Li Zongsheng's "Late Marriage" once wrote: I never want to be single but have a premonition of late marriage, I am waiting for the only fit in the world. This sensational lyric undoubtedly puts "love" in a lofty position. However, I think it is not only a manifestation of the pricelessness of love, but also an interpretation of celibacy as a kind of courage. In most people's minds, the amorous person is undoubtedly blaspheming the sacred love, but if you can rise and fall in the sea of love but are more determined than anyone else's goal, calmly face all the darkness and smash it, and lead to a higher ideal of life, this is not another kind of success?
Brie Chanel, she is the legendary woman who has achieved this other kind of success. She was born into an ordinary family in France, not even ordinary but poor. However, compared with poverty, the father's irresponsibility, inaction and bad temper that erupted from time to time made the family that was already floating in the wind and rain broken, and became the last straw that crushed the mother. The death of her mother also brought Chanel's hard life to the peak, and it was not surprising that she was left in the monastery by her selfish father, and the harsh reality was that the image of her father and even the male in her heart was shattered little by little. Perhaps it was from that day that she clearly understood that men could only climb high ropes, not trees to rely on.
The painful experiences of her childhood made Chanel realize that the only thing she could rely on to survive was herself. The only way to make yourself strong is to keep learning. In the boring days of the monastery, Chanel did not give up on herself, but seized every opportunity to enrich herself, and she practiced needlework and got the opportunity to work in the tailor's shop. But she soon realized that just relying on such an ordinary job would not bring much change to her life, and she had to look for new opportunities.
As she grew older, she entered the cabaret and became a singer with the innate superior conditions brought to her by her mother, her beautiful appearance and excellent voice. Beautiful looks can always easily attract the eyes of the opposite sex, and excellent industrialists and wealthy officers are eager for her. Chanel did not reject the olive branch they threw, because she knew that in an era when there were great limitations on status and gender, she had to rely on their money and connections to change her life, and she gladly accepted to be their mistress. They loved her and spent thousands of dollars for her, but she knew that compared with these illusory "loves", the money and power firmly in her hands made her feel more secure.
Therefore, the first gift she asked for as a mistress was not gold jewelry, but a women's hat shop of her own. Later, as the mistress of the golden lord, she frequently attended the banquets of high society, began to shuttle through the circles of aristocratic society, studied their clothing and collocations, and gradually broke their old and conservative designs and figured out her own design style. Her outstanding talent and talent in design was gradually recognized, and her clothing store became couture, building her own business empire step by step.
How could Chanel, who had received everything, no longer tolerate being the mistress of others, and the life that had been like that had already bored and tired her for years, she did not hesitate to leave them and cut off all contact with them, without the slightest nostalgia. But a good woman is never surrounded by men who appreciate her, and she never moves in her arms, because she knows that what they covet is nothing more than her money, looks, status, or the sense of superiority brought to them by conquering a successful and powerful woman, which is no different from the former her.
Of course, there are people who truly appreciate her ability, talent, and wholeheartedly love her, but her rich emotional experience over the years and the psychological trauma brought by her childhood family have made her never want to stop for anyone, and perhaps she understands better that she cannot give that warm love an equal response. In 1971, she died in a hotel room in Paris, ending a woman's legendary life, with countless lovers in her life, and she was childless until she left.
Chanel's life is legendary, but undoubtedly lonely. The evaluation of her life is diverse, perhaps too many people feel that she has not relied on or even trusted others in her life, such a life is not too sad, why has not tried to accept a happiness in her life? But in Chanel's eyes, she should be satisfied with her life, as long as she chooses a way to enjoy it, it is worth it.