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Zhou Guoping is a famous contemporary scholar, writer and philosophical researcher.
People say that inner beauty is real beauty. Many people pursue a delicate face, which is understandable, but what must be known is that the face is not the only one of our external images, how a life will be expressed in temperament, and a person's temperament is dignified, so that others do not care about his appearance, whether he is beautiful or ugly.
There are very few people in the world who don't care about their appearance at all. In general, young people care more than the older ones, and women care more than men. Since almost all national cultures praise women's beauty as a value and judge them as a criterion, and in real life, the beauty and ugliness of their appearance will indeed have a considerable impact on their marital, social and even professional encounters, then they seem to have no choice. Young people are still shallow in entering the world, and they cannot help but pay attention to the shallow level of interpersonal relationships and pay attention to the superficial impressions of others on themselves, so they are also more sensitive in appearance.
Caring about looks is more of a vanity than caring about fame, because looks are further removed from a person's true value than with fame. Modern plastic surgery has been able to turn one face into another, but underneath the new face is still the old man. If he does not pass through the mirror, he cannot see his own appearance, and often he cannot remember his own appearance, and this does not prevent him from doing everything. The mirror represents the eyes of others, and when a person looks in the mirror, he is examining himself with the eyes of others, so in fact, what he cares about is how others perceive themselves. Depending on the degree of his vanity, this other person can be a person of the same coin, the general opposite sex, or a large and general group of people.
Vanity is inevitable, how to live easy to grow old, red face is difficult for a long time, this is a law that no one can escape. Fortunately, the vast majority of people will gradually adjust their psychology as they get older and overcome their vanity in appearance. In fact, at different ages, the content of appearance is changing, and people's feelings and evaluations of appearance are also changing. The younger the age, the more physical and physiological the beauty of appearance, and therefore the more similar it is to each other. For example, the dolls in the world are all equally cute, which is a kind of beauty similar to that of small animals, expressed in childish expressions, delicate skin, and cute movements. The beauty of young boys and girls is full of the same youthful vitality, but we can also find that some of them are more attractive because of the excellent personalities that are forming. For the appearance of an adult, we generally do not give high praise to its physical aspects, such as the structure of its facial features and the texture of the skin, but pay more attention to the spiritual connotation it shows.
Schopenhauer said: "The appearance of man is a picture of the inner expression, and the appearance expresses and reveals the entire character characteristics of the person. At least in terms of the appearance of adults, his view is justified. Over a long period of time, a person's habitual mental state and way of behaving are always accompanied by expressions that he is not aware of, and these expressions, after countless repetitions, will be engraved on his face and even leave special wrinkles. What is even more difficult to hide is the look, a person with an empty heart can never pretend to be wise. We've probably all met people whose vulgarity is known at a glance, as if it were written on their faces. Similarly, when we are confronted with the portrait of Einstein, even if we have not read his writings, we can judge him as a wise man by his tolerant, humorous, slightly sad expression. Schopenhauer also gave an example: a group of noble gentlemen came to the court of the Duke of Visconti, and Visconti asked his young son, who was the wisest, and the child looked around for a moment and went to take Petrarch's hand and bring the Renaissance giant to his father. Interestingly, the Chinese sage Confucius and the Western sage Socrates were extremely eccentric-looking people, but history has left no record of what people think they are ugly.
In short, after reaching the age of maturity, what is really attractive in a person's appearance are those factors that show spiritual qualities such as wisdom, virtue, upbringing, and personality. At least as far as men are concerned, it's basically a consensus that smart women appreciate men in the same way. So, should women also appreciate themselves in this way, or should men also appreciate women in this way? I think so. Even the most beautiful people can't avoid a twilight day, and no matter how clever the beauty in the world is, it can't make the beauty stay forever. Therefore, it is at least unwise for women to remain bent on flattering people after middle age. What can make a woman attractive for a long time is also the spiritual characteristics in the appearance, although a woman with a noble temperament may not be as enchanting as many men as the beautiful woman of the wonderful age, but she can gain the universal admiration of men and women. Please don't say that this is not a kind of feminine charm, neither male charm nor female charisma is a purely physiological trait, but always a combination of factors. On the other hand, both men and women must follow nature's arrangements and harvest different fruits in different seasons.
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