It is said that loving a person cannot be hidden, truly loving a person, no matter how well disguised, in front of the lover, whether it is words or actions, there are always some details that will make your true feelings unconsciously revealed.
Hornie, a gender expert, said: "When one person loves another person, it is actually obvious. They want to express their love, they want each other to know their love. So, they will try to be nice to each other. ”
It is often said that men's love is very realistic, especially in this materialistic era, love is too luxurious, so many women will be skeptical in the face of men's pursuit, afraid of being cheated, afraid of getting hurt, afraid of the other party is another plan.
Judging whether a man is truly in love, in fact, looking at his three actions, you know that there is no doubt about true love if there are generally these several abnormal actions.
01 I am afraid that if you misunderstand, you will keep a distance from the opposite sex
Zhou Guoping said in "Man and Eternity": All exchanges have an insurmountable final boundary, which is unclear, but it is certain. All troubles and conflicts arise from the inadvertent attempt to break through this line.
Men who truly love a person will definitely maintain a line between them and the opposite sex to cause unnecessary trouble and misunderstanding.
In the latest hit drama "Heart Residence", Zhan Xiang has always loved Gu Qingyu unreservedly, even if he knows that she is married to the "white moonlight" in her heart, he has never let go.
As soon as he saw that Gu Qingyu's face was not right, he intentionally or unintentionally asked Feng Xiaoqin about her situation, and Feng Xiaoqin asked him if he was not dead to Gu Qingyu, but he pretended to be relaxed and said, I am just out of concern for my friends.
Feng Xiaoqin deliberately called out "Sister A" in front of him, unexpectedly, she just sat side by side with her and giggled and listened, reflexively jumped out a few meters away, and naturally kept a distance from her.
Zhan Xiang's reaction was entirely out of physical instinct, because he knew that first Gu Qingyu did not like Feng Xiaoqin, and second, he did not want Gu Qingyu to misunderstand how close the relationship between the two of them was.
Sanmao once said: No matter how close a friend is, you can't afford to lose it. Thinking that they are ripe, the result is regurgitated and isolated. Keeping a distance from the opposite sex is the minimum respect for love.
A few days ago, there was a hot search, saying that a wife was very uncomfortable because her husband's colleague sat in the co-driver. In fact, similar to this kind of female colleague rubbing the car to sit in the co-driver may have heard a lot in real life. Many men don't think so, think that a seat is just a seat, why should women go on the line.
If a man really loves you, he will know how to give his lover enough trust and security so that she will not be estranged and unhappy for an outsider.
02 He will appear as soon as you need him; when you don't need him, he will quietly withdraw
Zhan Xiang has been guarding Gu Qingyu as a spare tire for eight years, as a foreign company executive, Gu Qingyu has a proud high education, decent work, exquisite life, in the choice of mates, she naturally has her principles;
As a "local tycoon" who made his fortune by real estate, Zhan Xiang has been mixed in the three religions and nine streams for many years, in addition to money, he and Gu Qingyu are completely on the same level spiritually.
This is also the most fundamental reason why Gu Qingyu can't look up to him, after all, such an excellent woman like her, there is no shortage of money at all, when choosing the other half, the most important thing is the fit of the souls of both sides.
But as a spare tire, Zhan Xiang is undoubtedly the most qualified, he always knows how to please her, accompany her when she needs her most, enlighten her when she is frustrated, and help her when she is in difficulty.
When he learned that her confession to Shi Yuan was rejected, he even played a play with her, letting Shi Yuan take the initiative to propose, and then he "hid his merit and name" and silently withdrew from the world of the two.
Zhan Xiang loves Gu Qingyu is something that the whole world knows, although he will also be poor mouth, but he will always know how to stop at the right time, when Gu Qingyu needs, he will appear at the first time; when she does not need him, he will quietly withdraw.
Keigo Higashino said in "Relief Grocery Store": If you really love each other, you will definitely not be able to help yourself.
The man who truly loves you will express his love with actions, and you will see his sincerity and affection in his "irrational" behavior.
03 Blatantly love you, but it won't put pressure on you
When Gu Qingyu got married, Zhan Xiang said to her: Congratulations, after twenty years, you have finally fulfilled your wish. I bless you forever.
From then on, he no longer waited for her on her way home, no longer asked her to dinner every five minutes, no longer pestered her, but always waited for her not far from her.
He loves blatantly, but without causing her trouble or stress.
Zhou Guoping once said: "Loving a person is actually a pain in the heart of a person, love deeply, the potential father or mother will inevitably participate, but infatuation is not painful, such love still stays in the senses, not deep into the heart." ”
Too paranoid and too enthusiastic feelings, often let people reject thousands of miles, really love a person, is to know how to hurt her, he will grasp the measure, let you understand his heart, but will not be too much psychological pressure and trouble.
04 Conclusion
In the process of love, many women often ask men whether they love themselves or not, so as to determine each other's intentions, but true love is never said by mouth, but hidden in his actions.
Men and women interact, women can not just rely on a few good words to lose judgment, whether a man loves you, not whether he puts "I love you" on his mouth every day, but to see his words and deeds, he will give you enough time and space, respect your every choice, let you feel his uniqueness to you all the time.
Finally, I also hope that all those who are loved by others can cherish that fate, and do not regret it until they lose it like Gu Qingyu.