Zhou Guoping: Actually, this is very normal, it means that you didn't know each other at the beginning. There is a Western proverb: we come together because we don't understand, and we break up because we understand.
Of course, if this always happens, you should reflect on whether it was too rash at first, and whether it was too demanding later.
Young people are easy to make friends, start thinking of friendship as perfect, and then use this perfect standard to demand friendship, and the result must be wrong. In friendship, there can be no tolerance and respect for the differences of both parties.
Q: I am a sensitive and fragile person, easily touched and easily hurt in love. I hope you can tell me how I can forget the memories of hurt and learn to be numb and less easily touched, so as to find true love and joy.
Zhou Guoping: Forgetting and numbness are two different things from finding true love, and true love must contain pain. Vulnerability is often caused by being too dependent on others, and if you are self-loving enough, you have both the ability to withstand misfortune and the ability to strive for happiness.
Q: Teacher Zhou, is marriage a mandatory question? What should I do if I haven't met the girl I like, but my age is increasing?
Zhou Guoping: Is marriage a mandatory question, I think so, if you are sure that you live in society, people will always ask you this question, but you can have different answers, there is no standard answer, not that there is only the only answer, in your case, you have not met someone you like, now you can make a negative answer, but this question does not say "once and for all", not that you can not answer after answering today, there is always a chance to make another answer.
I don't think marriage is the driving force that drives the world and the universe forward, of course, from human beings are inseparable from marriage, no matter what form of marriage, primitive society group marriage or to the current monogamy, of course, human beings are also inseparable from this way of men and women between men and women, so that it can continue. I don't know what the dynamics of the universe are, it should be God, so if God is in your heart, you don't have to care too much about whether there is marriage or not.
Q: I think happiness is the most reliable thing to find the answer by yourself, and only you know what happiness you want. This path of finding happiness is destined to be extraordinary, bitter, sweet, laughing, and tears, but happiness never refuses to come, sometimes it just arrives late. Is that correct?
Zhou Guoping: Your understanding of happiness has two points, one is to know what you want, it is very good to have this kind of self-confidence, know what your life goal is, strive for what you want in the process of achieving this goal, and you will feel happy when you get those things, which is a very good state.
Another point is that your goal is clear, but your path to happiness is extraordinary, happiness sometimes arrives late, but it is only late, and you believe that the thing you strive for will be obtained sooner or later, such a mentality is very good.
Of course, specifically, everyone wants differently, but there is still an evaluation standard in this. Some people may want a more mediocre or utilitarian goal, and they may not feel happy after they get it.
Therefore, I emphasize that on the road to pursuing happiness, the goals set for yourself should be more of an inner and spiritual goal, and its realization can bring you a real feeling of happiness.
Q: Teacher Zhou, people with great spiritual differences, such as Mr. and Mrs. Gandhi, Mrs. Gandhi are illiterate, but they have a happy love between them, does this prove that spiritual similarity is not a necessary condition for love?
Zhou Guoping: I think so, the height, purity, and richness of a person's spiritual level have nothing to do with whether he is illiterate or not, whether he is an intellectual or not, like Mrs. Hu Shi is also illiterate. There will be some of this, especially in the countries of the East.
Of course, in my opinion, this may still be a pity! Because if there is a spiritual similarity, I think it would be better to have a particularly positive exchange. This is still related to a person's level of knowledge.
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Introduction: "Age is a Rumor" is a new collection of essays by writer Zhou Guoping after seven years of absence. The author has realized his life and shared his thoughts and interpretations with readers from different dimensions of spirit, self, life, culture, literature, reading, education and philosophy. More than 70 years of life wisdom has personally conveyed: age is a rumor, just as it does not exist, people live in the present, the current state is young, is young. No matter what age people are, there is only one thing they should do and can do, and that is to live every day.
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