The two people got married, became the closest couple in the world, and had the most intimate relationship in the world.
We are very happy, and we feel that we are very lucky to meet the only person who fits in with us in the sea of thousands of people, and we firmly believe that we will definitely handle this relationship as we want it to be.
When we first became husband and wife, we never considered that one day, our marriage would become precarious because of the emergence of a person.
We even feel that as long as we have each other in our hearts, we can resist all the temptations in this world.
It's just that the world is unpredictable, and we can't predict what will happen in the future, and maybe when that day comes, we are at a loss and don't know how to deal with it.
Therefore, many times, we can only watch a relationship and go in a bad direction.
In a relationship between the sexes, after marriage, you meet the opposite sex with a heartbeat, and you can be happy in this way.
Changing hearts is instinctive, but loyalty is the choice
"Husband and wife have been together for seven years, do you feel tired?" This is a question I saw on Zhihu, and the high praise in the comment area replied like this-
The reader met a car model at a car show, the other party smiled, the figure was bumpy, every move was a thousand styles, and the laughter made the starlight eclipsed.
And the reader has been with his wife for seven years.
Once, when the reader went home, he just saw the work photos sent by the car model, which were exquisite and beautiful.
On the other hand, his wife, wearing pajamas that have long been unable to see the color, licks the vegetable leaves stuck between her teeth with her tongue, and her hair is oily.
In this strong contrast, at that moment, if there is no other thought in the reader's heart, it is false.
However, when the reader sees that his wife has not bought new clothes for several years in order to pay off the mortgage;
When he sees his wife making steaming hot meals every day and waiting for him to come home;
When he thought about how his wife was a delicate, dress-up girl before she married herself.
He felt how ridiculous his thoughts were at this moment, that marriage had turned his wife into a pyrotechnic person, and if not, she could also be a fairy who was not stained with dust.
Therefore, the reader deleted the contact information of the car model and put an end to the messy thoughts in his heart.
In fact, when we have been accustomed to a person for a long time, when another person who is different appears, we will have different thoughts in our hearts.
It's okay, we are animals after all, changing minds is instinct, but we are also different from animals, we know right and wrong, and we know right and wrong.
Therefore, changing hearts is instinctive, and loyalty is the choice.
Don't be touched by the occasional touch and ignore the long-term warmth
After staying in a relationship for a long time, you will feel that whatever the other party does to themselves is a matter of course.
Just like our parents remind us to dress more when it's cold, we don't think anything, but if it's a friend who reminds us to dress more when it's cold, we will feel, "Oh my God, how can this friend be so good to me?" ”
In fact, time will invisibly dilute a lot of things, making us forget that the person who has paid for a long time does not have to do this, but is willing to give for love.
But this does not serve as a reason for us to ignore it.
Many people meet the opposite sex after marriage, in large part because the other party's inadvertent actions give themselves a very warm feeling.
However, we should also understand that the occasional touch cannot offset the person who has always accompanied him, and has always paid and cared for himself.
Lin Yutang once said: "There are only four things in life: one is to sleep in your own bed; the second is to eat meals made by your parents; the third is to listen to your lover's love words; and the fourth is to play games with your children." ”
What we have to do is to cherish the people in front of us and cherish the feelings we already have.
Marriage is about constantly running, not ignoring it
Marriage, can not be established with each other to ignore, if this is the mentality, marriage is bound to become a mess.
In marriage, I met the opposite sex because the other party has characteristics that the other half does not have.
So, why don't we cultivate our other half and let him or her have the same characteristics, so that we don't have the freshness we want?
Moreover, there is no need to touch the moral bottom line.
The famous host Yang Lan said: "The best marriage is the joint efforts of two people, continuous progress, continuous improvement of themselves, and once again attract each other." ”
When we each other add new colors to our spiritual world, then we can continue to tap into different freshness from each other.
A hundred years of repair to cross the same boat, a thousand years to repair a sleep together, the fate of husband and wife together is not easy to get, can not be because of the appearance of others and "give it to others". Business is always the key to maintaining the attractiveness and freshness of the marriage.