I am 68 years old, only an only child, the demolition of my hometown was divided into 2.89 million, and my nephew rushed to say: "Uncle, I am the only male in the family, you have to give me half of this money." Can't afford to be outside

I am 68 years old, only an only child, the demolition of my hometown was divided into 2.89 million, and my nephew rushed to say: "Uncle, I am the only male in the family, you have to give me half of this money." Can't afford to be cheap for outsiders. The son-in-law came over and said, "Dad, you must be able to carry out who is your own child." Later, I planned to give my nephew 890,000, and my daughter said, "You go to your nephew's house to retire!" ”

Before I retired, I worked in the system, so I only had one child, my daughter Xiaoshan. Xiao Shan is 40 years old, works in Xi'an, Shaanxi Province, and is married to a local, and her life is not bad.

My wife died 8 years ago, just after I retired. After the death of my wife, after living alone for 2 years, I was really lonely, so I discussed with my daughter and followed them to live in Xi'an.

Because I only have one daughter, I plan to give them my family property. When I arrived in Xi'an, I sold the house in my hometown and gave the money to my daughter, a total of more than 800,000 yuan.

In addition, I have a monthly pension of 6800 and I give my son-in-law 3000 per month as my living expenses. In fact, as an old man, I can't spend that much every month. Give them this money, to put it bluntly, a subsidy. The pressure of life in Xi'an in recent years is actually quite large.

Looking back on the past 8 years, my daughter and I can be said to be fatherly and filial piety. My son-in-law's house was three bedrooms, and when I first moved in, they even gave me Xiangyang's large bedroom. I refused, I was an old man who didn't have to live in such a big room. The son-in-law said, "Dad, you can live here, with a bathroom, if you get up at night, it is convenient." "I was really moved, how thoughtful my son-in-law was thinking." Indeed, when you are older, it is easy to get up at night.

Every time my daughter cooks, she asks me, "Dad, what do you want to eat today?" ”

Even my granddaughter always came over to help me beat my back, and she said, "Grandpa, when you're old and can't walk, I'll buy you a wheelchair and push you to bask in the sun." "What a filial child.

My daughter and son-in-law were good to me, I was good to them, before my son-in-law bought a house, I took out my savings of 500,000 yuan to help him solve the problem of funds.

Of course, I also kept some for myself, and it is better for people to have some money in their hands when they are old, so they also have confidence.

I still have 2 younger brothers in my hometown, almost all of whom are girls, and only my second brother is a son. He is also the only male in our old Liu family.

I remember arguing when I was young, and my second brother scolded me on the grounds that I didn't have a son. However, it was all a matter of youth, and now that they are all old, although the relationship is not very intimate, it is still passable.

But in the past few years, I have disliked my brother a little. He called me several times and expressed to me, overtly and covertly, that his son was the only man in our family. What he meant was, let me give some of my property to my son. What he meant was that although I had children, he was a daughter. I gave my property to my daughter, which is equivalent to cheapening outsiders.

I don't care much about my brother's words, but when I think about it, there is also a little bit of truth. Speaking of which, my biggest regret in my life is that I don't have a son.

Last year, my nephew came to invite me to dinner, and when he left, he asked me to borrow money, and I gave 20,000 yuan, saying that I was borrowing, in fact, I didn't plan to ask for it, just as if I gave it to him.

However, the nephew was not grateful for this, and in the following period of time, he frequently asked me to borrow money, sometimes three or five thousand, sometimes tens of thousands. Less I will give appropriate points, more times I will shirk.

To this end, my brother also called me, he said: "Brother, my son is the only man in the family, you have to carry it clearly." ”

Usually it's a small thing, not a big problem.

Until the demolition of an old house under my name was divided into 2.89 million, everything changed.

Friends and relatives almost all know about this matter, and those who borrow money for a while are almost endless. Fortunately, I was in Xi'an, at my daughter's house, otherwise I really didn't know how to hide from those people. But the phone was really about to explode.

My brother and nephew also drove over overnight to discuss the demolition payment with me. At that time, my son-in-law said to me, "Dad, what does your money have to do with them, and what they come to discuss." ”

I said it's okay, they're all relatives. My brother said to me privately, "Brother, this money is the property of our old Liu family, don't you dare give it to outsiders, when the time comes, everyone in the village will laugh." ”

The nephew said, "Uncle, the fallen leaves are rooted in the icon, and you will have to go home in the future." ”

My daughter complained to me: "Usually there is no contact, and when I have money, I have come running over, what does it have to do with them?" ”

In the end, I divided it like this, giving my nephew 890,000 and the rest to my daughter and son-in-law. The male of the family cannot but give, the daughter is my own child, I naturally give her more. But I didn't expect my daughter and son-in-law to get angry, and they said, "Dad, since you want to fall leaves and return to the roots, then you should go to your nephew's house to retire." ”

Guys, am I assigning in the wrong way? Do you really give your nephew a penny at all? But after all, he is the only male member of our old Liu family?

@Star Stripe Emotion said

Hello uncle! First of all, thank you for sharing. Looking at your account, I think you are indeed at fault, and frankly, you still have a patriarchal mentality. Supposedly, this demolition money should be given to your daughter. Of course, I don't advocate giving it all, you can give your daughter half and keep half for yourself. There is no need for the nephew's side.

What age is it, and actually feel that giving the family property to the daughter has become a cheap person? That's your daughter, give her money, and improve her life and make her better off in the future.

Nephew is actually unreliable, can you really want your nephew to give you a pension? How is that possible? I've seen similar things in reality, and I say it well when I take the money. When the money is given to you and you really need him to retire, the face changes. He would surely say, you're not my dad.

The old man wants to pursue happiness in his old age, he must be clear, do not have any old thoughts, daughters and sons are actually the same thing, in the end are their own children.

Of course, your daughter and son-in-law are also a little stingy, so they took 2 million, and they were actually angry. Therefore, you should take more money, people are old, and more money is not a bad thing.