It was April 1 of another year, and in a trance, Zhang Guorong had been gone for exactly nineteen years.
Tang Hede is still the same as in previous years, early in the morning to take pictures with his lover in the old days to pin his thoughts on his heart.
In the photo, Tang Hede leaned back in white, zhang Guorong wore a black shirt and looked forward, and the distance between the two was intimate and relaxed.
The sea breeze behind him blows the coconut grove, and the lover often accompanies the leisurely time on his side, and the air is filled with the smell of pleasure, tranquility and laziness.
Zhang Guorong, who wanted to come to that time, was truly happy.
In recent years, there have also been frequent news of new joys around Tang Sheng, and Shu feels that if there is, then sincerely bless him.
Because love is not a bondage prison, but a pleasure.
In this joy, there are all kinds of joyful beauty bursting out, when the deceased person leaves, the remaining choice is to continue to be single, or to find a new joy.
Living well is the essence of continuing the beauty of this pleasure.
Uncle today to take everyone to appreciate the love and beauty between several pairs of passionate partners.
01
The beauty of those loves
1. The spiritual beauty that transcends matter
" Love you as you love life"
In 1977, because of a hand-copied novel "Green Hairy Water Monster".
Wang Xiaobo, a taciturn, eccentric young worker with a silly personality and a silly appearance, met Li Yinhe, a pure and beautiful college student editor at Guangming Daily.
"Hello wow, Li Yinhe", "When I think of you, my ugly face is full of smiles".
The combination of yin and yang, strong women and weak men is not optimistic about many people, but Li Yinhe does not care.
She fervently supports this untrimmed eccentric lover:
"I insist that Xiaobo must write novels, because it is a pity that his literary talents are abandoned. The little bit of material needed for livelihood is too easy to satisfy, it is really not enough, and I can work alone. ”
Two families eating a meal together is even if they are married, and after marriage, the two decide not to have children, and they are not good at housework.
The days of hardship are called a shocking and sloppy day in the eyes of ordinary people.
Wang Xiaobo's mother complained, "What are they eating together, eating spirit?" ”
Write love letters on staves, go to the United States to work while studying...
The days are hard, but the two people are spiritually interconnected, see the world and enjoy the beauty of love.
Love letter on the stave, "I wish you and I were an inexhaustible song"
"We felt as if we were at the bottom of a pond, walking from one moon to another"
2. The beauty of companionship across genders
"The most painful thing in life is not the loss of love, but the failure to truly and wholeheartedly love a person."
As the son of a dignitary with a strict and repressive tutor, Bai Xianyong, who was born weak and sensitive and unsociable, fell in love with his classmate Wang Guoxiang at first sight in the seventeen-year-old middle school.
Left: Bai Xianyong, Right: Wang Guoxiang
He later wrote in the preface to "The Evil Sons", a blockbuster masterpiece and also a description of the gay community in Taipei:
"To the children who, in the deepest and deepest darkness, wandered the streets and had nowhere to go."
There is him in the children, and there is him in the children.
The book is like a thunderbolt, bravely breaking through the prejudices against sexual minorities in that closed era.
Sadly, Wang Guoxiang later suffered from aplastic anemia and died after many years of treatment after his 55th birthday in 1992.
The two have actively accompanied each other for decades, and Bai Xianyong wrote "The Tree Is Like This" to commemorate his lover, with restrained writing, but the friendship is deep.
For him, the departure of his partner was "a rift that the Nuwa alchemy stone could not repair."
But "the most painful thing in life is not the loss of love, but the failure to truly and wholeheartedly love a person, and if there ever been, that moment is eternal." ”
Having done myself in a dignified manner, loving brightly, and having fun with each other, this journey of life is enough.
Since then, it has been committed to promoting the beauty of Kunqu opera
3. The beauty of acquaintance without putting age in the eye
" I decided to love you outside of morality and the law"
Jiang Xun and Lin Huaimin, one a famous aesthetic writer and the other a well-known dancer, were no longer young when they visited Angkor Wat together.
Lin Huaimin, who founded the Cloud Gate Dance Collection, has exhausted his life's work from young to old
Jiang Xun, who is idolized by Lin Qingxia
Love not only transcends gender, but also doesn't even look at age.
Even in his 50s, he still has a vigorous desire for love, and he still looks for a soul mate on the spot.
People in middle age, and even in old age, they will always maintain a youthful mentality. Two people like this have never had a long decay on their bodies.
After the breakup, Jiang Xun healed his wounds alone and wrote "The Book of Desire and Love", which collected twelve love letters he had written to Lin Huaimin around the world, and the writing was intimate and eager to be almost explicit:
True love should be a fulfillment.
I have decided to love you outside of morality and law, which has not been experienced in the long history of mankind, and my love, Ly's M, will be passed down alone into a new bloodline. ”
Love is frank and sincere, and after separation, it is pure, clean, and as always.
Two aestheticians, personally showing the beauty of a love affair.
02
The deceased is dead
The continuation of the beauty of pleasure is to live well
The deceased has passed away, how to continue this beautiful pleasure?
1. In different ways of living, there is the freedom to get to know the next one
First of all, the lover's departure from the heart is also a stagnant bumpy love road, which is not uncommon.
After Sanmao lost his husband in middle age, his spirit was greatly damaged, and he once wanted to live lightly, but later chose to leave on his own under various physical and mental pressures.
From the saharan gods to the lonely
After Xu Zhimo's death, Lu Xiaoman did not remarry for the rest of his life, but his mental state has been poor, and he has been displaced for the rest of his life.
If the deceased saw this scene, I am afraid that they would only be more sad.
Secondly, there are also people with a dashing heart, who are full of sorrow when they leave, but then they also try their best to cheer up.
Zhong Chuhong chose celibacy after her husband died of cancer.
Fifteen years after the loss of a loved one, I learned photography, did charity, exercised, insisted on running, and slowly walked out of the gloom, while the 62-year-old did not see the collapse at all.
Of course, in the end, there is the freedom to choose to be single, and there is also the freedom to meet the next one again.
In 2014, Li Yinhe was exposed to have lived with his same-sex partner "Hero" for many years.
She bluntly admitted that the current lover is a physical female, psychologically male transgender person, in addition to the two also adopted a son, forming a stable and happy small family.
While continuing to live her life to the fullest, she still loves him.
In 2018, Li Yinhe wrote back to Wang Xiaobo:
"Twenty-one years, you have stood the test of time, and I have been treated by time",
"I loved you, I still love you... In case the soul exists, may we meet again."
Love is not bondage, nor is it consumption.
Infatuation or thin affection, it is enough to judge when born.
He can't help himself, but he admires those who dare to open up a new situation in life - their courage and vitality to embrace a new life are admirable.
2. Be wary of techniques that are affectionate on the surface and thin on the inside
And some people who put sadness and loyalty on their lips may not be true temperament.
For his first wife, Wei Shi, he wrote "There is a loquat tree in the court, and my wife died in the year of his death, and now he has a pavilion like a cover", and later married his wives Wang and Fei.
For the next deceased wife Wang Shi wrote the "Wang Clan Painting Praise and Preface", for the maid Han Hua also wrote the "Han Hua Funeral Chronicle".
Yuan Shu mourned his deceased wife and wrote, "But I will open my eyes all night long, and repay that I have not raised my eyebrows in my life", and soon after, I also took a concubine and married a new wife as usual.
Perhaps human nature is inherently complex, and it is true to take a new wife, and it is also true to mourn.
But what people hate is never the sad people who open up new hope, but the hypocrisy and contrivance of some long-cooled performance desires.
Just like Lin Moumou, what everyone hates is not his choice to reorganize his family.
Instead, on the one hand, he is methodically opening a new life, but on the other hand, he deliberately continues to shape and strengthen the image of deep affection in front of the public, so as to win the sympathy of public opinion and realize his own attempts.
Lin Su's stigmatized consumption of the deceased is also quite controversial
Love is a moment of glory, cherish, have and enjoy it, this beauty can be regarded as eternal freeze-frame.
"The person I love the most is Donald Duck", which will exhaust the hidden love
Just like zhang Guorong's last album before his death, the song "I know you" that was considered to be written to Tang Sheng:
"If you have captured the starlight, you need to flow for a hundred generations."
In this way, I also bless all those who are hurting, please bring the love of the deceased and enjoy the beauty of the next happy journey without burden.