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Author: Cheng Yi & Kefu Article Source: Cheng Yi (ID: djchengyi)
What are the signs of a true end to a relationship?
Unilateral breakups always leave the other party still in love.
Removing the blackout and deciding to cut off all contact information does not mean that you have really put down the other party.
Only when the person who is still in love finally admits:
The person who left is really not coming back.
This relationship has really come to an end.
Friend Lily once had a boyfriend of three years.
The relationship between the two has always been very stable, and even reached the stage of talking about marriage.
It's just that as they get to know each other better, their quarrels become more and more frequent.
Lily didn't understand the stress of her boyfriend's work so much that she completely resisted communicating with her when she got home.
The boyfriend also complained that Lily didn't understand his ambitions.
In the end, the two broke up because of a trivial quarrel and gambling.
The relationship also came to an end.
The most painful thing is not the moment of the breakup, but the stamina of the breakup.
Lily removed the boyfriend who blocked it.
But in the dead of night, she will still click into her boyfriend's circle of friends and Weibo countless times.
How he's been feeling lately, what restaurants he's been eating, and stressful at work...
All of this, Lily saw in his eyes.
Habit is a terrible thing.
After the breakup, Lily would still deliberately go to dinner at the restaurant they were dating.
Order milk tea also prefers his favorite cheese strawberries.
After work, Lily always took a detour to the high street they used to walk together, even though she didn't want to buy anything.
At the end of the day, Lily still can't let go of the relationship.
She wanted to contact the other person, but she was afraid that the other party would say cruel things.
She wanted to hear that familiar and gentle voice, but she was afraid that it was all her wishful thinking.
She understood the reason, but she preferred not to let go.
Until the boyfriend made a new girlfriend, changed to a new job and city, and made it public on Weibo.
Lily really realized it was all over and it was time for her to let go.
She cut off the long hair that her boyfriend insisted she had left and made herself a hearty dinner.
Since then, she has never deliberately taken a detour to go to that commercial street.
Sometimes it's not easy to let go of a relationship.
But fortunately, time is the best medicine.
One day, those regrets will gradually dissipate with the evening wind.
It is said that you can still be friends after a breakup, which is the biggest lie in the world.
A breakup couple who can also get along as friends.
Either I still love it, or I haven't loved it.
It seems that only the deletion of blackout is the standard mode for the end of a vigorous relationship.
Babur once said:
"A breakup is the extent to which one party uses a lover's fear of separation to express their anger."
Those we have hated are also the people we once loved the most.
The feelings lying in the blacklist are all intertwined with love and hate, regret and hope coexist.
Removing the blackout is more like a ritual of gambling.
We tell each other in an almost brutal way:
We've let go and don't love you anymore.
But in fact, we still toss and turn in the middle of the night and can't sleep all night.
People are always taken for granted when they are together, and after they are separated, they are infinitely unforgettable.
Those moments that clearly feel loved will come to us like a tidal wave after the breakup.
Not being able to let go is not a shameful thing.
Giving with all sincerity and loving with all your heart is inherently the bravest virtue in the world.
There is such a sentence in "The Old Man of Mountains and Rivers":
"Everyone can only walk with you for a while, and sooner or later they will have to be separated."
We always have to learn to accept leaving.
Accept that those who once loved themselves deeply will one day no longer need our love.
They only lighted up our lives briefly, but they were lucky enough.
What we need to do is to be grateful and say goodbye when we leave.
There is a line in Call Me By Your Name:
"There is only one summer in a person's life, and every summer after that is repeated."
The deepest feelings do not have to be vigorous and long-lasting.
In this era when love is a luxury, we have accompanied each other for a while.
The comfort and coziness of blowing the evening breeze together may have been the most precious thing.
Love has disappeared, but life will not be stopped because of the departure of love.
Only relief is the most decent account for a relationship.
Don't forget, in addition to entanglement, we can also choose to let go and complete.
For those things that are incomparably precious but have passed away,
All we can do is not forget.
But don't think about it either.
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