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I saw a news item on the Internet that a college student who was studying in a foreign country played with his mobile phone until he fell asleep at night and accidentally dialed his mother's phone.
When she woke up, she found that her mother had sent her 38 messages and made 22 phone calls, which made her feel painful for a while.
The mother saw her reply, and the heart that had been hanging all night could finally be put down. In fact, her mother is like most mothers under the heavens.
The greatest thing in this world is the mother. They are only concerned about their children, and never feel sorry for themselves.
1. Are we really unable to communicate?
I remembered watching a video of a child arguing with her mother, and when the mother reasoned with the child, the little girl cried bitterly.
While crying, she said to her mother: "In fact, you love me, not as long as I love you." Because you only started loving me in your twenties, and I loved you from birth. ”
In fact, in real life, we can often see all kinds of parents and children quarreling and fighting, and even some have become hurt.
Parents do not understand, knowing that they have worked so hard to create a better living environment for their children, why are they still not satisfied?
Children also do not understand why parents only see work and grades, and they never care about everything else.
In this mutual resentment, many people grow up, and the misunderstanding between them and their parents becomes deeper and deeper, even to the point of irreconcilability.
But in fact, in essence, Mom and Dad are still Mom and Dad, they are just not good at communicating with their children, but they really love you.
They just want to express their love in their own way, but this love is often misinterpreted, and even becomes a thorn hidden in the emotional experience.
2. Do they not love me?
In the hit drama "Crime Hunting Atlas", when Shen Yi's art teacher, Teacher Xu, chose to go to the extreme, he gave all his income to the so-called son.
And this son Xu Siwen, who is far away, actually does not understand all this from the beginning to the end, and he thinks that he is a child who has been forgotten by his parents.
In Xu Siwen's eyes, her mother had amnesia and didn't even know who she was. In his father's eyes, there was only Shen Yi and the art he loved.
In my parents' little house, there were photographs and paintings everywhere, but there was never a trace of myself. This made him hate his parents.
Unbeknownst to him, however, his mother had written all his preferences on sticky notes, and that his father did not contact him and did not want him to disturb his life.
Teacher Xu is not afraid of being hated by children, he is afraid that he will become a burden on children. He only wanted his children to be safe and happy.
In fact, many parents and children in the world can't communicate because they are not good at seeing problems from each other's point of view.
Parents don't feel how exhausting it is to go to school, and don't understand how children can have so much vulnerability and things to talk about.
Children will not be grateful for the meticulous care of their parents, or for letting her live a carefree life, and their eyes are only their own emotions.
It is precisely because of this existence that the emotional communication between parents and children is affected. It's not that they don't love, it's that they love each other too much.
3. If you have something to say, you can say it directly
A long time ago, I saw the writer Zhou Guoping and his daughter tweet some ways of getting along, he never had a towering father image, but tried to make himself a friend of the child.
If you have any questions, you can ask your dad. He will not blindly complain about what the child is not doing well, but find a way to find the key to the problem.
During those holidays, other children were busy attending various cram schools, and Tweet could do what they liked, because Zhou Guoping felt that interest was the best teacher.
I remembered that I had watched a long time ago that my father recorded the growth history of his daughter, and he had always been the participant and witness to the growth of his daughter.
He is willing to think from the child's point of view, rather than blindly ordering the child to be the person he sees as great.
In fact, in the hearts of many parents who get along well with their children now, they have never regarded their children as a child, but as an adult.
When Qi Wei and Lee Seung-hyun once talked about their education for Lucky, they said: "In our eyes, she is as equal as us." ”
Therefore, they will not blindly spoil any habits of the child, but tell her how to get everything she wants through her own efforts.
There is something we can talk about openly and honestly, everyone is born equal, and no one can really override others.
4. He loves you very much and so do you
In the opening story, the mother said this: "Thank you for treating your mother as a friend and telling me all your joys and sorrows." ”
In fact, the mother is also the first time to be a mother, and where she does not do well, she also needs someone to guide her. Similarly, you are also a child for the first time, and the problems that are wrong need to be corrected
A good parent-child relationship is actually like a closest friend, we are equal and care about each other. Because I know you love me as much as I love you.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.