Giving up an ambitious job to become a "death midwife" who helps people die — and their last request may be a heartbreaking woman sharing how she did

Giving up an ambitious job to become a "death midwife" helps people die — and their final request can be heartbreaking

One woman shared how she quit her high-paying job to become a death midwife — helping people arrange their own deaths, And Alua Arthur, who left her legal job to help others plan their own lives, revealed people's heartbreaking final pleas.

The incident began in 2012 when Alua was on a bus in Cuba talking to a stranger who said she had uterine cancer and the two began discussing funeral plans. At that moment, Aruya said, she realized that the woman couldn't talk about these things with anyone close to her, which she thought was because people usually avoid the topic of death.

A few months later, her brother-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer, and she helped him through the last moments of his life.

It was then that Aruya knew that all she wanted to do was help those who were terminally ill or healthy, to plan for their lives, "and all I know is that there must be a better way to support one's loneliest and most isolated experience," she told The New York Times.

Now she's a death midwife, where she's trained hundreds of death attendants, a Los Angeles-based hospice support team that helps patients and their families plan for the emotional, practical, legal, and spiritual issues that accompany death.

The death midwife revealed that "emotions are expressed in a beautiful way" in some people's dying wishes, telling reporters that a young woman chose a family funeral where the site would be covered with white roses.

Another wanted to share her brownie recipe with the world and asked to keep the body in a baking sheet.

"Choose the part of the individual, who they are, what they care about," she said. Try to pour that into their deaths, because you'll find that the values we live will lead us to death. ”

She also said she had a plan for her own death, adding: "Then, when they see me taking my last breath, I want them to applaud my life and really appreciate me and wish I could die gracefully."

"I don't host more than one dying client at the same time because I want to be on call," she says. Whatever they need, I will do it. When a client comes to me with only a few weeks or months left, we make a long list of things to consider before we make a plan. This usually happens on the phone. Then I went to visit them and put my hand on them to really understand their physical condition and see what kind of support they had. I continued to see them weekly until their condition started to deteriorate rapidly, and then I went there more times. I may be there when they die, and if I'm not there, I'll come and stay with their family members or caregivers after they die until the funeral home comes. I can also help you with some practical matters – property, accounts, life insurance, documents. It's tiring to consider this when a family is also grieving, and I'm ready to help them. I would wait with the insurance company and arrange things like a funeral.

In addition to those dying, I often have several clients who need end-of-life planning advice. I can do a few at once. It could be someone who has just received hospice care and doesn't look so bad, or someone who has just received a diagnosis and wants to prepare.

Death is something that each of us must face, and it is not because we avoid discussing it so that we can not face it, and it is the best respect for the deceased to deal with the relevant matters of the deceased and give the deceased's family or relatives the greatest dignity.

The Slovaks are gone, and the ones who suffer are always the living.