Author 丨 Cheng Yi & KeFu
Source | Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi)
Li Zongsheng has a song called "Late Marriage", which has a sentence that is sung like this:
"I never wanted to be single, but I had a premonition of getting married late, and I was waiting for the only one in the world that fit the soul."
But in this world, there are too few people who can meet a soul mate, but there are so many that they are made up and will.
The difference between marriage and love is that it is the sublimation of love.
And not an age-old task.
Love hurts people, and love is even more trapped.
And marriage without love is an unfathomable siege.
Just like the line in the Japanese drama "If you are a virgin at thirty years old, you will become a magician":
"You can't get married in this life, and it doesn't matter."
01
It is said that in the early twenties, the loss of love will be like asking for half a life, and the whole world will be dark.
But approaching the age of thirty, I can learn to enjoy life with peace of mind.
A person also has a good time.
Her friend Ah Qiu is a celibacy who has been in charge in just two years and wears delicate makeup every day at work.
Colleagues wonder why she fights so hard, but Ah Qiu said lightly that this is the life I want.
"Work hard and love life.
My sense of accomplishment is all in my career, and feelings will only drag me forward. ”
Later, I learned that Ah Qiu had not been in love.
The ex cheated on marriage when talking about marriage, and after learning the facts, Ah Qiu was drained of all his strength.
After the decisive breakup, Ah Qiu began to focus on his career.
Whether it was to alleviate the emotional wound or divert attention, Ah Qiu became the last person in the office to leave work.
Slowly, she adapted to the rhythm of work and accumulated a lot of contacts.
She was able to do her work meticulously and learned to buy flowers for herself after work.
After winning a high-profile project, she flew directly to Sanya to see the sea for vacation.
At an age that seemed embarrassing to others, Ah Qiu lived so peacefully and calmly, and the whole person shone brightly.
"I probably can't get married, but it doesn't matter because I love myself enough."
The spiritual core is strong enough to have the ability to love oneself, and it will not rush to marry oneself off.
Over the years, she has long since become her closest lover.
02
Choosing to be single is not about not craving love.
It is precisely because of too much desire, and at the same time the rationality given by experience, that it will be more serious about marriage.
There is a line in the movie "Heartbeat":
"Some people live in tall buildings, some people live in deep ditches;
Some people are naked, some people are rusty;
There are thousands of kinds in the world, and the floating clouds cannot be left;
If the Scythians are rainbows, they know that there is a party. ”
Just like the enviable marriage of Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe.
Even many years after Wang Xiaobo's death, Li Yinhe was still fascinated when he mentioned him:
"Xiaobo is the most loved person in my life."
In that closed and backward era, they were the only light that shone into each other's world.
"When I go to war against eternity, you are my flag."
The soul mate of the world is as bright as the stars in the sky but rare.
And more and more people choose not to settle.
They themselves have walked through the mountains and rivers of this world, and they have also seen the wind and moon of the world.
It's just that the world's eyes are too rare to keep each other, so they don't crave it.
It is said that people who have been single for too long cannot get married.
After all, it has become a universe of its own, so there is no time to care about the stardust.
Yu Feihong once said in an interview:
"No matter how anxious the world is, I am my own landscape."
It's as free as it gets.
How precious is a human life, growing wildly, he can become his own moon.
03
In The Big Bang Theory, Shea has this to say at Howard and Bernadette's wedding:
"I have been unable to understand that man has spent his whole life pursuing a human being.
Maybe I'm too interesting to be accompanied by others.
So I wish you as much pleasure in each other as I have given myself. ”
To be able to meet sincere love is one of the few fortunate things in the world.
However, if you are wrapped up in life and enter into marriage, you will lose the meaning of love.
If there is love, make a delicate crystal rose and bloom in the greenhouse.
If there is no love, there is love for all things in the world, all kinds of styles, and there is no dispute with the world.
Click "watching", the romantic world is worth being single, and it is also worth running to ideals and freedom with stars and moons.
*Author: Cheng Yi & Kefu, Article Source: Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi), the sound is warm, and the sound at night will glow. The new book "Not Living up to the past, not afraid of loneliness" is a hot seller, the answer you want, time will give you. Cheng Yi used his warm and healing voice and heartfelt words to spread positive energy to more than 30 million listeners across the network, and the program was broadcast more than 6 billion times. Weibo: @DJ Chengyi.
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