Wen | Mi Xiaomu
Some time ago, the news of domestic violence came out, and there were different voices. One of the male protagonists once took the initiative to mention divorce, because of their high income, they looked down on their wives. In the video sent, there was an old man next to him, who just carried the child away from the scene and did not go up to give some help to the beaten woman. After the news came out, some people felt that the women who were beaten had done something bad in themselves.
Whether it is the male protagonist in the news, or the old man on the side, or the woman who thinks that she has been beaten, she is wrong. In them, there is an invisible shadow of "male superiority and female inferiority".
These two days I watched Li Yinhe's "Feminism", which has such a sentence:
The inferiority of men over women is already a well-established fact, and people do not even feel its existence in daily life, until you replace the male in a common statement with a woman, and you can find the shocking absurdity of the logic of daily life.
As a sociologist, Li Yinhe has a very rational and objective discussion of the historical development of feminism in this "Feminism". As a woman, reading this "Feminism" will be very rewarding.
The plight of women
The plight of women has a long history.
According to the film of the same name by British children's literature writer Roald Dahl, Matilda, there are two fascinating scenes.
One scene is that when Matilda is six and a half years old, she is looking forward to going to school. But her parents insisted that Matilda was only four years old. And Matilda's parents don't think Matilda needs to go to school, they need their daughter to be able to collect mail at home.
Another scene is that the female teacher, because of Matilda's mathematical talent, visited her home to persuade Matilda's parents to give Matilda a better education, but she was questioned by Matilda's mother.
Matilda's mother asked the female teacher, as a female teacher, what is the use of having so much education as a woman, such as the female teacher in front of her? It is better to marry a good husband like her. Matilda's idea, although in the movie, is still heard on certain occasions even in this day and age.
Matilda, Matilda's female teacher, in the environment of the film, is facing the dilemma of women's education.
In the movie "Balloon", the heroine originally did not want to have three children, but because all the people felt that the child in the womb was the reincarnation of the old man, they were asked to give birth. The most uncomfortable thing is that when the heroine finally made up her mind to make a decision, the moment she lay on the operating table, the heroine's eldest son rushed into the operating room and let her give birth to the child.
"Balloon" seems to be a very common story in Tibetan areas, but when I finish watching it, my heart is depressed. The heroine in the movie "Balloon" encountered the dilemma of female fertility.
In the documentary "Wonderful Egg Birth", one of the real cases made people look at it with difficulty. In order to have a child, the woman had to go to the needle, and after the failure, the two separated. The former husband actually proposed that the cost of the medical treatment should be paid by the woman. In the documentary "The Wonderful Egg Birth", women will be seen facing the difficulties of childbearing.
In fact, women's survival dilemma is not limited to education and childbearing, but also exists in other aspects. Such a dilemma is deeply rooted. Li Yinhe said in Feminism:
Why is sexism still present in modern society? The main reason is that sexism is deeply rooted in culture, which has been around for thousands of years.
I think of Xiao Hong's "The Legend of Hulan River".
When the little reunion daughter-in-law in "The Legend of Hulan River" was beaten by her mother-in-law, her mother-in-law still felt that she was doing the right thing, because she felt that it was for the good of the little reunion daughter-in-law.
Why does the mother-in-law of the little reunion daughter-in-law feel that she beat the little reunion daughter-in-law for the good of the other party? Because in her opinion, the small reunion daughter-in-law did not meet the female standards of that era, and playing the small reunion daughter-in-law was for her own good. The mother-in-law of the small reunion daughter-in-law, the idea of "male superiority and female inferiority", has long been deeply rooted in the bone marrow.
Sexism is deeply engraved in the bones of some people, and some will even be passed down from generation to generation. As the Danish psychotherapist Ils Sander mentions in "The Right Shyness," sometimes the reason a person feels ashamed is probably learned from the culture they live in and their parents. A person's idea of "male superiority over female inferiority" will also be invisibly influenced by the concept of ancestors.
Regarding the development process of feminism, there is a very methodical analysis in "Feminism", and after reading it, you will have a clear understanding of feminism.
The Awakening of women
As Li Yinhe said in Feminism:
Gender equality is a megatrend that no one can stop.
Some time ago, I watched the TV series "Ebola Frontline", in which the girl, saw the reporter played by Mao Xiaotong, only to find that women can live such a life. In the girl's impression, the woman can only be at home, just like her mother, her grandmothers and grandmothers. Seeing a different female life, I realized that girls can live an independent and wonderful life.
Women's life choices, sometimes, may be like the girls in Ebola Frontline, that need a moment of awakening. The spiritual mentor Louise Hay, like the girls on TV, followed her mother's example. Louise Hay's mother, lived in a time when women's status was very low, but one day, Louise Hay woke up. Since then, Louise Hay has worked hard to live a completely different life from her mother, and has influenced many women with her own strength.
The awakening of women's consciousness and the efforts of many people have led to the living environment of today's women. All people work for a common goal: to fight for equality between men and women. Reading Feminism, you will understand the core of feminism.
Closer to equality between men and women
Female stereotypes persist in many aspects of life. Reading this book of Feminism is to make yourself have a clearer understanding of feminism. As a mother, I have a clearer direction for parenting.
Wang Xiao shared her parenting experience in "The Wish To Write Down Is Easier to Achieve". Wang Xiao also has a daughter, in the process of raising her daughter, she will consciously help her daughter and break the gender restriction. I like a sentence that Wang Xiao said: breaking the restrictions of gender is to break the restrictions of her more choices.
On the matter of dressing, when the daughter and Wang Xiao discussed, girls should wear pink clothes and skirts; boys should wear blue clothes and not skirts. The answer given by Wang Xiao follows her "breaking the gender restriction" in her children's education. What Wang Xiao said to her daughter was that no matter what boys and girls, as long as they liked, they could wear clothes of all colors, even boys, they could also wear skirts.
The child's values are deeply influenced by their parents. Wang Xiao's own upbringing was influenced by her parents. Wang Xiao's parents have not mentioned how girls should ask for what to ask for since they were young. Looking back on the past, Wang Xiao is very grateful to her parents for their nurturing and helping her save "the cost of breaking the barrier of self-gender".
Wang Xiao is lucky to have a very good pair of parents. Wang Xiao continued her parents' parenting methods for her to her daughter. Women, who should be proud of women.
Families with daughters, understand feminism, and help girls reduce the "cost of breaking down the barrier of self-sex." Families with sons, understand feminism, and learn to truly respect women. I believe that with the efforts of our generation, the future will be closer to equality between men and women in the true sense.
Reading "Feminism", you will understand "feminism" more thoroughly.
Happy reading.
I am Mi Xiaomu, with two babies at home, and I love to read.