The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
I don't know when, there are many people around more and more reluctant to get married, in the face of family members' urging to marry, most of them choose to deal with it in an evasive way, and even some people will go to other places and only return home once a year.
If someone asks them why they don't want to get married, they mostly smile bitterly, as if "marriage" is the last thing they want to talk about and face.
Girlfriend Xiaomeng has been nearly 30 years old, she is the only one in our group of people who has not started a family, of course, the most urgent of course, the most urgent is of course Xiaomeng's parents, almost every time Xiaomeng goes home, the second elder will arrange a variety of blind dates for her, but the result of each blind date is that there is no disease, Xiaomeng either dislikes the other party's appearance does not conform to his own aesthetics, or dislikes his internal humor.
After a long time, seeing that Xiao Meng was so picky, the second elder simply ignored her and let her go.
Of course, as the best friend, I naturally also feel more concerned about Xiaomeng's lifelong events, and whenever I meet a high-quality boy around, I will introduce it to Xiaomeng to know, at the beginning, Xiaomeng is also very happy, saying that after finding a boyfriend, you must invite me to dinner.
However, after I introduced her to one boy after another, I finally did not expect that the first impatient, it was a small dream.
Xiao Meng said to me: Xuan, don't introduce me to the object again, I still tell you the truth, in fact, I am not disgusted with these men, the fundamental reason is that I am, I am not personally ready to get married, I now think of marriage, I feel very afraid.
I don't understand why Xiao Meng has such a way of thinking about it, and after thinking about it for a long time, Xiao Meng confided the truth to me.
1, a person's life is very casual
Xiao Meng said that he was lazy and used to being alone, usually not going to work on weekends, he could enjoy a free time alone, if there was suddenly one more person around, time would definitely be divided up and spent on him, you also know that I am a person with a heavier cleanliness, and the sisters who can usually get along with him are very few, if my other half is a sloppy person in the future, I think my life will definitely become a mess.
2, once married, the pressure on the shoulders will be much heavier
Now there are too many things needed to get married, such as bride price and marriage room.
Xiao Meng said: I am not opposed to the need to buy a new house when getting married, but with today's standard of living, there are a few young people who can stand in a city, and once they decide to get married, they will definitely face the pressure of the marriage house and the problem of family life after marriage.
Although my husband will bear all this, as a wife, how can I sit idly by, at that time, my quality of life will plummet, and the burden on my shoulders will make me breathless.
Of course, I don't want to escape, I just want to take advantage of the only time I have, enjoy the fun of being single, maybe in a few years, I will have my own intention to get married.
3. The child's problem
In addition to the marriage is the combination of the feelings of the two people, there is also the heavy responsibility of passing on the generations.
Xiao Meng said: I don't agree with Dink, because I think that life is only a hundred years old, and if after a hundred years, there are no heirs, then this person's life is a failure.
However, having a child is a big thing after all, not only to experience the pain of pregnancy in October, but also to face the education and growth of children in the future. 、
I think I can only postpone this plan indefinitely until I'm ready.
After listening to Xiao Meng's confession, I was silent for a long time.
Nowadays, the reason why more and more women are reluctant to get married and resist marriage, in the final analysis, their reasons are very similar to xiaomeng, they are unable to bear the weight of marriage. Marriage is not a personal battle, but two people need to work together to overcome the difficulties of life, if one person drops the chain, the marriage will be difficult to continue.
More and more women understand this truth, so they begin to resist marriage, but still hope that life can give them more tolerance, and when they think through or are fully prepared, they will naturally welcome the arrival of marriage.