathers on the ground.

Beauvoir said a word:

"I'm eager to see you, but remember, I'm not going to ask to see you."

This is true of love, and it is also true of marriage.

Only when two people go in both directions can they see the sea of stars when they meet.

Otherwise, your humble begging alone will only lose love and dignity.

Women must remember that the posture is not equal, and it is doomed to have a good ending.

02.

Don't always go through old accounts

In the movie "Ten Thousand Sentences in a Sentence", there is a line that makes people impressive: "When they are in love, they have endless words, and after marriage, they have endless quarrels." ”

Quarreling is a compulsory course for almost every couple.

Married life, it is inevitable that chickens and dogs will be broken, and two people whose three views are in harmony will also have conflicts and disputes.

If you can grasp the measure, quarrels are the spice of life, which can deepen the understanding of two people.

On the contrary, if you lose your measure, the quarrel is a disaster and will hurt the feelings.

In marriage, there is no perfect party, and it is already a great thing to be able to change it when it is wrong.

Therefore, always clinging to the other party's previous mistakes is tantamount to uncovering his inner scars again and again.

No matter how good the feelings are, they can't withstand such hurt.

The trick to two people being together for a long time is not to turn over old accounts. What about turning it over? But one is harder, the other is more irritated...

A truly intelligent woman must know how to turn the page so that she can make her life better and better.

03.

Don't make a big deal out of it

There's a line in "Young Pi" that says it well:

"Between husband and wife, it is that you are tired, I carry you for a ride, I am tired, you carry me for a ride, the back is tired, you can also change your shoulders and carry it for you for a while." 」

I don't know how many people's marriages seem to be stable, but in fact, the wife is alone in carrying the weight forward?

Washing and cooking alone, taking care of in-laws alone, repairing electrical appliances alone, sad and sad alone...

Over time, the small ship of marriage will eventually overturn on the vast sea of life because of a person's fatigue driving.

Strong winds and waves, only by bearing them together can we finally reach the other shore.

Therefore, don't let your efforts become reasonable, big packages, really can't be understood.

When you learn to let go and occasionally be lazy, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that two people side by side is the most beautiful tomorrow.

The writer Qinghuan once said:

"There is never an ideal marriage in this world that is unearned, only two people who are willing to run a marriage."

Deeply.

If you want a happy marriage, operating with your heart is the only way.

Therefore, we must remember that even if the relationship between husband and wife is good, these three things cannot be done: not humble and flattering, not turning over old accounts, and not taking care of big things.

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May you meet a better version of yourself

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