The surname dispute has sparked a big debate around feminism, how to think about "feminism"?
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Release on 2022-03-1320:20
Philanthropist, lover of the emotional field
concern
I don't know if you have any impressions:
In 2020, papi sauce (real name Jiang Yilei), who became an internet celebrity by shooting videos, did not send any dynamics for a long time after giving birth to a child, until Mother's Day
That day
，
Shared a photo of holding a son in her arms and lamented the difficulty of parenthood:
This is the first Mother's Day after Papi Sauce became a mother, and only when you become a mother really understands what Mother's Day means to themselves. Therefore, the first Mother's Day in papi sauce's life, sent a little sigh, many netizens sent blessings on her dynamic.
What people didn't expect was that it was originally just a slight complaint or a childish sentence:
Papi sauce became so tired after giving birth to the baby, but the child still followed the father's surname
But she was "scolded" on the hot search, which triggered a big debate around feminism:
Netizen Nana Kiomi:
Papi sauce come on! ~What is the child's last name
Myself
Ah, the right... Feminism is not equal to extreme feminism, it is that women have the right to choose, can choose to fight in the workplace, can also choose to get married and have children... Don't get biased by some extreme feminist belts!
Netizen Tong Zhi
:
First of all, do people want to follow their father and mother and have a relationship with you? A bunch of women said papi was ridiculous. Human rights independence is more important than independence of thought, right? Secondly, ladies give priority to the education we have received from kindergarten to college, right? Does this discriminate against women? Calling others donkeys, first think about how to empty the in your head.
Netizen Xia Xuan Xuan Xuan Xuan Xuan Xuan Hmm
Independent women are children if I want to have children, I don't want to have children without children, I am happy to let the child be called whatever surname he wants. I have womb morality, and I decided that if I give birth to him/her, I will be responsible for him/her to the end, love education, and never give up. I know I'm tired and haggard before after giving birth, but I'm happy! Is this an independent woman?!
Netizen "Dream Dew Little Baby O"
What is feminism? Is it a slave society now? Personally, I think it's independent
freely
Women are financially independent, spiritually independent, and independent in life. On the basis of these independences, there are no contradictions and conflicts in having a loving life and a family. In the extension of having a baby, according to tradition, personal emotional choices or follow the father's surname, why not? Why can't people be free and enjoy this freedom and respect while they are spiritually and economically independent?
......
Should a child follow his father's surname or his mother's surname? Is it palinderic to have children with their father's surname? Is it subservient to the traditional customs of male power? Do feminists have to let their children take their mother's surname? A variety of views are fiercely exchanged.
Because of the child's surname problem, papi sauce is on the hot search, what does it mean?
Maybe with no heart, looking at the heart; maybe papi sauce is really a "feminist" as others say.
What does this big debate around "feminism" caused by the problem of children's surnames really say?
Coincidentally, I
Myself
Child, it is precisely the second son who also follows my surname as a mother. Am I a "feminist" who has to be attacked by others?
I don't approve! I am not a feminist, I am a little girl, I know that marrying chickens follows chickens and dogs follow dogs, and husbands sing with wives. I know that a happy family needs two people to work together to run... But why is my second son with my last name? I think
target
Quite simply, two children, the eldest with the father's surname, the second with the mother's surname,
No
What's better? What's wrong with that?
Recently, just happened to see
The book "Feminism" written by Li Yinhe, Ph.D. in Sociology at the University of Pittsburgh and Postdoctoral Fellow in Sociology at Peking University.
In the book, she says:
"This storm shows that feminist ideas and the concept of equal rights for men and women have penetrated into all corners of people's daily lives, making people question the age-old gender order: Why do children have to follow their father's surname? Why does housework have to be done by women? Why do customs and traditions require male and female subordinates, male superiority and inferiority? How did this gender order come about? How should we view it? Should this gender order be changed? Can it be changed? With the changing status of the sexes in Chinese society, these issues have been put on the agenda. ”
Feminism: Feminist theories are endless, and in the final analysis, it is one sentence: to achieve equality between men and women in all mankind
The first time I took Li Yinhe's "Feminism", I looked at the cover, which was not my favorite type, and I originally thought I couldn't watch it. So, casually flip it over. Unexpectedly, it was such a casual flip that when she mentioned a feminist debate caused by the birth name of an Internet celebrity child in the preface to the new edition, it immediately resonated with me, making me particularly interested in this book, and I read it in one breath.
After reading it, I went to pay attention to Ms. Li Yinhe's social platform and searched for all her pictures and videos about marriage, gender and gender.
This is the first time I have read Li Yinhe's book, and I have heard it before because of Teacher Li's sentence: "The monogamous marriage system violates human nature!" The institution of marriage may die out. "And let an originally popular variety show be banned!"
At that time, many netizens participated in this "debate" and quarreled on the Internet. It is precisely because so many people are involved in this debate that the show has also been removed for various reasons.
In fact, everyone misunderstands the meaning of Teacher Li Yinhe, from many of Teacher Li's texts and videos, it is not difficult to find that what she really wants to express is that "the marriage system has begun to decline and has begun to go downhill." ”
When we talk about women, what are we talking about?
Should it be a woman who talks about housework? Talking about children should only follow the father's name, and it is not advisable to follow the mother's surname? Talking about women should have the appearance of a woman, and if you come and go along, scold and don't return the mouth, and can't fight back? ......
Are women inherently indebted to men? The woman slightly wanted to say a few words of justice for herself, even
a little
Are you not qualified to complain?
In the new era, I very much agree with Teacher Li's concept:
When we talk about women, what are we talking about?
Do women want to be as tough and rational as men, or do they want to maintain women's gentleness and sensibility?
The correct concept of women should not be affected by the stereotype of gender, that what women's nature should be, what male nature is, everyone is an independent self.
For men, the correct concept of femininity is not to objectify women.
So feminism is an affirmative action that achieves equality between men and women in all mankind.
Society is developing, the times are renewing, and I hope that everyone's thinking will no longer be bound by the past idea of male superiority and female inferiority.
Housework, couples do it together, who has time to do more;
With children, the couple participates together and cultivates children with love;
When it comes to the issue of a child's surname, the law stipulates that the father or mother may follow the surname. Therefore, as long as the couple discusses well, it will be done;
Feminism is a book for everyone, don't just think it's for women. Because, this is a book that records human development, the feminist movement in history, and the real problems related to the happiness of millions of families. Everyone cannot escape the identity binding of gender.
Only when gender equality, men respect women, and women understand men's difficulties, can society be more harmonious and families more harmonious. The elderly and children can rely on the old, the small have companions, and live in the environment of love!
Feminism is not defined by some people as "feminism", come on!