I know that the author Jin Tu once said something like this:
"People like me don't like to meet new people. You know, it's tiring to talk about your past.
But the day I met you, I actually wanted to make the first half of my life into a movie for you.
Let you see the snow in Hulunbuir that I have seen, the deserted streets I have walked, and the drunken nights I have spent.
Make up for all the lives you haven't been able to participate in. ”
I have to admit that love really has such a magic.
When that person comes along, it breaks all your plans, even your principles.
She will become your exception, your only one.
For her sake, you are willing to do anything.
Men who love someone will willingly do the following things.
Willing to bow your head for you
There is a saying in "Carry Love to the End" that goes like this:
"Every quarrel, right or wrong, should be conceded by men first."
Sometimes, women are indeed unreasonable, they do not want to prove that they are right, but hope that the other party will let themselves.
A good man who hurts a woman has to be angry and bow his head. ”
Deeply.
Women and men quarrel, not to argue for right and wrong, just to see the man's attitude towards himself.
I hope that men can not reason with themselves, and hope that he can take the initiative to let himself and spoil himself.
"What is love?"
Heard a very good answer:
"Love is the way to buy a kitchen knife after a quarrel, by the way to buy ta's favorite food to go home, and then continue to live." 」
Two people together, this is the process of running into each other.
In this long process, there will always be some quarrels.
These are all excusable, but the person who loves you must know how to cherish you.
No matter how fierce the argument with you is, I will unconditionally take the initiative to bow my head to you afterwards.
It's not because he's 'instigating', he's just instigating you.
Because I love you, I am willing to be more than I want in front of you.
Willing to tolerate your little flaws
The Love Letter reads:
"I love you, not because there's only one person here, but because I just want to love you alone."
People who truly love you won't love you because of who you are.
He loves you just because you're you.
You can be imperfect or have your own flaws.
None of this hinders his love for you.
In the movie "Mindcatcher", psychology professor Shane talks to students about his deceased wife:
"She has all sorts of wonderful little qualities.
When she slept, she would grind her teeth and snore, but that was the thing I missed most after she died.
This little trait made her my wife, and people called it imperfection.
In fact, it is not, it is a good thing to choose who to let into our world. ”
Indeed, the person who really loves you, he must love you as you are.
You can be elegant and dignified in front of him, or you can be sloppy and unreasonable.
Anyway, you are you, and what he likes is the imperfect you.
You don't need to change for him, he will love you.
Willing to hurt you, reluctant to let you be wronged
Zhou Guoping once wrote such a passage in the book:
"To love someone is to feel sorry for a person."
If it is only infatuation and does not hurt, then such love can only stay in the senses.
Without going deep into the heart, it often does not last long. ”
Indeed, a man who truly loves you must know how to hurt you.
Just like Wang Xiaobo to his wife Li Yinhe.
In their correspondence, Wang Xiaobo wrote:
"When you are angry, you cry, and when I see you cry, I am stunned;
It's like a little kid who does something bad and is stunned before he's blamed.
So, if there is anything in the future, don't cry first, and blame me first, okay? ”
You see, when a person loves you to the depths, he is reluctant to be wronged.
When you are angry and unhappy, he will be nervous about you, worried about you, and heart will breed heartache for you.
I can't bear that you are unhappy and have a bad time.
So, in the process of getting along with you, he will try to make you happy.
Feelings are mutual, you come and go, in order to last.
When you are loved and spoiled, you must also love the person who loves you with your heart.
Long road of life, may you master the magic weapon of managing feelings,
In the remaining days, you can meet good people and walk together in the wind and rain.