The second half of your life, whether you are happy or desolate, depends on one person

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There is a study at Harvard University in the United States, they spent 76 years to register a lot of people, after research came to a conclusion, the real impact on your life is the partner around you.

If your partner and you live together for a long time, you will infect each other in many aspects such as body and mind, personality, and ability.

In a person's life, money, power, and interests will not affect your life, only the partner who lives together, every action will affect you.

There is a saying that what kind of person you are with, what kind of person you will become. With a good partner, you'll also become great; with a scummy person, you'll also become scummy.

There are many people who attribute their lives to gods, parents, or personalities, but it is the partner who really determines your life.

Therefore, the happiness of the second half of your life is in the hands of a person and should be cherished.

Your partner is your life.

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Your partner will determine the course of your life

Marriage is a watershed in life, and everyone will change more or less after entering marriage. Some people will live more and more moist, while others will only get worse and worse.

Some people attribute these changes to fate, and what is good is fate, and what is bad is bad fate. In fact, most of the changes you make after entering marriage have a very direct relationship with your partner.

Friend Xiaomin is a girl from the countryside, after graduating from college, she worked hard in the city for four or five years, and her life was very moist.

Later, after being introduced, I met my current husband, and the two people felt that the conditions were equal, and they reached the marriageable age, so they got married. However, after getting married, the days were not as romantic and warm as Xiao Min thought.

Just after giving birth, Xiao Min wants to sign up for a yoga class and recover her body. But the husband objected, saying that Xiao Min is a mother, still in shape, is it not good to leave the money for the child to spend?

Xiaomin's parents came, she wanted to go to the restaurant for a meal, but her husband said that eating at home is both economical and affordable;

Her clothes are outdated, and she wants to buy a few seasonal clothes to wear, but her husband says that there is something to wear...

Xiao Min is very painful, she does not understand what is wrong with making money and spending it herself? Still need your husband's permission? Helpless Xiao Min could only swallow the grievances into her stomach, but she was more and more disappointed in the marriage.

Every aspect of the husband and wife will deeply affect each other, it can be said that choosing the right half, you choose the right direction in life.

Marriage is not only a combination of feelings, but also a collision of cognition, thinking, pattern and lifestyle between people. Spending a long time together, whether you want to or not, will make your life blend into each other.

Therefore, what kind of partner you choose, what kind of life will you have.

Partner, determine the direction of your life.

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He's good, and you'll be good with him

The love between Wang Xiaobo and Li Yinhe is like this, and the two people are related to the novel. At that time, Li Yinhe was working at Guangming Daily, and Wang Xiaobo was just a street worker who had not graduated from junior high school.

Li Yinhe read Wang Xiaobo's "Green Haired Water Monster" by chance, and she began to notice Wang Xiaobo. However, after the two people met, they found that Wang Xiaobo looked ordinary.

However, the two people like each other. Because Li Yinhe's family is relatively well-off, and Wang Xiaobo is just a child of ordinary people. Therefore, in terms of later writing, Li Yinhe gave Wang Xiaobo a lot of support.

Wang Xiaobo is often rejected, but Li Yinhe has always been very supportive of Wang Xiaobo, and she appreciates his talent. Li Yinhe once said that Wang Xiaobo was such a wise mind, she was reluctant to let him do rough work.

Li Yinhe went abroad to study, Wang Xiaobo followed Li Yinhe as an accompaniment to take care of Li Yinhe, and the two people's expenses abroad only relied on Li Yinhe's negligible scholarship.

During this period, Wang Xiaobo completed his Golden Age. Later, he obtained a master's degree under the influence of Li Yinhe, and Li Yinhe received a doctorate. The two returned to the motherland and successively served as lecturers at Peking University and the National People's Congress, serving the motherland.

It can be said that Wang Xiaobo met Li Yinhe, and he had a great achievement later. If Wang Xiaobo had not met Li Yinhe, Wang Xiaobo would still have been Wang Xiaobo.

The power of love is great, and what kind of person you are related to, you can become what kind of person. If you associate with a good person, you will be rendered equally excellent, and if you associate with a negative person, you will become as negative as him.

A partner can help you know yourself better, heal all your hurts, and ultimately let you constantly break through yourself and become excellent.

In interpersonal communication, intimacy will always give you strength and help you upwards. Just like a ship traveling on the surface of the sea, if it encounters a tailwind, it will push it.

On the road of life, a good partner will help you step by step upwards, and work with you to overcome thorns and reach the highest point of life.

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Husbands and wives are to cross each other

Marriage is sweet at first, but it is not a lifetime of talking about me and me. The original meaning of marriage is to cross each other, to make friends with each other.

Everyone knows that "Huawei Princess" Meng Wanzhou is trapped in Canada, wearing a monitor to bruise her feet and neck, and receiving threatening letters every day.

In such a difficult environment, Meng Wanzhou's husband has been living next to the house where Meng Wanzhou is trapped, accompanying her day and night, giving her a solid sense of security, and accompanying Meng Wanzhou for three years.

Between husband and wife, whether it is cognition, pattern or thinking, if it is not in one dimension, there will be a rift in the marriage. Only by crossing each other will a complete marriage be formed.

In marriage, it is a kind of luck to meet a like-minded partner, and there is no need to be sad when you meet an unsatisfactory partner.

There is no perfect love in the world, as long as each other does not stop progressing, and the partners cross each other, there will be a happy marriage.

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The second half of your life, whether you are happy or desolate, depends on one person, and that is your partner.

In a person's life, he will experience two rebirths, one birth and one marriage.

What kind of person we want to be, we must be with what kind of person, moving in the direction of our ideals, and we will realize our ideals.

In a person's life, birth is the starting point, but it cannot determine your destiny. Marriage is a turning point, but it is an opportunity for you to choose your own destiny.

Choose well, a life is bright and frank; a bad choice, a life is bleak. Choosing a good partner will allow you to have a good destiny.

May all husband and wife work together and have a happy and long marriage.