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A few days ago, a piece of news rushed to the hot search: official data shows that there are many post-90s and post-00s young people, marriage and childbearing age are postponed, and even many young people say that they are not married.
Such behavior is very common, but it also reflects a problem: marriage is no longer the ultimate expectation of young people, and more and more people have the ability to make their lives better, and they will never choose to settle down.
There is a saying that says, "All tragedies end in death, and all comedies end in marriage." ”
I deeply believe that marriage is the comedy of life, and everyone wants to make themselves happy. But when society demands more and more of us, when people get along with each other no longer purely.
It seems that the "marriage urging" of the elders has become a "taboo" for young people.
1, blind date is the means, free love is the right solution
I don't know when it started, blind dates began to become a shortcut to marriage.
This way of loving each other may not have any emotional basis, but it is the most enthusiastic way for elders to get married.
There is a kind of love called "parents think it's okay". However, it is not the idea that a man and a woman in love should think.
There is a saying: "The so-called free love is the right to choose the love of the lover." The so-called freedom of love is that everyone has the freedom to choose to fall in love. ”
It is deeply believed that free love is the premise of marital happiness, and those marriages arranged by parents, if there is no emotional basis, will only disperse unhappily in the end.
Neighbor Xiaoli and her husband are blind dates, and the reason why the two will choose to get married is for two reasons: one is the request of their parents, and the other is that the two have reached a certain age.
Without a foundation in feelings, the two naturally married.
This state of peace and quiet also lasted for several years.
But by the time both have a steady job and social circle, they've become speechless.
What makes Xiaoli dead set on marriage is that she discovers that her husband betrayed the family when he was sent to work outside, breaking through the last bottom line.
After the other party's behavior was discovered, there was no reaction. Just blindly saying that he and Xiaoli originally had no feelings, and it was involuntary to meet "true love".
I have to say that the matter of blind date, although there is no lack of ways to tie the knot. However, it is also a "hidden danger" buried by the breakdown of marriage.
Originally, love is no longer pure, but also based on profit. Without "love", even if you can live peacefully at the beginning, it is difficult to have a happy marriage.
Reality, that's it.
2, lack of money, is the biggest factor in the postponement of marriage and childbearing
In the public perception, it is inevitable that the sooner you get married, the more stable your family will be. This is not the case, marriage is only the product of the satisfaction of emotional needs.
Perhaps, in the last century, two people married, as long as they were in love, or the elders arranged it.
However, today's love, a little more material, mixed with too much interest. Especially when it comes to the issue of money, it seems to be sensitive, but everyone will not back down.
Why do today's young people marry late and have children later?
Is it because they don't have an emotional need, or a need to reproduce? Of course not.
The reason is simple, but because the material basis has become the biggest problem in marriage. Everything needs money, and if there is no money, everything is a floating cloud.
Someone said: "There is no shortage of money, so it is easier to sit down and reason." ”
Indeed, as long as the money is in place, it seems that the process of talking about marriage will be smoother.
Classmate Xiaofeng and his boyfriend talked about love for three years, and after graduation, the two ran for the purpose of marriage and met the parents of both sides.
I thought that the two families could talk about everything, but I didn't know that in the end, because of the problem of the bride price, the two ended up breaking up.
I have to say that the current society is very realistic.
Everyone does not want to let themselves suffer losses and be wronged, and they all want to fight for their own greatest interests. But in the end, in the end, the hearts of the people were lost, and there was no nostalgia to speak of.
Marriage, in the midst of various conflicts of interest, has become a contract.
Therefore, do not arbitrarily criticize those men and women who marry late and have children later. They are not willful, they just know what they want.
3. The increase in the number of people in Kochi has made the public enjoy freedom more
Among the men and women who are "older and single", there is also a category of Kochi people.
They have high knowledge and high income, but they do not have a feeling that satisfies them.
Some people think that they have a high vision, but is this really the case? I guess no, it's just that they have more options when they're in higher education.
If there were other ways to make themselves better, they would not choose to achieve class leapfrogging by marriage.
Someone said, "The guarantee of freedom comes from the restriction of freedom." ”
Admittedly, being single is only one way to pursue freedom. There is no need to sacrifice your own happiness for the sake of others, just be happy.
A few months ago, a "single mother" with three children entered the public eye, her name is Li Xueke, she has her own career and children, but there is no "he".
Some people feel that this is irresponsible to the child, and others recognize her freedom and freedom. Either way, this does not affect the firm thinking of an independent person.
Looking at ourselves, the same is true.
If knowledge can make you more fulfilling, you don't need to feel anxious because you are single. You are like this, and so am I.
Xiaoyuan's message: Late marriage and late childbearing are not a mistake, but a choice.
Social criticism is always the outsider's own words, and if you can't make yourself happy, some things are not done.
Marriage is not a necessity for us, but a "condiment."
"Moral kidnapping" should never become a verbal attack, if you can, I hope you and I can keep our original intentions and find our own happiness.
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