In the finale of "Heart Residence", when I saw the scene where Gu Qingyu bought a house for Feng Xiaoqin, I suddenly felt particularly "heartbroken".
As a daughter-in-law from abroad, Feng Xiaoqin's heart is to have a house of her own, she once forced her husband to borrow money from her eldest sister, forcing her husband to learn courses that she did not like, which also led to the unexpected death of Gu Lei.
But who would have thought that what she had tried so hard not to get was now placed in front of her without warning, in such a way, in such a time. Regrettably, this scene does not bring warmth and emotion.
Why is that? The reasons are manifold.
01 Things are human, and for Feng Xiaoqin, it is more like a kind of irony.
I have never felt that Gu Qingyu's refusal to lend money to his brother and sister-in-law was a wrong thing, between relatives, living their own lives, should not save the poor, in the case of satisfying the basic life, no one is obliged to bear your higher material pursuits and enjoyment.
However, from Feng Xiaoqin's standpoint, when the eldest sister refused to lend them money to buy a house, and now that her husband is gone, the eldest sister has taken the initiative to buy a house for her, how will she feel? Her heart must have been full of mixed feelings, and the pain was more than joy.
The same thing, chosen at different times, will produce completely different effects. If Gu Lei is still there and Gu Qingyu does this, it will be a situation where everyone is happy and happy. For Feng Xiaoqin, it was a kind of irony, mocking how stupid she was in the first place.
In fact, gu Qingyu's doing this is equivalent to telling Feng Xiaoqin that what she cares about is never money, but her thoughts and attitudes, and the more she tries to calculate, the more she does not give. What's worse, she mentioned Feng Xiaoqin's son, Feng Danian, and she told Feng Xiaoqin that she knew the truth before she married Gu Lei.
Such frankness, in such a situation, will not make Feng Xiaoqin feel that she is understood, but will only make her feel that the person in front of her is terrible, for so many years, she has been staring at her, guarding her, like looking at a transparent person without secrets, and she thinks that she is well hidden.
Therefore, this house is the most cruel thing that Gu Qingyu did in the warmest and most generous way, it tore off all the intentional or unintentional disguises of Feng Xiaoqin, and exposed her past and present weaknesses and stains to the sun, unobstructed. How heart-wrenching!
02 The purpose of Gu Qingyu buying a house is not really for Feng Xiaoqin.
Gu Qingyu, how to say it, looks very shrewd and atmospheric. But her shrewdness is real, and the atmosphere is largely feigned. At least when facing Feng Xiaoqin, the younger daughter-in-law, she was no different from those worldly big sisters, and she had the same vigilance and calculation.
Although Gu Qingyu ostensibly said that she was considerate of Feng Xiaoqin's difficulty in helping her buy this house, in fact, she was still for her father.
After grandma's death, Gu Shihong was left alone in the once lively home. That day, Gu Qingyu opened the door and saw her father sitting on the sofa with the light off, and his father told her that he hoped to see his grandson every day.
Gu Qingyu knew very well that Feng Xiaoqin would not move back again, and the little tiger would not leave his mother. So the best way for the father to see his grandson every day is to buy the neighbor's house and let Feng Xiaoqin bring the little tiger to live in.
Not only that, the father is getting older, and naturally more and more people need to be taken care of around him, although Feng Xiaoqin is shrewd and calculating, after all, they have lived together for so many years, and they are also knowledgeable, and having her around is much more reassuring than finding an unknown nanny. This was Gu Qingyu's truest thought.
In order to dispel Feng Xiaoqin's concerns, Gu Qingyu even offered to say that Feng Xiaoqin could choose another location for the house, you think, who accepts the gifts of others and is more picky? She took the initiative to say this, which was equivalent to blocking Feng Xiaoqin's mouth, and this thought was really well-intentioned.
However, how could Feng Xiaoqin, who had been "fighting wits and courage" with Gu Qingyu for so many years, not understand her thoughts? Having been a sister-in-law for so long, the only time she was treated as a family member by her eldest sister, was it so and so, could she not be bothered?
03 Today's Gu Qingyu does not have a position to buy a house for Feng Xiaoqin.
To tell the truth, among these people in the Gu family, Gu Qingyu should be regarded as an extremely unclear one. Not only is she confused about her own feelings, but she is also very confused when facing the relationship of the whole extended family.
For example, when she first knew that Feng Xiaoqin already had a son, she did not tell Gu Lei the truth. She thought that she was the measure of her sister, but in fact, this became her "legitimate reason" for targeting Feng Xiaoqin.
As the eldest sister, on this matter of principle, she should tell the truth to her brother and let him decide and choose. And once the younger brother chooses this marriage, then no matter what happens to the younger sister-in-law, the eldest sister should no longer mix with the affairs between the husband and wife, which is the behavior of carrying out the clear.
Gu Qingyu just reversed this order.
The same thing about her buying a house for Feng Xiaoqin was the same. When her brother was there, she had no problem doing anything, it was reasonable to refuse to help them buy a house, and it was also a matter of family affection to be willing to help them buy a house. But now that Gu Lei is gone, what position does she take to buy a house for Feng Xiaoqin? In what name can Feng Xiaoqin accept her house?
If she really just wants to help Feng Xiaoqin, she can completely change her way, such as caring more about her nephew and bearing part of the nephew's expenses, which are easy to accept. Only the matter of buying a house has the meaning of moral kidnapping, if Feng Xiaoqin accepts it, she is indebted to affection, and if she does not accept it, it has become a miscreant.
Even if Feng Xiaoqin finally proposed it, even if it is the suite she borrowed from her down payment, it also makes people feel depressed, like a choice you are reluctant to make, you are still considering, but others have made a decision for you first, or with some purpose, really special heart.
Really, originally I thought that Gu Lei's death was enough to pierce my heart, because that accident was caused by the calculations of two women who looked like they were playing against each other.
However, it was not until the finale that I found out that Gu Qingyu's purchase of a house for Feng Xiaoqin was the most "heart-wrenching" in the whole drama, because until this moment, there was still not much sincerity between them.
In fact, in the relationship between the eldest sister and the younger sister-in-law, we do not need to expect too much intimacy, but if we have less interference and vigilance with each other, and more measure and respect, we can make the family more harmonious and happy.
I hope that you, me, and she in life can understand this truth.
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