Wen | Mi Xiaomu
Recently, I watched a sad news story where the search for relatives ended his life. After the matter came out, when the group was discussing this topic, there was a voice that was very different. Some people say that little boys should not choose to hurt themselves, but to make themselves stronger. This sentence is uncomfortable to listen to. How can a teenager be required to become strong alone after so much suffering alone? Such a request is not reasonable.
The healthy growth of children needs the protection and help of adults. In the movie "Matilda", it tells the story of a girl who has not been welcomed by her parents since birth, and her growth experience is very hard. Matilda's heart is already very strong, and what makes her life happy is the kind and kind female teacher matilda met, not the one she did alone.
The hardships of life, if you let the child taste and grow up alone, it is too harsh. The healthy growth of children is indispensable to the protection of adults, just like the female teacher of Matilda.
Fortunately, the news that appears is only a small part. More adults are thinking about how to give their children a better future, and how to make children more confident about the future. Diana Taverna, the pioneer of the new American educational concept, shared this idea in the book "Preparation":
The best thing for children is to tell them clearly what general skills they must have in order to grow up smoothly; the best thing for children is that we use every day and every minute to help them develop these skills.
Children's future needs to have different abilities. He Fan's book "Variable 2: The Tengnuo of a Big Country" mentions that considering children's education from the perspective of end-game thinking will look farther. What is the ultimate goal of children's education? The basic is physical and mental health, followed by the ability to support yourself, lifelong learning, discover problems, express yourself, and so on.
These abilities, to a large extent, are inseparable from a person's way of thinking. A person's way of thinking is hidden in every little thing in life.
How to face the ridicule of growing up?
Say two things about the height of your child.
One is related to my family's second eldest. Because he was in line at the kindergarten, all in the first place. Once, a child pointed at him and said that he was the first in line, a small man. After saying that, he laughed loudly.
It was the first time the children made fun of it, and then the teacher did some processing to make the children apologize. Since then, in the second class, no child has ever made fun of him because of his height.
I still remember that when the teacher communicated with me at that time, I said, don't care too much about this matter, others say other people's, let the child's own heart become strong.
Another thing, also because of height.
My eldest, when he was in the third grade, was also teased by his classmates. It was a taller child, because of a small matter, began to verbally attack my boss, which in turn involved the personal attacks of our whole family.
I remember that at that time, when the boss and I talked about this matter, my advice was not to pay too much attention. However, the child is upset because his family has been degraded.
Never take your child's "evil" lightly. In kindergarten, children can establish correct values and learn a good way of dealing with the world through the teaching of teachers and parents. However, at the age of 10, it will be difficult to change through the verbal teaching of teachers and parents. The eldest classmate, in the school has always been arrogant, and later, once with other students, there are scenes of verbal discord, either beating people with their hands or opening their mouths to attack others, and the words spoken are very hurtful.
This may also be the reason why many people emphasize that "0-12 years old give children a good character". When I was young, my personality and attitude towards the world were good at correcting deviations. When you reach adolescence, it takes more energy, and the effect is not as good as when you were a child.
Two similar things, the idea of adults, is not to care too much, you can become stronger. But forgot how to do "don't care too much"? This step is also skillful.
In the face of ridicule from others, how can we not care? The recently chosen set of "Great Thinking" for children gives a specific method: distinguishing between facts and opinions.
What are facts? Statements that can be proven. What is a point of view? A person's perception or feelings about something.
Take the phrase that children make fun of height: "You are all first", this is a fact. The second half of the sentence "You little man", this is the point.
For facts, we need to learn to look objectively. And those who blurt out malicious criticisms do not have to be taken to heart. Learning to distinguish between "facts and opinions" is the way we should share things with our children.
A simple sentence of "don't care too much, become stronger yourself", after all, something is missing. Learn to "distinguish between facts and opinions" as a way of thinking, and in the future, no matter how degrading others are encountered, children can be treated rationally.
Facing the ridicule of others correctly and learning to distinguish between "facts and opinions" is just one of the thinking skills shared in "Great Thinking". In "Great Thinking", there are many children who will use it in the process of growing up, such as facing "challenges, mistakes, differences, criticisms" and other very practical methods and techniques.
The way of thinking and the way of dealing with things shared in "Great Thinking" will benefit children once they master it. "Great Thinking", as a New Year's gift for children, is the right choice.
As parents, it is impossible for us to protect our children's lives. The road of life, children always have to rely on themselves to come out. However, when the child encounters some confusion, it is also necessary for us to provide some good methods, some good books, and bring some light to the child. Ultimately, I hope that the children can become the best version of themselves.
Believe me, children will have a great harvest from reading this set of "Great Thinking".
Happy reading.
I am Mi Xiaomu, with two babies at home, and I love to read.