As the saying goes, parents love their children, and they have a profound plan for it. Parents who love their children will plan for their children's future in advance. Even if the children do not need it, they are still persistent in preparing, no complaints, no regrets, perhaps this is the love of parents.
However, some parental love is based on hurting other children, commonly known as robbing the rich and helping the poor. Squeeze the children with good economic conditions to subsidize the children with bad economic conditions.
Many people scoff at this practice of sacrificing other children to fulfill their favorite children. After all, who wants to be the child who is squeezed and demanded by their parents?
01, the mother helped bring the grandson, three months with the son-in-law for twice to add money
Xiaoqin is 35 years old this year and has just given birth to her second daughter for more than a year. Because her own mother-in-law died a long time ago, her mother has been helping her take care of her eldest son and young daughter for all these years.
When Xiaoqin gave birth to a child, her mother just happened to help take care of the two children of her elder brother-in-law, Xiaoqin consulted with her sister-in-law, and took her mother to the house to help bring her son. When her son was three years old, she sent her mother back to her brother-in-law's house. Because the sister-in-law is putting on a face.
But no one expected that two years later, Xiaoqin accidentally became pregnant with her second child. In desperation, she had to ask her mother to help again, and also gave her 3,000 yuan a month for hard work. As for the family expenses and living expenses, xiaoqin and her husband bear the burden, and there is no need for the mother to be half distracted.
I thought that my mother would take 3,000 yuan a month to work hard and help bring her granddaughter at Xiaoqin's house. But who knows, the mother has subsidized all the 3,000 yuan to the brother-in-law behind her back. The little pension she had on hand was all subsidies for her brother-in-law.
Therefore, after only three months after my mother lived in, I mentioned 2 times to Xiaoqin and her husband to add money, and one mention was to add 1,000 yuan. The husband's face is ugly, but it is not easy to refuse, and he can only let Xiaoqin come forward to communicate.
02, the mother asked 3,000 living expenses to rise to 4,000
Xiaoqin thought about it left and right, and she couldn't think of her mother taking the child in her own home, she didn't need money to eat, drink, and live, and 3,000 yuan a month was a hard fee for her alone. Even the clothes of the four seasons of the year are Xiaoqin Zhangluo. It can be said that the mother has no place to spend money at all.
But even if Xiaoqin made the reason clear, the mother still insisted on adding money, rising to four thousand yuan a month, otherwise she could only go back to her son's house with the child. The mother's stubbornness somewhat left Xiaoqin speechless.
Xiaoqin and her husband's salary is not high, and they also have to raise two children and a mortgage and car loan, and they also have a hard time every month haha. But no matter how bitter it is, the couple still squeezes out 3,000 yuan from between their teeth every month, which is a hard work to repay their mother.
But obviously, the mother did not appreciate it, but did not care about their hardships at all, opened her mouth to ask for 4,000 yuan of hard work, and threatened them with strikes. Xiaoqin's heart was very unhappy, but this was her own mother, and she couldn't blame too much.
In fact, even if her mother did not say it, Xiaoqin knew that her mother's 3,000 yuan must have been subsidized to her brother-in-law. For her mother's tough attitude of insisting on money, Xiaoqin was also a little angry: Every month, 3,000 are all pasted by you to your daughter-in-law, and you still want us how to be filial piety.
Angry, Xiaoqin finally had no way, or had to grind hard bubbles on her mother, move her to understand the reason, try to impress her mother, persuade her not to add more money. But after saying a lot, my mother confessed truthfully, saying that the money was not spent by her, and she was also helpless.
Hearing this, Xiaoqin knew the bitterness in her mother's heart, and the mother went on to say: If she does not come to her daughter's house to take the child, the daughter has an opinion; if she comes to the daughter's house to take the child, the daughter-in-law has an opinion. She was distressed about her son and her two grandchildren, and she did not want her son to be divorced, so she could only paste all the 3,000 yuan that Xiaoqin and his wife respected every month to her daughter-in-law.
03, "pension still depends on sons and daughters-in-law"
But the daughter-in-law is still not satisfied, every three to five times with her son tantrums divorce, but also accused Xiaoqin's mother, the mother-in-law of not doing her duty, only to help her daughter with children, even her own grandson is abandoned.
Therefore, under the many dissatisfaction of the daughter-in-law, the mother had to ask the daughter and son-in-law for additional money with a thick face, otherwise the son's backyard would be on fire. At that time, the mother herself could no longer expect her son and daughter-in-law to retire.
Although Xiaoqin also has some sympathy for her mother's situation, she feels that her mother is still too eccentric to her brother and sister-in-law. Brothers and sisters-in-law have been married for ten years, but they still rely on the old man to support their sons. Now I still live by my sister's filial piety fee to my mother, which I don't know how to be laughed at.
Xiaoqin's mother's embarrassment and persistence, Xiaoqin saw it in her eyes, but she did not want to compromise again. Although she also understood her mother's embarrassment, she did not want to indulge her brother and sister-in-law like this again and again.
The mother brought children for them for several years, not only did not get a word of gratitude, but also took her daughter's money to support their family, and finally was threatened not to provide for the elderly. Xiaoqin explained the pros and cons to her mother clearly, and promised her that her mother's pension would be handed over to her and her husband in the future, and there was no need for her brother and sister-in-law to worry.
But the mother has always been uneasy and uneasy, she has always adhered to the old age or rely on her son and daughter-in-law, daughter and son-in-law can not be relied on. Xiaoqin could not persuade her mother, and could only prove it with actions.
Today's Topic:
Do you support Xiaoqin's mother's idea? Do I have to rely on my son and daughter-in-law for the elderly?
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