People who don't love first have these 3 characteristics.

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@Todding

Boyfriends who have been in the same situation for almost a year are reluctant to break up.

The reason for the breakup was that I didn't love anymore.

Full of joy will also expire, how to say that he does not agree to break up.

Now he loves and hates me, and scolds me very badly.

After scolding, he began to say good things, keep me, dead or alive, unwilling to let go, and have been pestering.

The two of us were not a good fit at all, he liked to plan, and I was the kind of person who was very spontaneous.

Either he will be wronged and accommodated me, or I will be wronged and accommodated him, which is really depressing.

Love is exhausted, do you still have to deceive yourself into being with him?

I admit that I didn't love it first, is that wrong?

Cheng Yi answered

Two people can come together, it must be because of love.

If there is no love left, then how can you stick to it?

There is nothing wrong with loving someone, and there is nothing wrong with not loving someone.

Feelings are irrational and cannot be judged simply by right and wrong.

Now the situation is that you want to break up peacefully.

But the boyfriend obviously can't accept this fact yet, so he keeps pestering.

Whether it is a quarrel or retention, it is a manifestation of reluctance.

I suggest that the two of you separate and calm down first.

Whether it's you or him, you need to re-examine the relationship.

If you are here, think about whether you have consumed your expectations for feelings because of too bland days?

If both people try to make an effort, is there any room for redemption?

On his side, he had to think clearly that two people who no longer loved each other could continue to be tied together.

When you decide you're going to break up, it's about ending a relationship, not ending each other's lives.

The two of you can talk and you can make it clear to him what you think.

Good to get together and disperse, and do not waste the time to fall in love.

@ Sleep until you wake up naturally

I've been with my boyfriend for two years and it feels like the period of hot love is short and almost non-existent.

I am a person with more delicate emotions, he is more egotistical.

He has something that he doesn't do as well as I do, and I generally suffer in silence.

I rarely insisted directly and compulsively on him to satisfy me, and I don't think the love I get that way is interesting.

So I often punished him for not cooperating and made him realize his mistake.

I want to learn how to deal with this problem, or what ways to turn the situation around.

Otherwise I'm really ready to say break up.

But once I say it, I can't take it back, what should I do?

Listening to you say so much, in simple terms, you are more introverted.

Or in terms of feelings, the ability to express is insufficient.

Take an example of what has been popular on the Internet recently:

I want you to send me flowers because you want to send me flowers.

Instead of me telling you I want flowers.

When two people talk about feelings, they need to constantly express their needs.

Examine your own practices and attitudes in this relationship from different angles, and find where you have done well and what you have not done enough.

Communicate with each other and make progress together in the process of improvement.

Otherwise, why do people say that they are in love and in love, instead of guessing love?

I can understand that you are not very expressive.

But I don't support you not saying a word, it's all up to the other side to guess.

If you feel ashamed to express it, you can knock on the side and send him a few videos.

Or forward a few public accounts to express their emotional needs in general.

You don't say anything and want the other person to be satisfied with you.

Otherwise you'll be angry about it, which is actually quite tiring.

Sometimes things that can be solved in one sentence really don't need to go around in such a big circle.

If you still like each other, you really want to continue the relationship.

Then these unnecessary silence really should not continue to exist.

When encountering emotional obstacles, think more empathy.

Since you still want to work hard, it is not too late.

@Macabacca

The boy I like is a colleague of the partner, who just met and said that he liked me and was very active with me.

He also said he wanted to work with me and study.

Every time I meet on a business trip, I interact frequently to take care of me.

But he had a girlfriend, who had been together for seven years, and said he was going through the seven-year itch.

But I asked him if he would marry his girlfriend, and he said there was a good chance.

I asked him if he was lying to me about my feelings, and he said no.

But I asked him if he would marry me, and he said he would get married, in a tone of affirmation.

I don't understand what he really thinks, what should I do?

This is obviously playing you like a fool.

The other party has a girlfriend who has been in love for seven years and has come to provoke you.

Then when you ask him what he plans to do next, he doesn't give you a clear answer.

Marriage is not just talking, it depends on how to do it!

You are a fan of the authorities, from the perspective of the bystander,

It is a man who has a girlfriend of his own, may be on a whim, want to pursue something fresh and exciting, and find a little girl to talk to.

You can't understand what he thinks now, you still want to believe his feelings, then you are too blind, right?

As for how to deal with this matter, we will talk about it little by little.

First of all, the other party has a girlfriend.

Then the close interaction between the two of you should stop here, and do not provoke the opposite sex with a partner, which is the first point in the interpersonal relationship between the two sexes.

The second is these big cakes he painted for you, and you don't have to pay attention to them at all.

Obviously he said these words to appease you and tease you.

But I didn't expect you stupid girl to listen completely.

Even in these nonsense, he constantly imagines you and his future.

Have you ever thought that he told you today that he liked to marry you and that he would get a license with his girlfriend of 7 years tomorrow.

What can you do?

The two of you are now unjustified.

It is said that women know women best.

Do you think about it from his girlfriend's shoes, would you rather your boyfriend marry another woman casually, this commitment?

First, this is the man, who is unreliable, lies, and does not intend to be responsible.

The second is that you know that the other party has a girlfriend, and you must also consider the relationship with this boy.

It is more strict than strict with oneself.

I suggest you hurry up, where is the end of the world, where there is no herb, why grab a dog tail grass and not let go?

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